Today I’m going to drop a giant meat clever on the subject of goal setting and why it doesn’t work for a LOT of people.
I’m also going to cover HOW you can achieve greatness without goal setting. Yes, it IS possible – and in many cases, it’s the ONLY way some people have EVER succeeded. Not only that, but every time these same people have set goals, they’ve failed.
Hmmm. Got your attention?
Good.
Before I go forward with you, I want to recap something I wrote last week in my article, Success Without Positive Thinking, specifically, regarding my references to the unconsciously successful person.
Here’s what I wrote (words in BOLD to be discussed):
“Person finds his passion. He begins to practice. HE REALIZES, early on, he has a “talent” for what he’s doing that is above and beyond the norm. IIDEAS COME TO HIM no matter what he’s doing. He eats, drinks, sleeps and showers in ideas. He doesn’t know who or what turned this on in him. It just IS. BASED UPON HIS OWN LEVEL OF AWARENESS, he doesn’t visualize, dream, imagine or “think positive” in any way about what he’s doing. He just does it.”
Okay, here floweth some additional material to chew on:
HE REALIZES – when you realize something, you recognize it. And how do you recognize it? You see it in your mind’s eye. You feel it in your body-mind. An A-HA moment is nothing more than a clear mental image that is emotionalized.
IDEAS COME TO HIM – In what form do ideas come to us? Via sounds? Via words? Or through mental images? If you get an idea to write a specific book, you may hear the words of the title ringing in your head – but you cannot write a book and complete it without having a mental image of the thing.
BASED UPON HIS OWN LEVEL OF AWARENESS – this phrase unlocks the key to understanding those who ‘unconsciously succeed.’ They don’t really know HOW they do it. They just do it. They’re unconscious of the fact that they think in pictures, emotionalize them and get to work. To them it’s “just do it” – and they really don’t care about the process they’re using because they’re too busy doing it.
Okay, now let’s go into the subject of goals and goal setting.
If you get an idea or have an idea to DO SOMETHING – you are carrying a mental picture in your brain about it. Whether you are consicous of this or not doesn’t matter. You ARE thinking in mental pictures ALL DAY LONG.
Some of our mental pictures are “just do it.” Others are more along the lines of “wait til tomorrow” or “someday I’ll.” Then there are mental pictures of “I CAN’T BECAUSE…”
Along these same lines, everyone with a functioning brain already has a series of goals he or she pursues each and every day. Most of these goals, regardless of whether they’re good for you or not, are achieved. EVERY DAY.
For example, each day, whether you’re AWARE of it or not, you have a goal to eat food and drink fluids. Before each meal that you’re making or buying for yourself, you form mental pictures of WHAT you want to eat. These images get emotionalized – and then you either prepare or buy the food.
Meal over. Goal completed.
Next, your goal is to watch tee-vee. You plop your rumpus on the couch and begin watching – once again, unconscious of the fact that your brain thinks about doing what you’re currently doing before you do it.
It’s on autopilot.
Next, you want to make a phone call to speak with your friend. The image of your friend comes to mind, you get charged up about calling her, and you do.
Somewhere along the lines you may have come up with the idea to get married.
Oh boy. This is a BIG IMAGE – and it is very highly emotionalized and charged. So much so that guess what? You probably don’t take out a yellow pad and write the goal. Nor do you craft the proposal lines in writing. Nor do you write out a plan of action. Nor do you read this goal outloud each day – along with the plan.
All you’re aware of is getting the idea, feeling a ton of emotion swirling within – and the next thing you know you might be doing insane and oftentimes idiotic things to make an big impression to your proposed bride in your proposal.
Even if you’re Mr. Shy, you will do things you would never do otherwise.
Wow.
So the question to me isn’t whether or not you have goals. It’s whether or not you will perform at your best by “setting goals.”
Based upon my own discoveries of my specific achievement processes – as well as many of those whom I coach, there is no ONE WAY to achieve an objective.
Here are some of the WAYS I’ve found to be valid:
1. Some people MUST put their goals in writing, create a plan and do their best to follow that plan.
2. Some people only need to write a few key words about their goal and hang it somewhere.
3. Others put NOTHING in writing. The goal/project/idea/whatever is in their mind and no one can stop them from thinking about it or taking action to get it accomplished.
4. Then there are those who have simple yet profound goals to “improve a little each day” in some activity they really like doing. They don’t have a written goal to be #1 in the whirld, nation, city or state – but by living in the NOW and taking care of the process involved in their NOW, they accomplish things that those with written goals cannot and will not reach.
5. And let us remember that everyone is achieving goals everyday based upon the mental images in mind and the actions taken. Naturally, some goals, like using drugs and alcohol to excess, are negative goals. Nevertheless, if you focus on them and act, you will get them done.
So what’s the takeaway from all of the above? It is EXACTLY what Dr. Maltz wrote about in Psycho-Cybernetics.
All of us have a self-image. And we cannot go beyond it. Our self-image is the operating system of our mind. It controls, directs and influences what we do each and every day.
If you’re one of the unconsciously successful “just do it” types – this means your self-image is deeply connected to doing the things that make you SUCCESSFUL.
If you feel blocked, if you feel like you cannot stop procrastinating, if you feel that you’d like to succeed but “can’t” – this means your self-image is wired for the negative. Without realizing it, your mental images are taking you away from what you say you want.
So the next question is, why doesn’t creating written goals and plans work for many people?
Here’s my 3-fold answer:
1. The formal setting of the goal and thinking about it takes you away from focusing on the process that’s going to help you get it done. Ultimately, a worthy goal is achieved by a process – not by putting it in writing.
2. When a person focuses on a specific goal, especially one with a time frame, he often causes himself to acquire tension, and tension is the enemy of success. With the added tension come unwanted thoughts that cause this person, once again, to lose sight of the process that is going to get him where he wants to go.
3. When a person uses formal goal setting, she may begin to doubt whether or not she CAN actually achieve it. When doubt creeps in, not to mention fear, worry and pity – you are no longer focused on the actions that create results.
All in all, whether you achieve positively or negatively, it is based upon your self-image – and a MAJOR part of a person’s self-image, is whether or not you can see yourself TAKING ACTION and doing the things you need to do in order to get the results you want.
If you cannot see and feel yourself involved in the process that is going to bring you the results you seek, then you’re most likely going to be a frustrated goal setter.
So self-image is KEY. It’s your roadmap to a better life. It’s your internal blueprint for where you’re going.
If yours is on “autopilot success” – then congratulations.
If it’s not, and this is the case with most people, then I suggest you fine tune it with Theatre of the Mind. Begin seeing yourself at your best. Begin to look into what you did to achieve in the past – and bring that REALIZATION into the present so you can ride the “autopilot success” track for the rest of your life.
Make your goal super simple.
Make it to continually improve your self-image.
That’s it.
Focus on the process of SEEING yourself doing whatever you love doing better and better and better.
If you’ll do this, the other goals, whether your write them out or not – have a far greater chance of becoming reality for you.
Yours,
Matt Furey
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P.P.S. This email, like so many of mine, was written spontaneously and is un-edited.
