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Can You Believe He’s Gone – Wayne Dyer Lives On

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When you hear about a “great one” passing  – twould be normal to feel a sense of sadness and grief. But when it comes to Wayne W. Dyer, who lived his life in such a positive, peaceful way – I am left feeling a big “AH.”

The “AH” is a pause, a moment of silence, a moment to reflect upon the lives Wayne Dyer touched in his journey on Earth, including mine.

I was a freshman in high school the first time I saw Wayne Dyer’s face. Twas on the cover of his first monumental best-seller, Your Erroneous Zones. A teacher was reading it – and at the time, I felt no attraction to his teachings. I was too deeply mired in cruddy thinking to see the value. In fact, I was so far gone that his very countenance repelled me.

Years later, post-college, I was in a bookstore in Santa Cruz, California, going through the self-help section. At that time the repulsion was nearly gone. I recall picking up five of his books and putting them into my pile for purchase.

Then a negative force told me to put the books back. And I did. Uggh. That was stupid.

A year goes by and Dyer comes out with a new book, which was trademark typical of his career (at least one new book per year for quite a spell).

This time I was ready. Really, really ready.

So ready, in fact, that in conjunction with the new book coming out, he was giving a talk in San Jose. I bought a ticket and attended – and as soon as Dr. Dyer glided onto the stage, I was hooked. I bought the hardcover copy of You’ll See It When You Believe It – and during an intermission, I joined the long procession of others who wanted their book signed.

Shaking Wayne’s hand was a turning point in my life – and over the next few years, everytime he came back to California and was within two hours of where I lived, I was in the audience. Each time I attended I met with him to at least say “thank you.” Each time he greeted me with a smirky smile, patted me on the head and said, “I see the two of us have the same barber” – or something similar.

Dr. Dyer’s Nightingale-Conant audiotapes often played in my vehicle as I rode around town. How to Be a No Limit Person and Choosing Your Own Greatness were two of my favorites. Two years ago, when I was in the studio in Chicago, recording Maxwell Maltz’s Theatre of the Mind, I was astounded to know the seat I took to record the CD’s was the same that every author had used over the past 20 years. With eagerness I asked, “So Wayne Dyer sat in this SAME chair when he recorded all his programs?”

“That, he did,” came the reply.

I smiled from jawbone to jawbone. What a day.

Over the years I watched Dr. Dyer’s many PBS specials and bought the packages he promoted.

In his latest book, I Can See Clearly Now, Wayne wrote about the positive influence Psycho-Cybernetics had upon him and how it changed his life for the better. Due to Dr. Dyer’s positive personal touch to my life, I included him in the foreword to the updated and expanded version, Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded, due out November 3. My only wish is that the book were published for him to see the reference before he passed.

Then I remember, this is the man who wrote books about the mystical, magical and mysterious. Why not visualize that he will see it? Not in human form, but in spirit.

Most importantly though, there’s that word “AH” resurfacing.

What on earth – how does a man live his life so profoundly and positively that I am smiling as I remember his days on this plain? There’s no grief whatsoever.

I can honestly say “that’s a first.” Just as Dr. Wayne Dyer was a first in so many categories.

He often said he had proof that everyone is born a winner. Why? Because you won the first race you entered. You beat out millions of other “competitors” in order to be conceived and born.

Wayne didn’t just win the first race he was in before being born – he won the last race he was in, too.

What a man. What a life. What a legacy.

To Wayne, I’m thrilled to know we share the same barber.

I’d normally close by saying “rest in peace” – but somehow that doesn’t fit.

“Live in peace.”

Yes, that’s better.

Thank you for your guidance.

Matt Furey
President, Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc. 

The Winningest Coaches – What They Believe

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There’s a familiar pattern here.
Many years ago I read about a book Vince Lombardi had in his personal library. It was dog-eared, hi-lighted and filled with hand-written notes.Lombardi used this book to help himself coach the Green Bay Packers to the first two Super Bowl titles.

Monte Clark, then an assistant coach with the Miami Dolphins, used this same book to help head coach Don Shula go 17-0 and win the Super Bowl with the Miami Dolphins.

The legendary Jim Brown, arguably the greatest NFL running back of all times, spoke about this book in an HBO documentary, Jim Brown: All American.

And then there’s Augie Garrido, the winningest coach in college baseball history. He’s won five College World Series titles – with two different teams. He’s guided young men who nobody wanted and helped them become extraordinary ball players. He’s a fan of this same book, too.

On page 75 in Augie’s book, Life is Yours to Win, he writes about the influence Psycho-Cybernetics has had on him and his teams.

He also states how a key element of Psycho-Cybernetics is championed in the movie, For Love of the Game, starring Kevin Costner, who played the pitcher, Billy Chapel, who at 40 years of age, is so focused and “in the moment” that he doesn’t realize until the 8th inning that he’s throwing a perfect game.

Coach Garrido writes: “One of the techniques Chapel uses to stay focused is to tell himself, “Clear the mechanism.”

“This is a phrase from Psycho-Cybernetics. Clearning the mechanism is a method for emptying the mind of fear and other distractions. It’s managing the moment by mentally slowing it down.”

Clearing the mechanism is clearing the brain of fear and other distractions. It’s letting go of worry, self-doubt and other concerns. It’s living in the moment – one breath at a time.

How do you clear the mechanism, the brain?

You mentally picture a calculator before you. It has numbers on the screen. You push the clear button so you can do a new
computation.

You could also picture a computer screen before you. You clear the screen by seeing it dissolve before you.

As you do this, you breathe deeply and center yourself. And then you go about your business, doing what you’ve set out to do.

There are many others ways to do this in Zero Resistance Living – the advanced program on Psycho-Cybernetics.

The key, though, is training yourself to live in the moment, to feel good everyday, no matter what. It’s learning how to use your positive as well as negative past to launch yourself forward.

Wouldn’t it be great if nothing from the past that was supposedly negative is there to do anything but help you succeed at a higher level?

And this is true, if you know the techniques in Zero Resistance Living. I encourage you to give the program a whirl, so it can give your life a positive whirl in the right direction.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. By the way, in November, Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded, will be available, containing a foreword and afterword from ‘yours truly’ – as well as commentary throughout.

Donald Trump’s Presidential Genes

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Ever hear someone claim that the reason for another person’s success is “genetic.”

Word is that Donald Trump claimed genetics to be the reason for his business success.

Really?

So you either have the right genes for success – or you don’t. And if you don’t – you’re scrooood – (rhymes with Scrooge}.

Here’s what I believe: Success IS genetic – and you have the capability within to “turn on” latent or dormant genes – or to use the ones that are already on.

You turn your success genes on the same way you activate the success mechanism in your brain – by the positive use of your IMAGINATION mixed with positive FEELINGS.

Keep in mind, if you choose not to use your imagination for the positive, then by dafault you’re using it for the negative. Mix negative mental imagery with negative feelings and you get negative results. Mix positive images with positive emotions and you activate positive realities.

Pretty simple formula.

Sure, there’s “work” that goes into the success formula – but no work ever gets done without imagining it getting
done first.

Can anyone and everyone imagine and become shortstop for the New York Yankees?

Of course not.

Yet, oddly enough, Derek Jeter, the future hall-of-famer who played that position for the Yankees for nearly 20 years, has a book called The Life You Imagine.

Interesting, isn’t it? At a young age Jeter told his parents he was going to play shortstop for the Yankees. His parents encouraged this dream in him. They made no comments to him about being too small, not having the genes, etc.

The young Jeter went so far as to hang a Yankees jersey from the back of his bedroom door – and each night before sleep he’d lie there and imagine his future reality.

Did these “imaginings” set in motion or cause the young Jeter to “do the work” necessary to become the Derek Jeter that Yankees’ fans admire so much?

Of course.

No one trains, works, writes, paints, sings, dances, swims, runs, walks, eats or makes love without imagining it first.

You may not think you imagine something before you do it – but if you stop yourself long enough to examine your process – you’ll see that you do.

The same goes with failure.

All of us have seen someone drop a glass or plate, or fall down – then exclaim, “I knew i was going to do that.”

Okay, how’d you know?

You knew because you saw a picture in your mind of it happening – and you didn’t take the time to change images before the slip happened.

The negative image you pictured became a reality.

Now, the billion doll-ar question:

Does Donald Trump have the genes to become President of the United States?

Perhaps, but I don’t think he really, truly imagines “with FEELING” himself holding that position – so I don’t see him ever sitting behind a desk in the Oval Office.

But forget about politics for a moment and ponder where you want to be, want you want to do or who you want to be.

Do so with positive feelings.

If you’re willing to do the above religiously, I’m willing to promise you one thing: you’ll start doing the things that move you in the direction of what you’re picturing.

How close you get to what you want depends on how often you mix imagination with emotion and action.

Here endeth today’s lesson.

Matt Furey
author of Theatre of the Mind

P.S. I’m looking at having a POWER of IMAGINATION seminar this all. You like the idea? If so, make sure you prep yourself by getting my Theatre of the Mind program. Here’s what one reader recently said about the program:

“Theatre of the Mind gives the most incredible boost to the world of CREATIVE imagination. Visualizing images and such works, but the examples you gave really turbo-charge the experiences in the mind – and change your outside circumstances much more smoothly and rapidly.  Incredible.”
D.H. – Des Moines, Iowa

Most Evil Word in English Language

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Today when I was driving my daughter to dance camp, I asked her if she knew the most important word in the Chinese language; the word that much of the culture is centered around.

She shook her head “no.”

I replied, “It isn’t 好 Hǎo,” which means good.

It’s a word you’d least expect.

It’s the word 慢 (Màn} – pronounced like the Jamaican’s say man – mohn.

The term means “slow” or “slowly.”

Throughout the day people will use this word over and over. In fact, it’s common to say 慢 (Màn} twice before a verb. For example:

Eat slowly – man man chi.
Walk slowly – man man zou
Learn slowly – man man xue

It is this last phrase – 慢慢学习 {màn man xué} or learn slowly I’d like to comment on today, before I reveal to you the most evil word in the English language.

OK, you may wonder how learning slowly can be considered a good thing.

So let’s go back in time. How about when you were an infant.

At that time you absorbed more knowledge without trying than any other time in your life.

You were totally relaxed. You were living in the NOW.

No pressure. No hurry. No worry. No grades. No awards.

Just a whole lot of information you could absorb with ease – and without tension.

So I said to my daughter, “Do you realize that you learned English, Mandarin Chinese, as well as Shanghainese and Sichuanese (two other dialects) before age three – and you weren’t under any pressure to do so? You just absorbed what was around you because you were totally relaxed.”

She’d never pondered the thought, so I elaborated.

“When you study dance – or anything else, the same idea applies. If you’re under stress or tension – it’s difficult to learn. If you’re relaxed and engaged, you can learn quickly, even when you’re not trying to do so.”

I then told her about the most evil word in the English language.

“When you train today, remember to never TRY to learn anything. Just relax, be engaged and allow yourself to learn. But don’t TRY. You cannot TRY and successfully do anything. That’s why it’s the most evil word in any language – but especially English.”

“The word TRY will keep you from ever fulfilling any of your desires. You cannot TRY anything. You either do it or you don’t. As Yoda said in Star Wars, “Do or do not, there is no try.”

As I drove I coninued. “Throughout the rest of your life, whenever you hear anyone use the word try, understand that they’re probably NOT going to do what they say they’re trying to do.”

“If someone says he’ll TRY to make it to a party – he’s not going.”

“If someone says he’ll try to lose weight or stop drinking or stop smoking – or anything else – it not going to happen.”

“If someone tries to make money, he can’t.”

“And especially true is anyone trying to learn something. You cannot try to learn something. You either engage and learn it – or you don’t.”

Whether you are willing to slow down to speed up your learning of something, one thing is for certain, you cannot do it by trying to do it.

Eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary and you’ll notice yourself relaxing, getting into flow and being far more effective in all that you do.

Don’t believe me?

Then go ahead and test it.

Just don’t “try it.” If you “try” – you’re going to be disappointed.

The above and a whole lot more is contained within the Zero Resistance Living System – available for the next day at a greatly reduced amount.

Grab a copy of this award-generating program and your life will never be the same again.

Yours,

Matt Furey

Success is in Your Jeans

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Several months ago I was consulting with a man who wants to be a writer. Thing is, for most of his life, he’s felt incapable of being one.

What “Empty Your Cup” Means

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Over the years, I’ve had a number of conversations with self-help authors and speakers who refer to their work as “head-trip stuff.”

Best Time to Focus on a Goal

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Question: When’s the best time to focus your mind and visualize your goals?

Answer: Not when you think it is.

Seriously. Most of us have been told to visualize first thing in the morning or just before going to bed at night.

And these notions are correct if you’re a “neck-up” type of person.

I’m not.

Neither are many of the people I deal with. And based upon my experience in dealing with those who aren’t exactly physical – I believe you’ll help them far more by engaging their body as you “work” on the mind.

Contemplate the following: Almost everyone feels better after going for a walk.

Walking clears the cobwebs from your mind. It moves the blood, gets you breathing deeper and helps endorphins flow stronger.

Walking is good medicine for the mind – especially when you do it oudoors, in nature, surrounded by trees. Or on the beach. Or along a mountain road.

And when you combine walking time with visualization time – you capture two birds with each step.

Most of the people who live in the area that I coach are used to me having them do something physical as we talk.

They don’t come to me, sit in a lazy boy and have me guide them through Theatre of the Mind.

Instead, when they show up, they are handed a jump rope or told to follow me as I begin walking.

And when we walk, we talk.

They ask questions and get answers.

The stories flow. The advice pours out of me.

And they get even more super-charged – I’d say at least
three times more – than if they were merely sitting and listening.

I realize most of you reading these words cannot come and walk/talk with me personally.

But all of you can do as Richard has writen below:

Hey Matt,
 
Just want to let you know that I’ve gone through the entire TOTM CDs and video and am now on my second listening. I put it on my ipod and listen while doing chores or taking walks.
 
I think your program is excellent, one of the best if not THE best I’ve ever come across (I’ve listened to a lot of them) full of great transformative information and techniques. You are a great storyteller and it’s really easy to listen to.
 
One thing that I’ve glommed onto early on is the face behind the face and the inner smile. Really makes a huge difference.
 
Thanks for doing it and putting it out there.
 
Best,
Richard

MJF: Thank you, Richard. Maybe someday you can come to Tampa and experience the message LIVE. Glad you’re enjoying the CDs.

Well, my friend, if nothing else – get out there and walk. and if you really want to get somewhere in life – listen to my Theatre of the Mind program while you walk.

Turning walking time into success time.

Best,

Matt Furey

#1 Path to Success

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This morning, Michael, a private client, who lives in the area, met me at 10 AM for a session.

He says, “I’ve been walking six miles a day. I do three in the morning and three more at night – and I listen to your Theatre of the Mind CDs the entire time. It’s awesome.”

“Great,” I said. “Let’s go for a walk.”

He smiled.

We started to walk and talk. And as we walked he began to ask questions. Really good questions.

He wanted to know the main difference between self-esteem and self-image – and how each relates to success.

He wanted to know why some people who achieve various successes, still don’t feel good deep inside.

I explained to him that many people cannot wrap their mind around the very word “success.”

They don’t have a clear or working definition of what it is. Ask these people to tell you about a success experience they’ve had and they literally draw blanks.

Truly. They cannot conceive of a single success experience.

Even if they’ve completed 8 years of college and have a doctorate – or they’re medical doctors, they can still find reasons WHY they haven’t really had a success experience yet.

I know people who’ve built their own homes, earned a ton of dough, married the woman of their dreams, written books, created companies, traveled the whirld – and yet, deep down, they still feel like nothing.

How can this be possible?

Truth be told, this situation is more common than you’d think.

Some people don’t feel successful, regardless of what they’ve done, because they don’t know how to be grateful, to stop and smell, touch and kiss the roses.

As soon as they accomplish one thing, they’re off to the next thing. Gratitude doesn’t exist. Taking time to breathe and be free doesn’t exist.

It’s more, more, more.

And more is good – provided you have the decency to appreciate what you have, where you’ve been and what you’ve got.

How many people do you know who say “thank you” – and mean it?

How often do you take a few moments during your day to think about all the things, all the people, all the circumstances you’ve had, are having – or will soon have – and how marvelous it is to be in your shoes – with or without the problems that go with it?

How often?

Chances are excellent that you NEVER take the time to be grateful. Or you do it so seldom the answer is practically never.

Last night I was playing ball with my son. When we finished, I said, “Son, I have something for you.”

I walked toward him. He’s waiting for me to give him something. But where is this something? Where am I hiding it? Am I going to get it out of my car? Or from the house?

As I walked toward him I could sense his curiosity growing. And when I was a foot away, I threw my arms around his torso and gave him a hug.

“Way to work today,” I said. “That’s awesome.”

We tend to overlook the little things that pay big dividends.

We tend to overlook the bigger things that are central to where we are today.

And we’re so good at overlooking the little and the bigger – that we even overlook the really BIG things, the pivotal people, the life-changers, the knowledge, the information, the six honest serving men – as Kipling called them.

No, I’m not successful because I’m not as rich as Bill Gates.

That’s B.S.

No, I’m not successful because I wasn’t valedictorian, or didn’t win the World Series, or the Super Bowl or get my Ph.D.

More B.S.

No, I’m not successful because ….

Because what?

You’re alive, aren’t you? Your heart’s still beating. You can still breathe. You can still walk, talk, read, write and feed yourself.

The fact is you could do NONE of the above when you were getting started – and breathing and having a heart beat are not something you do to yourself. They’re automatic.

Even if you cover your mouth to forcibly stop breathing, eventually nature will force your hand so you gasp for air.

So what’s the #1 Path to Success?

It’s the path of remembering who you are, where you came from, who helped you along the way – and how grateful and happy you are for everyone and everything.

Know someone who won’t show gratitude?

They’re on the path to failure.

And you’re not.

The greatness of Theatre of the Mind is that the process puts you into a state of gratitude and a state of flow – and it does so easily and naturally, without you even realizing it.

What a way to live.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. Want to know of one of the biggest reasons why so many visualizers, affirmers and goal setters never get what they want? Listen to Theatre of  the Mind and it’ll be clearer than crystal.

Why Affirmations Don’t Work

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This morning, I’d like to tackle a question that many readers have on the subject of positive affirmations.Do they or don’t they work?Below is what one customer recently wrote – followed by my answer:

Dear Matt,

Shut if Off

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Last week I wrote about the Failure Mechanism and how to shut it off. Many of you wrote to ask for more information.

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