F – Frustration
A – Anger and Aggression (excessive)
I – Insecurity
L – Loneliness
U – Uncertainty
R – Resentment
E – Emptiness
Now, the list shown above may not look like much, until you convert it into questions like, “How many times in the last 30 days have you felt frustrated about something going on in your life?”
Or, “Have you felt any resentment for something in your life over the last 30 days.”
It’s a tough question to face, I know. For many people, to even ponder this question is somewhat comical. I have recordings
of a live seminar conducted by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, wherein he asks this “resentment” question.
Guess what the response was from the crowd?
Laughter. Raucous laughter.
It was as if the laughter were saying, “Are you kidding me? The last 30 days? How about the last 30 minutes?”
The question Dr. Maltz asked gives you a glimpse of how much time a person can spend off-track in his or her emotional state.
And all the time you spend feeling frustrated, angry or resentful is actually taking you toward negative instead of positive goals. It’s causing more of what you don’t want.
It’s the equivalent of a quarterback being upset that he threw an interception in the first quarter when the game is tied in the fourth and his team has the ball.
When it comes to succeeding in this game called LIFE – it’s hard to go it alone. It helps to have someone guiding you away from the Failure Mechanism and toward the positive goals you want to achieve.
But it’s hard to know – it’s oftentimes hard to see how we derail ourselves.
This is where a good coach or mentor plays a key role in your life.
If you think you can get where you want to go – on your own – with absolutely zero positive outside influences or influencers – you’re pretending to be the one in a zillion who can do it that way.
If I take a few moments to think of all the great coaches I’ve had in my life – and there are many – the list would be long, indeed.
In addition to the coaches, I’ve had a ton of positive influencers – people who weren’t a coach – but who at various moments in time, were the perfect person at the right time, to help me go to the next level.
So make no mistake about it, if you find someone who is anti-coach, a person who claims you can and should “go it alone” – this person has influencers telling him such a thing.
I’d be foolish to think that all the things I currently know WOULD have been figured out by me and me alone, without a coach or outside influence.
At this point in time, I work with two different martial arts teachers – even though I’m a world champion (1997).
True, when I train and practice I CAN figure a lot of things out on my own – but this is because I have a coach who points me in the right direction.
In my opinion, the most important coach of all is the mental game coach.
Why?
Because after you’ve learned what to do physically – chances are you hold yourself back in some way.
Naaaah, nobody would ever hold himself back, right?
No one would ever stop herself due to fear, worry, self-doubt or some other negative reason.
No one would ever have self-defeating thoughts or feelings.
Everyone who knows WHAT to do follows the Nike slogan. They “Just Do It.”
Wouldn’t it be great if that really were the case.
Yet, it’s not.
And that’s why it’s so important to have someone guide you over and around the pitfalls of the Failure Mechanism.
It’s a fact that nothing in your life will change for the better unless YOU change on the inside for the better – FIRST.
This isn’t about “attracting success.” It’s about changing who you are INTERNALLY so you can pull what you want into your life.
Change how you think and feel WITHIN and you’ll change how your life flows on the outside.
Yours,
Matt Furey
P.S. I have an enrollment form up for Psycho-Cybnosis Coaching. There will be private as well as group coaching classes starting very soon. Let me know your preference.
