that feel like a crushing weight.The pain can be psychological, physical and emotional – and usually is – all at once.
To escape this pain, we may create bigger barriers – and before we realize it, our whole life can become a maze where we’re doing little but side-stepping what we’re afraid of instead of attacking and going toward what we want.
Fearful people hang back. They don’t want to lead – and don’t want to be seen. They’re crying for someone to love them while
simultaneously building bigger barriers to being loved.
Amazing, but true.
The other day I told a parent who was struggling with his children:
“All children have a fear that Mom and Dad don’t love them – or won’t love them.
“But do you know what? All parents fear their children don’t love them – or won’t love them after they did their best to teach them all they knew.
“All children make mistakes and get corrected – but being corrected doesn’t mean your parents don’t love you. The exact opposite is true.
“I suggest you talk to your children and tell them exactly what I just said. Lay it on the line. Talk about FEAR and how it gets in the way.”
I can vouch for the above because I’ve done it with my own children. And it never fails. You cut to the chase. You talk about the four-letter word that destroys success before it can happen – or interferes with successful living.
Think about it: Why do we want our children to succeed? Why do we want to succeed ourselves?
It’s not just that we want to win – or be somebody. It’s that we’re deathly afraid that we aren’t somebody right now – and we better prove we are – or else our whole lives are nothing but failure.
Imagine a different scenario. A scenario in which you did whatever you did out of love for what you are doing – and the fear of not being loved or being somebody had NOTHING to do with it.
There’s a great baseball movie, For Love of the Game. In the end, a baseball is autographed by a big league pitcher. He’s retiring – but not before throwing the game of his life. Before his final inning – he grabs a ball and a pen and writes those five magic words – then signs his name.
He did not write:
“I Had to Do It”
or
“Fear Drove Me”
or
“My Dad Made Me”
or
“I Finally Proved I Am Somebody”
You come into this whirld with a light shining brightly within you – a spark of the divine.
And then, over time, sludge, slime, dirt, grease and mud cake the light and make it harder and harder to see.
All that stuff that blocks your light is FEAR.
Your parents fears, and everyone else’s – that YOU unknowingly took on.
The great truth though, is that regardless of how much dirt covers the light, the beam is still shining, doing it’s best to push through the crud.
And the crud can be removed, layer by layer, by retraining your mind to think in empowering pictures and re-equipping your body to feel empowering emotions.
This, my friend, is what you’ll learn from me when I teach you personally and privately how to coach yourself in the Theatre of the Mind and Psycho-Cybernetics programs.
In fact, these programs are pre-requisites to being mentored by me – that way we’re both on the same page.
If you already have these programs, and you’re ready to take the teachings to the next level to eliminate the fearful thinking from your life – then let’s talk about some Psycho-Cybnosis – coaching sessions – wherein you learn to dehypnotise yourself from false beliefs – like the FEAR response that causes so much pain in so many peoples’ lives.
Let your light shine. Let’s remove the crud and bring forth the REAL YOU who plays the game of life for “the love of it” – and for no other reason.
Yours,
Matt Furey
P.S. A typical fear response to the above would go like this: “But if I did things out of love – then I wouldn’t …..”
Keep in mind, if you hear a similar voice – FEAR stands for… “False Evidence Appearing Real.”
