Today when I was driving my daughter to dance camp, I asked her if she knew the most important word in the Chinese language; the word that much of the culture is centered around.
She shook her head “no.”
I replied, “It isn’t 好 Hǎo,” which means good.
It’s a word you’d least expect.
It’s the word 慢 (Màn} – pronounced like the Jamaican’s say man – mohn.
The term means “slow” or “slowly.”
Throughout the day people will use this word over and over. In fact, it’s common to say 慢 (Màn} twice before a verb. For example:
Eat slowly – man man chi.
Walk slowly – man man zou
Learn slowly – man man xue
It is this last phrase – 慢慢学习 {màn man xué} or learn slowly I’d like to comment on today, before I reveal to you the most evil word in the English language.
OK, you may wonder how learning slowly can be considered a good thing.
So let’s go back in time. How about when you were an infant.
At that time you absorbed more knowledge without trying than any other time in your life.
You were totally relaxed. You were living in the NOW.
No pressure. No hurry. No worry. No grades. No awards.
Just a whole lot of information you could absorb with ease – and without tension.
So I said to my daughter, “Do you realize that you learned English, Mandarin Chinese, as well as Shanghainese and Sichuanese (two other dialects) before age three – and you weren’t under any pressure to do so? You just absorbed what was around you because you were totally relaxed.”
She’d never pondered the thought, so I elaborated.
“When you study dance – or anything else, the same idea applies. If you’re under stress or tension – it’s difficult to learn. If you’re relaxed and engaged, you can learn quickly, even when you’re not trying to do so.”
I then told her about the most evil word in the English language.
“When you train today, remember to never TRY to learn anything. Just relax, be engaged and allow yourself to learn. But don’t TRY. You cannot TRY and successfully do anything. That’s why it’s the most evil word in any language – but especially English.”
“The word TRY will keep you from ever fulfilling any of your desires. You cannot TRY anything. You either do it or you don’t. As Yoda said in Star Wars, “Do or do not, there is no try.”
As I drove I coninued. “Throughout the rest of your life, whenever you hear anyone use the word try, understand that they’re probably NOT going to do what they say they’re trying to do.”
“If someone says he’ll TRY to make it to a party – he’s not going.”
“If someone says he’ll try to lose weight or stop drinking or stop smoking – or anything else – it not going to happen.”
“If someone tries to make money, he can’t.”
“And especially true is anyone trying to learn something. You cannot try to learn something. You either engage and learn it – or you don’t.”
Whether you are willing to slow down to speed up your learning of something, one thing is for certain, you cannot do it by trying to do it.
Eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary and you’ll notice yourself relaxing, getting into flow and being far more effective in all that you do.
Don’t believe me?
Then go ahead and test it.
Just don’t “try it.” If you “try” – you’re going to be disappointed.
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Yours,
Matt Furey
