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The Law of Sub-traction

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Here’s an important question: What can you cut out of your life that will enable you to create what you want faster and easier?

If you’re not getting the results you want, perhaps your magnet has rust on it.

You might not think the rust matters, but you WILL when you remove it and experience the difference.

Many years ago I learned that being in debt was the equivalent of going through life with a rusty magnet.

A mentor told me, “If you think you’re magnetizing what you want now, just think how well you’ll do without any debt whatsoever.”

I didn’t realize how true this was until we paid off our first mortgage way, way early.

We began utilizing our venture into “The Law of Subtraction” by adding an extra hundred dollars toward the principal each month. As the months went by, we kept bumping the amount we paid each month. Within a year my wife and I were stunned at how much money we were saving just by chipping away at the principal.

When we began this process, our objective was to cut seven years off our 30-year mortgage. But as we gained momentum, a 23-year mortgage was unacceptable.

Removing the rust of debt became a positive obsession for us. And what a thrill it was when the final payment for our mortgage was made, loooong before it was due.

At the time, our accountant objected to this silly idea of ours. He told us how much money we could save on our taxes by writing off the interest.

I told him, “We are not interested in paying hundreds of thousands of dollars in interest over 30 years in order to save a few shekels on our taxes.”

He shook his head, thinking we had it wrong when we most certainly had it right. And WE learned the difference it makes.

If you think it’s impossible to subtract debt (or anything else) from your life, reevaluate that notion. It’s nothing more than a mental image, which you have the power to change

Begin paying off your debt and subtracting bad habits from your life in in small chunks. And observe as you do so, how subtraction enhances and aids your ability to create the results you want.

Learn the prosperity mindset. Rid yourself of poverty thinking.

Start your day off with thoughts that empower you.

My book, 101 Ways to Magnetize Money… in Any Economy, will show you the way to prosperity. It will show you how subtraction is a grand and glorious thing.

Here’s the link to get my book NOW…

Matt Furey

P.S. Digital as well as print versions available.

Healing the Body-MInd

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Holy sheet.

I’m currently traveling around Montana and parts of Why-OM-ing, filming

This morning I was at Lake Elmo State Park in Billings. Nice and serene. Yesterday I took the Chief Joseph Scenic Byway through to get a look at Bear Tooth Mountain. Absolutely gorgeous.

Along the way I stopped to shoot clips of myself exercising in front of snow-capped mountains. ‘Twas a grand idea, until I heard the wind whipping me to and fro – as well as the BEAR AWARE signs.

I don’t want to tell you too much just yet about this new product. But I will tell you this: It will be the next level for my current grand slam, Power Postures.

As for those of you who’ve already jumped in the pool and taken advantage of the Power Postures course, I am truly grateful. Thank you so much.

Now I’m left wondering if I should grant those who have not yet ordered another brief opportunity at the current amount – before it SURGES.

And the answer is a redounding… YES.

The amount to get involved has already gone up three times – and it will again, but there’s still time to take advantage of this HUGE offering.

Jump on this NOW, my friend.

Go to Power Postures and begin RECHARGING your mind-body.

Heal your aches and pains FAST with this energetic medicine.

Matt Furey

Burning Desire Goals

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“A burning desire doesn’t mean that
you flex your muscles with excitement,
it doesn’t mean stiffening your spine
and attempting to PHYSICALLY
force your goal upon the world.

A burning desire is a similar to the
story in Genesis of the burning bush.
The bush is on fire but the fire does
not consume the bush.

And so it is with YOU.

You have a desire that burns of its
own accord, it burns within your
heart and mind. It burns without
effort or struggle because you
pictured what you wanted with
so much enthusiasm that the
desire takes on a life of its own.

You wanted this desire.
Now the desire wants you.”

– Matt Furey
If you already own the classic, Psycho-Cybernetics, then continue your journey with Zero Resistance Living and Theatre of the Mind

Do You Need to Feel Proud of Yourself?

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A man recently told me that he wants to feel proud of himself, but he currently doesn’t.

Even though he’s accomplished a lot in his life, he thinks he should feel proud.

What do you think I told him?

Well, I didn’t tell him to focus on feeling proud. I didn’t tell him that he needs to love himself more.

Instead, I told him that his desire to feel proud of himself is a distraction. I told him that I give zero thought to whether or not I feel proud of what I have accomplished.

Gratitude, yes.

When I create a result, when I accomplish a goal, I am grateful and appreciative. I take a moment to pause and acknowledge the reality that I brought something into being that was nothing more than an idea not that long ago.

But the key is this: Tomorrow will be here sooner than we expect, and if you’re sitting around not feeling good about yourself, it is NOT because you don’t have enough pride or self-love. It’s because you’re not creating something NEW… NOW, in this moment.

Regardless of what you’ve created in the past, regardless of how proud you might have felt before, if you are not consciously creating something new on a daily basis, if you’re not moving forward in life, then the demons of self-doubt, worry, fear and self-loathing come into your life and hold you back.

When this happens, you might think that the “fix” is to focus on feeling proud of yourself. Sure, you can focus on feeling proud, but this akin to putting medicine on a wound that isn’t there.

The wound you want to address is the one that is sitting on its ass, not moving forward, not accomplishing something new.

The moment you begin creating something new, you put yourself into a different mindset, a different realm, a different universe.

You naturally begin to feel good even though you are not focusing on it.

You get into the zone, into a creative flow. You begin enjoying life and yourself by taking the focus off yourself and putting it on something “out there” that you want to bring into your life.

It could be something as simple as gardening. It could be cleaning up your disorganized home or office.

It could be learning how to write cursive, instead of printing in block letters.

Or learning to draw something better than stick figures.

It can be writing a real letter to a friend, or putting together an article or book.

It can be learning to play a musical instrument. Or learning woodworking skills. Or martial arts.

And yes, it can be learning how to increase your income by upgrading your existing skills.

The Creator gave you the power and the ability to create. Are you using this power, or are you sitting around looking at your eye-fone all day?

The more time you spend on your devices, especially on social media, the less power you will feel you have to create the results you want in your life.

But the moment you put the devices in another room and shut off the television, the desire to create something new begins to grow within you. You WANT to do something else, something MORE, something where you, without understanding how it works, feel creatively alive and happy.

Get in the habit of creating something new each day. It does not need to be something BIG. It could take you 5-10 minutes. Then again, it might take you a few hours. It might take all day.

Regardless of how long it takes, when you are busy “doing the thing,” you will come to realize a profound difference in how you feel. Before you were trying to feel good about yourself, to feel proud of who you are. Yet now, when you suspend this idea of feeling proud of yourself, when you focus on getting something accomplished, you activate the feel-good chemicals in your brain and body.

Just as the only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary, the only place that feeling good comes before creating something is lala-land.

As for tools that can help you along the path, the BEST material I have ever found for activating this CREATIVE MECHANISM within yourself, are the exercises in the Zero Resistance Living course.

You’ll learn to use the power of DAILY GOALS in a way you’ve never done before – and as a consequence, you will start to get the results you want in life.

Will these results make you feel good about yourself?

For today, yes.

Then what?

You rinse yourself off, you clear the calculator – and you repeat the same type of creative process every single day.

It will become a habit for you – and when it does, look out world.

You are on a roll.

Grab a hold of Zero Resistance Living NOW and keep me apprised of how you are getting along.

By the way, the current price for this course will be going up in a day or two. So jump on this offer immediately.

Matt Furey

Master-bating Sauna People

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I was sitting in the sauna last night, per usual, getting my 30 minutes in.

For the first half of the session, there wasn’t much chatter, giving me time to focus on some deep breaths.

Then the much younger males began talking about fasting and their spiritual practices. And it wasn’t long before these blokes started joking about jerking.

At first I thought they were playfully jesting about choking their chickens, but soon realized they weren’t. They were unashamedly revealing their porn fixation and hand-eye tendencies.

I sat silently, wondering how deep they would travel down this hole. To my amazement, they weren’t as unashamed as they previously appeared.

“It’s a bad habit,” a bearded one remarked. “I was able to go ten days without doing it, then I gave in. I couldn’t help myself.”

“I gave it up,” another replied. “The key for me was to watch the videos but not to touch it. Then this led to not watching at all.”

“I know it’s not good for you,” said the bearded gent. “Watching that stuff is bad for your brain.”

The abstainer then admitted that when he was fapping he didn’t have any meaningful conversations with women. “I told myself I gotta get away from this. I gotta go and meet real people.”

“It’s hard,” the bearded one mentioned. “They make this crap so addictive.”

The guy sitting next to me noted my ears. “I see you got some cauliflower ears,” he says.

I nodded.

“You do jujitsu?”

“No.”

“Well, what do you do then?”

“All kinds of stuff,” I answered.

“You wrestle?”

“I’ve done some of that. Now I’m sitting in the sauna listening to interesting conversations that I can write about.”

“Uh-oh..”

“No worries. I don’t name any names.”

“What’s your name?”

“No name.”

“You don’t have a name?”

“I do. It’s noname’. Just say it with a slight accent and it’ll make sense.”

I looked at my timer.

“How long you staying in here?”

“Thirty minutes. And I have 58 seconds to go.”

As the final seconds ticked away, I stood and headed out the door.

“Who is that guy?” I heard as I was getting ready for my cold shower.

As the cold water poured over my back, I silently laughed to myself.

Noname’.

No fapping Noname’.

Matt Furey

By the way, if you have bad habits you want to break, check out Zero Resistance Living.

If You Want it All NOW, Read This…

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In Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, Veruca Salt exclaims, “Hey Daddy, I want an oompah loompah. I want you to get me an oompah loompah right away.”

“Alright, alright Ruca,” replied Mr. Salt. “I’ll get you one before the day is out.”

This was too much for the Verucabrat, who immediately demanded, “I want an oompah loompah noooow.”

“Can it you nit,” popped Violent Beauregard, who was no prize herself in regard to patience..

The notion that good things take time is lost to so many.

It’s a pity because the feeling of being unable to get what you want immediately after beginning, especially with fitness, usually leads to frustration, bad decisions as well as injuries.

A few years back I was working on a strength feat, wherein I was taught to make gradual progress. Everything was going according to plan, until a friend, who had already accomplished the feat, prodded me to make it happen much, much faster.

Why bother with the slower and steadier approach? Let’s do it today, preferably within minutes.

Even though I knew better, even though I knew the dangers, I caved into the temptation to get it ALL NOW.

The result: a dumb thumb injury that took almost one year to completely heal.

If I had stayed on the correct course, I would have accomplished the feat in three to six months. Instead, six months after “getting out of my comfort zone,” I was still nursing the injury.

When I advise people on various exercises and methods of training, I usually say, “Let’s look at this as a minimum six-month project, but it may take longer.” If the person thinks that six-to-twelve months is too long, then there’s no point in getting started. This doesn’t mean you won’t get ANY results for six months. You WILL get incredible results and quickly – but the biggest bang for your bucks, the biggest return on investment, comes cumulatively. Your routine gathers momentum that blasts through all barriers, just not within the hour.

A few months ago, a man contacted me to get my help reaching his goal of 500-straight Hindu squats. This is a common request, but many people just don’t want to hear that it takes time to reach the 500-level.

They want to be at 500 now.

Back in 20002, I went abroad to teach a few seminars. While there I met a man who got my book and DVDs on Combat Conditioning.

After he read the instructions for Hindu squats, he started doing them with the intention of doing 500 reps in a single workout.

It took him an hour, but he did do it, albeit incorrectly. He was sore for DAYS afterward.

[Note: When you can truly do 500-straight Hindu squats the proper way, you will finish in 15 minutes, or less.]

After the man told me of his accomplishment, I asked him how often he does the exercise now. He told me he hasn’t done Hindu squats since the day he did 500.

You want to know why?

It’s because he did what so many people wrongfully suggest. He pushed himself “out of his comfort zone,” and afterward he couldn’t get himself to go there again.

So I switched him to the “get into your comfort zone” approach, which I learned from my study of Psycho-Cybernetics, as well as my practice of martial arts.

[Note: Incidentally, you will NOT find a single instance in Psycho-Cybernetics, where Dr. Maltz tells you to “get out of your comfort zone.”
In fact, I will emphatically state that the entire book teaches you to get INTO your comfort zone and allow it to expand organically.]

Anyway, after starting him out with the “comfort-zone approach,” he reached 500 reps in a row within six months, and kept doing them afterward, with ease.

One approach fried the man’s nervous system; the other gave him new life. One approach led to frustration and agony; the other to a feeling of personal mastery.

Which road will you choose to travel?

Here endeth the lesson!

Matt Furey

Start small and you can have it all

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There’s a saying, “Beginning is half-done.” Yes, getting started is often half the battle, if not more.

Yet, we tend to ignore the power of getting started.

We often overlook the fact that walking through the door, or showing up, is of monumental value.

Instead of being taught to win the small battles first, we are admonished to “get out of your comfort zone,” to tackle the big goal. This is clearly bad advice as most people who say they “believe” you must get out of your comfort zone, seldom do so.

The counterintuitive reality is that we are at our best when we begin from within our comfort zone and effortlessly, organically allow ourselves to expand beyond all expectations.

Years ago I figured this out when I kept procrastinating on tidying up and reorganizing my office. Realizing that this was going to take quite a while, I put the chore off. For weeks.

Then one evening I set a ridiculously small goal. Instead of focusing on the job being completed, I put my attention on getting started. I gave myself a simple action goal to “clean my office for five minutes.”

It was a ludicrous goal in comparison to the many hours that were required. But something surreal took place when I set this tiny goal.

First, I had zero resistance to getting started. I began immediately.

Second, once I engaged, five minutes turned into a quick 30.

Third, once I got to 30 minutes, I had so much momentum that I kept going for several hours. I began at 7 PM and continued until 3 AM.

Oddly enough, I had no fatigue. Despite the late hour I wanted to continue. I was waaaay beyond my so-called “comfort zone,” and was totally comfortable being there. I didn’t have a shread of fight, flight or freeze

I stopped myself, though, and went to sleep.

The next evening i employed the same gambit. I set another five-minute goal to see if the same thing would happen. And sure as the sheets of paper I was shredding, five minutes became 30, and 30 minutes turned into hours. Once again, I called it a day at 3 AM.

Incredible, I thought.

On the third day I could smell the finish. I was within range to taste victory. Even so, I began with another tiny goal, and the same thing happened again. The only difference was that instead of retiring at 3 AM, the job was completed by midnight.

There was no dread as I worked. I was in the ZONE, living in the NOW for a grand total of 21 hours. If you had told me I would enjoy spending 21 hours organizing my office, I would have scoffed. There’s no way that could happen, yet it did.

If, on the other hand, I pushed myself to get out of my comfort zone, there is no way I would have had the same zero resistance experience. No way at all..

This story illustrates why I teach people to begin with small daily goals that you can spontaneously upgrade on the fly. You might think the big, hairy goal is better, but nothing favorably compares to eating the elephant one morsel at a time.

Matt Furey

By the way, I have much more to reveal to you on this subject in Zero Resistance Living and Theatre of the Mind. Both products are available at psycho-cybernetics.com

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Is Slow Not the Way to Go?

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To move slowly is holy.
To go faster is disaster.
When you are able to mix the two,
you easily land strikes with fist and shoe.
And become a living, breathing bugaboo.
– el Furecat

It’s a tough one for many people to accept. They attempt to live their lives the way it was depicted in the 1970’s Marathon candy bar commercial: “I am Quick Claude. I do everything fast.”

But could Quick Claude eat a Marathon bar fast?

He tried but he couldn’t do it. Not for a single bite.

So it goes with learning a new skill. We want to learn fast, we want immediate results, but most of the time, this mindset leads to frustration and failure.

There is, however, a faster way to learn anything, and it is the opposite of what you might think. It is called slowing down. It is called taking your time; not rushing.

Most people opt for faster and what they get are tons of mistakes. These mistakes are correctable, but not if you refuse to slow down.

Last night I spoke with a client who has the first draft of a book finished. Now he’s engaged in the slow, laborious task of editing. “Ugh. Editing sucks,” he moaned. “It’s so slow.”

“All great writing is in the editing,” I said. “Slow it down even more.”

“But I am already going slow. You want me to go even slower?”

“Yes. Slower is faster. To go faster you go slower.”

“Hmm?” he questioned.

“Let’s talk physics for a moment, shall we? Maybe it will help you see through the darkness.”

“Okay.”

“Explain the mechanics of an archer to me. What does he have to do before he shoots the arrow?”

“He has to pull the bowstring back,” he replied.

“And then what?”

“He lets the arrow go by releasing the string.”

“Correct. Does he do this fast to learn the skill?”

“No,”

“Correct. What about a golf swing? Is it done quickly?”

“Not if you want to hit the ball hard and straight.”

“And what about the swing itself? Do you move forward first or do you go backward?”

“You go backward.”

“Why?” I asked.

“So you gather enough energy to drive through the ball.”

“Why not go forward first? It’s seems to me that would be faster.”

“It might seem that way but it isn’t,” he replied.

I continued, “What about the baseball pitcher who is throwing a 100-miles per hour fastball?”

“Uh, he goes backwards first, too.”

“Does the pitcher go backwards fast or slow?”

“Slow,” he replied.

“Yet this helps him throw gas?”

“It sure does.”

“How does this relate to the mental game of writing?” I questioned.

“Slow it down.”

“Correct. But what else?”

“I’m not sure,” he remarked.

“You slow it down even more by sitting in a chair and taking a few minutes to visualize yourself editing. Picture the book being finished. And picture where you are in relation to the goal of being finished. This is the mental equivalent of pulling the bowstring back. It’s the same as a good backswing. You create tension first, then you release it. This is how you create speed.”

“Ah, this makes sense,” he said.

“Have you ever cracked a bullwhip?” I wondered.

“No.”

“Well, in order to do it, you have to bring the whip backward slowly. Then you bring it forward at the exact same slow speed. And as the whip comes forward, at the last instant, you tense your hand. You are relaxed until almost the very end of the movement. You have any idea how fast that whip is moving?”

“I don’t know. Maybe 100 miles per hour.”

“100 miles per hour is not going to make a whip crack,” I chuckled. “For it to crack it has to break the sound barrier. This means the cracker at the end of the whip has to traveling at least 767 miles per hour. You cannot make it crack if you rush. You have to relax and let the whip crack itself. If you force the whip with the idea of adding speed, it won’t crack. And when you try to go really fast, you can damage your tendons. It’s the same with writing and editing. Slow is fast and fast is slow.”

Here endeth the lesson.

Matt Furey

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Almost 60

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There’s this idea that you only live once. YOLO for short.

Then there’s the notion that we have lived many lifetimes; that we pass away and come back, ad infinitum.

But what about having multiple lifetimes in one lifetime? As I ponder this dream-reality existence I am living, it makes sense. Maybe not a ton of sense, but a fair amount, especially as a creator.

Why limit yourself to one idea over another? Why not be both simultaneously?

You live multiple times in one lifetime. Yet, you can look back and learn from your experiences, if you’ll take the time to remember.

Back in 2012, while staying in a hotel in Los Angeles, I saw a vertical banner outside a conference room. The banner showcased a man who was having a seminar. I looked at the guy on the banner and thought to myself, “I used to do that, too.”

The reality was that I still did seminars, occasionally, yet in my mind, I didn’t do them anymore.

‘Twas a strange insight for el Furecat.

The question that arose from this interlude was not, “Who am I?”

It was, “Who the hell was I?”

Then there are the mode changes throughout the course of a single day. In one moment, I am practicing martial arts, in another I am reading a book, in yet another I am writing. Who am I in each of these whirlds? The same person?

Yesterday, I was reading the words of Henry Miller. To paraphrase, he wrote that he gave up the idea of enjoying his life, opting instead to focus on expressing himself. A novel idea that only a novelist could put into words.

To enjoy your life or to express yourself? Now that is a million-dollar question.

Last week, a friend asked me how I overcome feelings of burnout or fatigue. In response I told him, “If you’re feeling fatigued, you aren’t creating anything new. But as soon as you begin creating something new, you instantly feel energized with new life.”

“That’s pure gold,” he exclaimed. “I am writing that one down.”

“Maybe I will cover that in my next seminar,” I quipped. “Come to think of it, I am contemplating the idea of having a belated birthday bash seminar later this year.”

As soon as I got the idea of holding another seminar, guess what happened? New life flowed into my veins.

What a novel idea.

Another potential lifetime inside of this one.

You only live once?

No way. At least not in this lifetime.

Matt Furey

How to Whoop an 11,000-Pound Elephant

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Over the past few days I have talked with several people who are frustrated because they haven’t been taking action to accomplish what they’ve set out to do.

It’s a common predicament that many people find themselves in, especially after crafting a list of big goals that initially “got them excited.”

I refer to this as the “Going to Bed Excited and Waking Up Anxious” realm of reality.

Feelings of overwhelm quickly set in when you cannot get your butt off the coach to do what you supposedly claimed you wanted to do.

Why does this happen to so many well-intentioned people?

The reason is simple: You’ve bought into the wrongness of Thinking Big when you really ought to be focused on the “small stuff.”

As a writer, if I have a big project to tackle, I cannot get myself going if I think too much about the enormity of the task. This causes the Resistance Reflex to manifest. But if I think only about warming up my index finger with a few strokes of my pen (or on a keyboard), I forget about myself and my feelings, and I get on with the simplest of tasks.

There is usually zero resistance to simple tasks and small goals. The key is finding out how you can woo the elephant into submission.

Picture an 11,000 pound elephant. Even if you’re a leviathan, you’ll probably have trouble tackling it. The elephant can fling you away with a light movement of its trunk. It can also latch onto you and remove your limbs, or stomp you into the ground. And yes, this does happen on occasion.

But if you are wise, you figure out how to coax the elephant and remain out of harms way.

Imagine that your big goal is an elephant. In order to subdue it you must figure out and utilize the simplest approach; an approach wherein you do not spook or startle the elephant, because if you do it will resist and retaliate.

This resistance is what happens when people set big goals before their subconscious mind is ready for them. You can attempt to overpower your subconscious with positive thinking, but this is unlikely to work as you’re dealing with an 11,000-pound animal.

So you chunk that elephant into much smaller goals to make it ridiculously easy for you to take your first step. Once you’ve taken your first step, the next ones come easier.

When you focus on getting started, you begin to realize the value of the saying, “Beginning is half-done.”

Consider this: When you take your first step, even if you have a long road ahead of you, you’re half-done.

Why? Because beginning is the hardest part. Beginning is when you show that you’ve reduced and overcome the resistance, which is far greater before you begin than it is in the middle.

Once you’re in the middle, chances are that you’re no longer concerned with how long it will take or how hard it is. You’re so busy doing that you’re no longer thinking.

Last night I spoke with a man who is flustered, who cannot get himself going. After he answered a few easy questions, he realized that all his goals are too big and too far off I explained to him that he doesn’t need to drop his big goals, but he could benefit from having some bite-sized goals that do not activate resistance.

I told him:

“When you focus on goals for today,
you move resistance out of the way.”

Then I added one of my all-time favorite Fureyisms:

“When you think too big, you stumble on every twig.
When you think small, you realize you can have it all.”

The man exhaled. It was an exhale of relief.

Now he’s taking action and gaining traction.

He’s going to conquer that elephant by focusing on its tail instead of its trunk.

Here endeth the lesson.

Matt Furey

By the way, you can remove your resistance to success by utilizing the techniques in Zero Resistance Living, available at psycho-cybernetics.com

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