In 1993 I visited China for the first time.

My purpose for going, however, was not simply to visit. It was to meet and marry the woman of my dreams.

Here’s what happened that led to my journey:

In 1992, after I ended a relationship that wasn’t working – I sat in a chair and asked myself what I really, really wanted in a relationship. I also asked myself, without limitation, who I wanted to be with.

To my surprise the answers that came forth were that I wanted to meet and marry a Chinese lady.

Initially, this idea made perfect sense. After all, I practiced kung fu, tai chi and chi kung. I frequently dined in Chinese restaurants and was fascinated by the culture.

Being I lived in the Bay Area of California at the time, which has a huge Chinese population, I figured that finding my future wife would NOT require overseas travel. Yet, within three months of making the decision to attract the very person I had in mind – I was corresponding with a 24-year old girl from a rural area in China.

I was totally intrigued even though she wrote me in Chinese and I wrote back in English, and both of us needed our respective letters translated.

I was hooked even though neither of us could speak the language of the other.

No problem, I thought. I’ll learn the language. And off I went to begin learning a language I had no business learning.

It was difficult.

At times I would get so frustrated I’d feel like a young child ready to burst into tears. But I beilieved if I continued to persevere I would learn the language and I would be able to communicate when I visited China.

Despite all rational thought to the contrary, as well as all pleadings from family and friends NOT to proceed, I boarded a jet in September of 1993 and landed 13 hours and 10 minutes later in Hong Kong.

A few days later I would enter the Peoples’ Republic of China.

I was 30 at the time. And for the most part, despite many great ideas and a promising future, I wasn’t getting anywhere. My business was floundering; I was always living on the edge. I always had trouble paying bills. Was usually late for rent – and was always in debt.

And to top it off, after seeing a photo of a young lady living 8,000 miles away, I wanted to make things harder on myself, by finding money to travel there, learn the language, take time off work – and so on.

All I know is that somewhere deep in my gut – I saw this voyage as destiny. So I followed the internal signal that told me that this lady was the one for me.

Along the way I had plenty of support that seemed to materialize from out of nowhere.

When I received the first letter from China, I walked into a local Chinese restaurant and asked if there was anyone who could help me translate it.

As fate would appear to have it, I found a 73-year old Chinese man, Mr. Pan, not only translate this letter for me, but everyone other one thereafter. He and his daughter and son-in-law met with me regularly to advise me on how I should proceed.

And when it was time to go to China, it was this 73-year old man who accompanied me to make sure I knew where to go and what to do.

How did I get the money for the trip? That’s an interesting fact in and of itself.

Before making the decision to learn Chinese and go to China, my gym business was suffering. After making the decision, clients showed up from out of the blue. Within a couple weeks my gym was packed and I had a waiting list. And this was with no additional marketing or advertising.

As you’ll learn in Zero Resistance Living, once I made the decision to move forward, everything I needed came to me. Once I removed the resistance – once the pressure lifted, much of the process was effortless. Even the learning of Chinese, although difficult at first, got ultimately easier when I realized I was on the right path.

Much of what I needed came so quickly and mysteriously, I felt like a living breathing magnet. All bills were paid on time. Many were paid in advance.

What a turnaround.

What a change.

Today, I’m proud of all the things Zhannie and I have accomplished together. We have so much to be thankful for.

The list goes on and on.

Most importantly, though, I’m proud of the fact that both of us know the life-changing power a decision holds.

If I hadn’t made the decision I made back in August of 1992, I would not have attracted Zhannie into my life. And if she hadn’t made the same decision a few months before me, she wouldn’t have attracted me. And so on.

One decision can and will change your life.

Success begins with a decision.

Once you’ve made one – by law, you will pull the people, resources and knowledge into your life that will make your goals and dreams a reality.

That’s how it works. There is no other way.

In closing, let me relay the final message Zhannie’s Uncle wrote to me before I boarded the plane for China:

“Matt, you say you have made the decision. If this is true I am very happy. You will be proof of the Chinese saying, ‘When two people love each other, though they may be thousands of miles apart, they can be pulled together by a single thread.'”

What is this single thread?

It’s a thought reaching out and finding someone else of like mind. And when both people keep hold of the thread, they must be pulled together – regardless of the distance.

Matt Furey

P.S. Making the decision to use the Zero Resistance Living program will definitely put you on the fast track to success.

I urge you to learn what has helped me and so many others.

A few days ago, here in China, I was asked to do something that would put any and all persuasive talents to the test. A couple I know were in the midst of a major fight – and both of them are extremely stubborn.

The night before the woman in the relationship said she wanted a divorce. I told the man not to worry, that she would change her mind if he did as I advised.

“Aah, but you don’t know my wife,” he said. “She is more stubborn than the most stubborn person you know. If you think Chinese people are stubborn, you’ve seen nothing.”

“Don’t think that way,” I said. “Right now there is a lot of fire between you. First you must put out the fire. You do this BEFORE you talk to her. Otherwise both of you will get burned.”

“I know what you’re trying to say,” he said. “But it won’t work.”

“Yes, it will,” I replied. “You must change the way you see HER before you speak. Don’t see her as stubborn or unwilling to bend. Tell her you’re sorry for the trouble, tell her you love her, ask for forgiveness and I think she will see that you want to work this out.”

“Okay, I will try.”

Three hours later, I called my friend. No change.

We had dinner together that night. He had tears in his eyes and on his cheeks as we talked.

“Some relationships cannot be worked out,” I said. “Some times it is better to go your separate ways. But many can be worked out if you’re willing to lose face. In China, this whole “face saving” thing interferes with relationships. Forget face. This is not about face. This is about getting what both of you probably want – deep down.”

Several hours later the man called me. He asked me if I would intercede and talk to his wife.

“But what can I say,” I said. “This is not my business. You think she will listen to me if she won’t listen to you.”

“I think you can try,” he said.

“I will do what I can,” I replied.

Although I was not in need of a shower or change in clothing, I jumped under the hot water and got clean anyway. I went into my bedroom to get dressed. At first I reached for the clothes I was already wearing. But upon touching them some sort of guidance told me “no” – to put on something totally fresh.

I carefully selected the pants, shirt and shoes I would wear. As well as what bracelet. I had jade, blue coral, Tibetan agate, obsidian and a few other bracelets.

I chose the obsidian.

While making all these decisions I kept asking what was the right thing to say to obtain the result needed.

“Don’t think about what to say,” I was subconsciously instructed. “Just keep the picture of this relationship being healed and all will work out.”

I left my home and walked to the couples abode. Minutes later I rang their doorbell.

The wife answered and invited me in. She was on the phone with someone else, talking as if all was well. I took a seat on the couch and patiently waited for her conversation to end.

When she hung up the phone she took a seat on a chair to the right of me – a good ten feet away. Lots of distance.

Making minimal eye contact – common in China when having a dispute – I began to speak in Chinese. In fact, I spoke the entire time in Chinese as this lady knows only two or three words of English.

This is not a job I wish on anyone.

A few minutes into the conversation, out of the corner of my eye I saw her wipe a tear. I pretended not to notice.

I rolled from one story to the next, assuring her that her husband not only loved her, but was crying over dinner when we spoke. I said, “It is rare for me to see a Chinese man cry. This was a first for me.”

Toward the end I advised her as follows:

A. In a divorce, in almost all cases, there are no winners. Only losers. Consider this deeply.

B. I believe it is time for you to do three things:

a. Relax your body.
b. Breathe deeply.
c. Take a step back and observe.

She nodded.

I got up to leave. Just before walking out the door, though, I turned to her and said, “So, it is okay for him to come in and talk to you now, right?”

I watched her eyes shake.  A series of negative mental pictures shattered inside her head.

“Mei shir. Keyi,” she said. Meaning, “No problem. He can.”

If I hadn’t asked this question, just before leaving, all my efforts may have been in vein.

I walked back to where the husband was waiting and gave him the news. He bowed in gratitude and thanked
me.

The couple met ten minutes later and all was well.

When a couple begins to quarrel, it’s not so much the words that matter but the energy within the mental pictures that are being exchanged. This energy leaves your body and begins to attack the other person. It doesn’t just remain in your own mind. If it did, then why can you walk in a room and feel the vibration left behind, positive or negative, from whomever was their last.

There are some relationships that need to come to an end. Some people are better off separated and divorced. But many people are not – and they have a chance to heal the wounds if they’ll douse the fire before talking; if they’ll relax, breathe and take a step back.

Never think the other person cannot be persuaded. No matter how stubborn someone may be, there is always a chance that he or she will open up if you SEE him doing so. Your image of the person you’re speaking to  holds more persuasive power than anything else you think or do.

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When it comes to your financial situation, the same rules apply. Relax, breathe and take a step back to observe what you’ve been doing. This gives you the space to change what you’re doing.

Without space, you cannot see what you’re doing right or what you’re doing wrong. You cannot see how things can be different, no matter who the president is, no matter what your past or previous setbacks.

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Matt Furey