It’s almost too simple to be believed, yet it’s true.
Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or anxious, you are mentally picturing the wrong thing.
Most of the time, the “thing” you are picturing is yourself and the corresponding erroneous notions of not being good enough, smart enough, talented enough, and so on.
In short, you don’t believe in yourself – and you think you should.
Why?
Because that’s what everyone has told you.
“You need to believe in yourself. If you would just believe in yourself, you could do so much better.”
Today, I’m here to tell you that there’s a way out of the maze. And it’s not sitting around working on your personal beliefs.
This is a realization I arrived at one day when I watched my son and daughter accomplish feats that neither of them believed they could accomplish, beforehand. Yet, both of them did.
My son batted .506 his junior year in high school with a 24-game hitting streak. Did he believe he was going to do this ahead of time? Absolutely not.
My daughter’s involvement in ballet grew to the point where she wanted to learn pointe toe and eventually showcase her skills in The Nutcracker, even though she doesn’t have your typical ballet body.
How did the two of them accomplish these objectives if they didn’t believe they were going to?
It’s simple: They suspended their personal beliefs on the matter. They did not focus on whether or not they could or could not do it. Instead, they put their focus on the mental pictures that lead to the finish line. In short, they visualized and imagined being where they wanted to be.
I’m sure that if my son and daughter sat around thinking about their personal beliefs about their goals, they would have felt a sense of overwhelm.
Why do I say this? I say it because of all the people I have seen who are focused on themselves instead of the objective. And guess what happens to them? They get overwhelmed with negative emotions.
Their focus is on whether they are good enough, likable enough, credible enough, tall enough, fit enough, well-dressed enough, ad infinitum, ad nauseam.
Meanwhile, someone who never thinks about any of the above, someone who is far less talented, good looking, etc. focuses on the objective and nails it.
Funny, eh?
Well then, what’s the way out of this mess?
It begins by reversing the erroneous notions you were taught. And the way to begin reversing them is by practicing Dao Zou – a moving meditation technique I learned over 15 years ago that I use to eliminate negative emotions of every kind.
Why do I recommend this program? I recommend it because it combines movement with visualization and deep breathing.
In short, you’re practicing what I wrote about in Theatre of the Mind, while you’re on the go. This means you’re nailing two objectives with one arrow.
One of my coaching members has been practicing Dao Zou for nearly ninety straight days, without a miss. To say his life has been transformed would be underplaying the reality of the situation.
As you move, suspend your beliefs about can or cannot, about believe or believe not. Just follow the program and you will make your own discoveries.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Psycho-Cybernetics.com
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Why Limiting Beliefs Are a Crock
Over and over, we’ve been told we have “limiting beliefs,” and these beliefs represent where we are in life.
The prevailing presumption is that limiting beliefs are a “problem” that must be fixed if we want to be successful.
Instead of viewing them as a new starting point on the road of creation, we cringe at the thought of having them at all. This puts the focus on ourselves instead of putting it on what we want to accomplish.
The questions I propose are as follows:
1. Is it really necessary to focus on your personal limiting beliefs?
2. Can you bypass your limiting beliefs and become successful in spite of them?
Think about these questions for a short spell and see if you can come up with something you succeeded in, even though you didn’t necessarily believe you had the qualities necessary to pull it off.
I’m betting you can.
I have a client who dropped nearly 100 pounds over the past year. For much of that time he’s been telling me, “I can’t believe it. I can’t believe how the weight came off so easily. I can’t believe how it’s staying off.”
Never once, not even a single time, have I interrupted him to say, “Don’t say that. You must believe in yourself.”
This man is living proof that the key to his weight loss success wasn’t predicated on whether he believed he could or couldn’t do it. It was all about mentally picturing the kind of results he wanted and the steps he was to follow to attain them.
If you can mentally picture a result and the process you want to follow, you will naturally begin moving in a fortuitous direction. No amount of time sitting around convincing yourself that you believe you can is going to accomplish the task for you.
Yet, a short period of time visualizing the result you want, imagining, feeling and sensing yourself already there, while suspending the idea of whether or not you believe you have “the stuff” to pull it off, will move you closer to the target.
Don’t believe me?
Then test it out and see for yourself how the crock of “limiting beliefs” isn’t holding you back at all.
Give no thought as to whether or not you believe you can accomplish a goal. Instead, take the focus off your beliefs and put it on “the thing.”
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
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How to Obliterate Negative Emotions
Sometimes the best way to mediate or visualize is sitting. Sometimes it’s standing. Sometimes it’s lying down.
And then, many times, the ONLY best way is to move.
I have found the FASTEST way to clear your mind and eliminate negativity is a moving meditation practice I learned in China, called Dao Zou.
I’ve written about it and spoken about this practice for more than 15 years.
It’s still a big part of my daily practice as it puts me into a feel good state almost instantly. And the times we are living in today make Dao Zou even more valuable and vital than ever before.
Last night I was speaking with a client about how he can utilize this system in a 600-square foot room. Even though he has a maximum of approximately 15 feet from end to end, in his room, I showed him how he can still make the practice work.
As he began to practice, he felt the energy shift.
“Most people utilize sitting or lying down practices,” I told him. “These practices have their place, but in my experience, the ultimate game changer is moving meditation. Tai chi, which I also practice, is a type of moving meditation. But it takes a long time to learn. Dao Zou is different. You can learn the initial elements quickly and feel the shift almost as fast.”
Last week, I was working with another client, teaching him how Dao Zou helps you transcend rather than suppress negative feelings.
I told him how my friend, Mark, suddenly passed away a few years ago, and how I was shook up about it.
I went for a 3.5 mile walk to move through the pain, yet, upon my return, I was still out-of-sorts.
Then I got up and began practicing Dao Zou.
Using a small amount of space, I was amazed at how quickly I shifted from grief to neutral to peace of mind.
Later that day the grief returned. I got up and began using Dao Zou again. Once again, the grief disappeared. I continued using this practice to ameliorate the negative feelings until they were obliterated.
Yes, there is value in grieving, in letting out emotional strife – but grief can also harm the brain and body if it continues unabated.
When I first learned Dao Zou, I loved it because it took me to another level of feel good, creative energy. It also made me more creative and athletic.
But little did I realize at the time, that it would help neutralize negative feelings.
When you move your body in a certain way, slowly, while incorporating Zen-like deep breathing and mental imagery, you can feel amazing without any effort.
In China, many of the longest-lived people practice Dao Zou – or reverse training. It is often prescribed to help people heal and recover from various health challenges.
Dao Zou appears to clear the mind of worry, self-doubt, fear… even sadness and grief, better and faster than anything I have ever seen or witnessed. It truly is the Ultimate in Moving Meditation as it catapults you into an incredibly vibrant state of BEING, super fast.
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See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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The Flow Zone
One of the signature practices I spoke about in Theatre of the Mind, is a meditative style of walking called Dao Zou. It puts you in “the Zone” fast.
Dao Zou means to train in reverse – to go backward. Slowly.
But it leads to a quick turnaround in how you think and feel. It helps you gain a feeling of control over your mind and your life.
Incorporated in this seemingly shamanic practice are specific breathing patterns, visualizations and arm movements. When your body, breath and mind are tied together in a seamless way, you place yourself upon a path that transcends ordinary angst, fear and worry.
On numerous occasions, while teaching Dao Zou in person, the transformation from a single session is evident upon the face (and in the eyes) of the practitioner.
I began teaching Dao Zou over 15 years ago, and I have yet to find a single person who wasn’t blown away after a single session. It’s a game changer.
If you’re looking for a psycho-physical practice that will put you in “the Zone,” a practice that will put you into a state of “flow,” on command, then Dao Zou is the way to go.
Find the bliss of the comfort zone, and allow yourself to expand naturally and spontaneously, without force.
Latch onto Dao Zou today and feel an almost instantaneous change in how you feel.
See it. Feel it. Do it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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Coach of the Year
A quick note of congratulations to my friend, Nick Nurse, who was named NBA Coach of the Year for 2019-2020 season.
Nick and I grew up in Carroll, Iowa, and attended the same high school.
In 2007, at one of my live events, Nick gave me two signed basketballs, one of which contained a message regarding his goal to become an NBA coach.
To hear the rest of the story, you’ll want to listen to Theatre of the Mind.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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Give Up Fear
One early morning last month, as I was moving from dreamland to a waking state, I received an answer to a question that had been ruminating in my noggin for several days.
The answer came to me in three words.
Give up X.
In my particular case, the X was “coffee.”
Off and on, for years, I toyed with the idea of giving up coffee, but always chose to come back to it, for a number of reasons, one of which is the purported health benefits.
For the most part, I didn’t drink coffee for the caffeine kick. I drank it out of habit. It was part of my daily ritual.
Get up. Make coffee. Sip coffee while reading or preparing for a workout.
Nothing wrong with having coffee – except, maybe it was becoming wrong for me.
So I gave it up that morning, cold turkey. I did so by crafting a different mental picture of myself in relation to the drink, and what I would tell myself each day to stay away from it.
I went 24 hours without a sip of coffee.
Could I go another day without it?
Turns out, yes.
And another?
Yes.
Now here I am, some 40+ days later, free from the black bean.
As I think about it, the process I followed was incredibly simple. I wondered if the method I used would be effective in eliminating negative emotions, such as fear, worry, anger, doubt, and so on.
Turns out it works on emotions, too.
In order for it to work, though, you must either have “the desire” to give something up, or want to have the desire.
Yes, you can have a desire to have more desire. Interesting, eh?
I thought so, too.
See it. Feel it. Be IT.
Matt Furey
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The Power of Daily Goals
The world tells you to think far, far, FAR off into the future. To make five, ten and twenty-year plans. To even plan out your funeral and what will be said about you.
For some people, there is value in doing the above. But for the grand majority of people, these ideas don’t work out too well.
Constantly thinking about where you want to be five or more years from now doesn’t bode well for those who are prone to anxiousness, worry and gloominess – or to those who are not the same person this year as they were a few years ago. People can and do change. Deciding on what you will be, do or have in five years presumes you’ll be thinking the same way in the future as you are now.
I always enjoyed the way Dr. Wayne Dyer handled the question, “Where do you want to be five years from now?”
“Five years from now?” he exclaimed. “I’m having enough trouble with today.”
The truth is that the second you begin to focus on today goals, you reclaim your power and rid your mind of negative emotions.
What do you want to accomplish today? What do you want to bring into being? Can you visualize it, imagine it, feel it?
Believe me, if you create one thing each day, or accomplish one key task each day, and do this for 365 straight days, over a five-year period, you will appear to others as the type of person who “takes massive action,” but you are not doing anything of the sort. What you are doing is implementing a consistent, simplified, streamlined and systemized daily approach that works.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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What’s Hanging on Your Wall?
In Theatre of the Mind I wrote about the importance of having inspiring slogans and motivators strategically placed upon your walls.
The reason is simple. We become what we visualize ourselves to be, and we tend to visualize that which we see most often.
When I was a teenager, I inherently understood the psychological importance of having the good, the powerful and the positive upon my bedroom walls. I tacked up the ribbons and medals that I had won in athletic competition, as well as images of the people I wanted to emulate.
When I was playing baseball, my hero was Vida Blue of the Oakland A’s.
Later on, when I became enthralled with wrestling, I put up posters of Olympic champions in the sport, along with motivational slogans.
Today, many years removed from being a teenager, I still use posters upon my walls. Whether I’m conscious of it or not, every time I walk past a poster hanging upon my walls, the message is going into my mind and creating a new reality.
Recently, I put together a Theatre of the Mind Poster that is loaded with more than 21 different word slogans I use throughout the day to stay focused, tuned in and turned on.
This poster is so powerful it stops you in your tracks.
As you look at it you unconsciously begin to choose the slogan you’re going to live today.
One of my favorites is, “Act as if it were impossible to fail.”
It’s a mighty admonition – and who can look at it and not find a pulse?
We form our mighty mental images from the words we use. So let yourself be purposeful and passionate with what you say or think when you talk to yourself.
Grab yourself a Theatre of the Mind Poster, put it upon your wall and watch as you remove more and more of the resistance from your life.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
The Magic of Visualizing Big
You may have heard about the magic of thinking big.
I first saw a book featuring this same title when I was in high school. It’s a good one.
Yet, the title is somewhat of a misnomer.
Why? Because it’s not “thinking” that you’re doing, at least not in the logical sense of the term.
It’s VISUALIZING BIG – or IMAGINING BIG.
Years ago I wrote: “There is no magic in logic.”
This sentence came to me when I was explaining mental imagery to a person who always wanted to know the “how” before he decided on a goal, or what I refer to as a “what.”
Instead of deciding upon a goal (what?), then picturing it, he wanted to know “HOW” picturing it would help – or HOW it could even be accomplished.
This question is similar to having a basketball in your hands as you stand at the free throw line, looking at the hoop. The obvious goal is to sink the ball through the hoop, preferably with a wonder-filled “swish” sound. But instead of focusing on the goal, you want to know HOW the ball leaves your fingertips, HOW it travels through air in an upward arc, HOW the ball knows how far to travel, and HOW the ball descends at the perfect time and swooshes through the center of the net.
How does the ball move that way? isn’t a bad question. But it’s definitely out of sequence.
The first order of business is having the goal to put the ball through the hoop. Simple as that. Know the “what” before you look at the “how.”
You can learn the proper mechanics of shooting the baseketball all you want, but if you cannot SEE the ball going through the hoop in your “mind’s eye,” you’re never going to be good at sinking free throws.
Last week I was shooting hoops as I waited for a friend to join me. Before that day, I hadn’t touched a basketball in at least a year, so it took about ten minutes to find my groove.
At first, my shots were off, but in true cybernetic fashion, I used all the missed shots as corrective feedback. This means all my mistakes were guiding me to better, more accurate shooting.
Some of the corrections I made were physical or technical.
But the biggest shift I made was inside the theatre of my mind.
When my friend showed up, I was on my game. I was sinking one swisher after another.
Within 20 minutes time I went from missing almost every shot I took to making seven out of the next eight free throws.
After my friend warmed up, I taught him the visualization secrets I was using and within short order he was knocking down free throws with ease as well.
Many people mistakenly think “I got it” when they have a positive experience such as the one described above. And they make the mistake of thinking they don’t need to visualize anymore.
Wrong.
Just as you need physical practice you also need visualization practice. Both are skills that you continually work on improving. There is no point in time wherein you no longer need to practice.
Keep in mind, though, that you are always visualizing, even if you’re unwilling to see this dimension of reality at this time. So my question is: Are you taking deliberate control of your mental imagery, or are you allowing Random (ran-dumb) to run the show?
When you get up in the morning, do you let Mr. Random decide whether it’s a good idea to brush your teeth today?
If you have a lawn to care for, you don’t mow it once and think your job is done forever, do you?
If you have a garden, would you rid the soil of weeds and think your job is completed throughout infinity?
Your practice continues onward even when you know what to do, even when you can do it exceptionally well.
You either take an active role in determining what you will picture in your mind’s eye, or you allow random forces put images into your mind.
Either way, you will become what you visualize.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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Bad, Bad Goals
Over the past two days, while working with coaching clients, the tall-tales of the self-development industry came up over and over.
“But don’t you need to set goals that scare you?” one client asked.
“How’s that approach working out for you so far?” I replied.
“Uh, not so good.”
“That’s what I thought.”
“Setting goals that scare you” is one of the four pill-errors (not pillars) that the goo-roos teach. And it’s wronger than wrong. It may be the wrongest advice of them all.
If you set goals that scare you, you’ll never get off the ground. You’ll be stymied and stuck. You’ll be so frozen, a hot morning coffee won’t even wake you up.
Think of how ludicrous it is to teach people to set goals that invoke fear, when fear is the great paralyzer.
Instead of setting goals that scare you, consider setting goals that inspire you. Set goals that generate momentum and spontaneous action, goals that don’t cause you to resist yourself.
When you are doing well, you are no longer resisting yourself. You’re taking out the garbage on a daily basis. And with the garbage put away, you are free to accomplish more because you’re now in a natural state of flow.
Almost all goal setters remain nothing more than that: goal setters. Same as those who make a list of New Year’s Resolutions, none of which get accomplished.
The trick to goals is creating and following a system where you are winning the game of life all the time. You win so often that you make other people jealous, without trying to do so.
When you set goals that scare you, you’re beginning way behind the starting line.
When you set goals that rev up your engine and catapult you into action, you are free to swing for the fences. You are free to follow the advice of Dorothea Brande, who wrote, “act as if it were impossible to fail.”
You cannot act as if it is impossible to fail when you set big, hairy, audacious goals that scare you.
But you CAN when you set goals that create zero internal resistance within you.
Just as we resist others who bark orders at us and tell us what to do, we also resist the “self” that imposes goals and demands that are not in alignment with the natural flow of our own energy.
If you’ve been setting goals that scare you and you feel as though you’re getting nowhere, understand you’re a member of a big club. You’re not alone. You’re not the only one who believed the nonsense.
But there is a way out of the mess – and acquiring the attributes contained within Zero Resistance Living is one of the keys. Isn’t it odd that there’s nowhere in the course that tells you to set goals that scare you.
Matt Furey
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