The question of the day:
Student: How do you act without trying?
Matt: The word ‘try” or “trying” is usually accompanied by excess tension or goal-resistance.
Most people do not see themselves doing better when the word “try” is added.
Instead, they see themselves trying (usually unsuccessfully) to do a thing.
Let’s go back to the baby again, shall we?
Does a baby “try” to learn how to speak? Or to roll over, crawl, stand up or walk?
There’s no trying involved in the baby’s actions. The baby simply follows what is natural.
Trying implies an unnaturalness to the equation.
“I’ll try to make it to the party tonight,” means the person is NOT going.
“I’ll see you there,” means you intend to go.
“I’m going to try to make more money,” means you don’t truly see yourself doing so..
“I’m going to” … or “I will…” – well, you can take those words to the bank.
Every time you catch yourself using the word “try” – or “trying” – stop yourself momentarily and remove the ‘t’ word from
your self-talk.
In so doing, you’ll be taking note of how things flow much more smoothly for you.
Matt Furey
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