Here’s how a lot of self-development people tell you to change your beliefs.
First, you figure out what your negative self-talk is on any number of subjects. Perhaps you think you’re not good at math. Or you tell yourself you can’t write, draw or make money.
Second, you set out to change what you think of yourself. Gotta get rid of those negative beliefs.
Third, you record your negative thoughts/beliefs on paper, analyze them and figure out the opposite, which you then record as your NEW beliefs.
“I can’t play the piano” is changed to “I can play the piano.”
“I weigh 390 pounds” is changed to “I am now at my ideal weight.”
“I’m broke” is changed to “I am a millionaire.”
Tell me the truth when I ask, “How’s that working out for you?”
Chances are excellent that all the “work” you’re doing to change your beliefs isn’t bearing fruit. And there are plenty of reasons. The biggest of all is that words are not mental images.
The reason positive thinking doesn’t work is because you are only dealing with words. If your words do not match the mental images you have in your mind, positive changes will not take place.
The same goes with prayer. If you pray in a state of fear, your imagery doesn’t match your request. But if you pray in a state of confidence and faith, the power is out of this world.
Positive affirmations, for many people, are band-aids. They cover up the wound, the scar, the infection, but they do not fix anything.
The same goes for all those attempts to change your beliefs. If the image you have in your mind doesn’t shift to something much more appetizing, your beliefs will remain the same.
This is why I teach you to make no conscious effort to change your beliefs. Most of your beliefs took hold in your mind unconsciously and effortlessly, therefore, attempts to upgrade them should also be effortless and spontaneous, not forced or rehearsed.
This is where Dao Zou comes in. This program is designed to be used without effort or will power. This means it puts you into a “feel good” state without “trying.” And it doesn’t matter whether or not you believe this feel good state will happen. It just does.
Effortless effort is the idea you want to allow into your mind. Stop trying so hard to make changes in your life. Start with small stuff and build momentum; build a sense of flow. Once you have momentum, anything becomes not only possible, but doable.
Feeling good is much easier to accomplish when you engage your physical body along with your mind. The practice of Dao Zou grabs hold of your brain and nervous system and reorganizes your emotions to be much more positive and productive, naturally, without pressure or angst.
Dao Zou accelerates the practices of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind substantially. That’s why I recommend it to you so often.
See it. Feel it. Become it.
Matt Furey
The Biggest Self-Help Lies
One of the four biggest lies of the self-development industry is the idea that you… must get out of your comfort zone.
In stark contrast, the book, Psycho-Cybernetics, teaches you how to GET INTO the comfort zone – not out of it.
Yesterday I spoke with a man who received poor grades in school. He had a bad experience early on that made him uncomfortable, and this experience haunted him for years.
The man was a C-student as a youth, yet when you look at what he’s accomplished since then, you’ll see that he’s a different person today.
What happened that led to his shift?
Well, in short, he FOUND his comfort zone. He studied what he wanted to learn, not what was forced upon him. Also, being he was no longer surrounded by other students and teachers that reminded him of being a C-student, he was free to grow.
Years later, in his first attempt to pass a professional exam that most people fail more than once, he aced it. A-students failed while he succeeded.
Think about it this way: Whenever you attempt to study a subject while under psychological stress, you’ll find it isn’t so easy. But if the stress is turned into comfort, the speed at which you can learn is staggering.
Children naturally and easily can learn three or more languages, simultaneously, when they grow up in a comfortable environment where more than one language is spoken.
I saw this take place in our own home. When my son was only three years of age, he could hold court in the living room, going from person to person, telling a story in English, Mandarin, Shanghainese and Sichuanese (three Chinese dialects that are only called dialects because the written characters match – even though what comes out of your mouth sounds like a different language).
Our minds are sponges. We can absorb information and learn with ease, when we are comfortable. Learning is stymied or stifled when unnecessary stress is applied.
This is why every visualization/meditation technique I teach is designed to PUT YOU INTO YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
Once you get into your comfort zone, the limits on what you can accomplish are shattered.
Yes, you can deliberately push yourself into an uncomfortable situation, but ONLY if you are INTERNALLY comfortable with the idea.
That’s how it works, my friends.
Why are some people willing to pour a five-gallon bucket of ice water over their heads while others are not willing to do so?
Why do some people travel the world while others won’t leave their hometown?
Why do some people stay up late at night, working on creating a new career, while others sleep?
The answer isn’t that they’re pushing themselves OUT of their comfort zones.
The answer is that they are comfortable with the idea of doing what others refuse to do.
This is one of many reasons I tell people to practice Dao Zou, a moving visualization/meditation that eliminates all the emotional stresses of the day, puts you into your comfort zone, and allows you to create the life you wish to live.
If you visualize when you’re NOT in your comfort zone, don’t expect anything good to come from it.
On the contrary, when you visualize while INSIDE your comfort zone, big, BIG, BIIIIIG changes take place in your life – for the better.
Dao Zou puts you into the zone, the comfort zone, without even trying. Just follow my instructions and you’ll be amazed.
See it. Feel it. Do it.
Matt Furey
Why Will Power Doesn’t Work
“In the battle between will power and imagination, will power always loses.
Will power loses because it imposes and forces its way. Imagination wins
because it creates spontaneous, natural rhythm and flow. Will power causes
resistance while imagination creates momentum.”
– Matt Furey
My best-selling product, Dao Zou, strengthens your imagination along with your body. There is no will power used whatsoever in this program. Meditatively move as you picture your goals. Breathe deeply, connect and let go. Feel the buzz of energy you’ve heard about, but never experienced.
Are You Alright?
One of my subscribers wrote to tell me he was outdoors, practicing Dao Zou, feeling the bliss of the moving meditation/visualization program he got from me.
A lady reported him. She didn’t understand what the man was doing.
The police showed up and asked the man if he was “alright.”
Without a shred of panic or fear, he told the cops that he was doing better than ever. They picked up on his smiling energy, smiled back and left him alone.
15 years ago I was staying at the Beau Rivage in Biloxi, Mississippi. Each night I would practice this moving meditation in front of the hotel/casino. I don’t recall anyone looking at me funny. And if they were, I was oblivious and immune to it.
Until the final night, when someone pulled to the curb, rolled down her windows and asked, “Are you alright?”
Funny, isn’t it?
When we take time to be silent, to go within, to regroup, most people will leave you alone, but there’s always that one person who doesn’t have a clue of what to do. The person is concerned about you – and it’s good to have people who care.
The greatness of Dao Zou is it makes you so peaceful and powerful, you don’t care if people don’t understand what you’re doing. You’re in the Zone – and ain’t no better feeling than that.
Mastering your mind isn’t only sitting and thinking positive thoughts when everything is going grand. It’s getting up and moving into the Zone when things aren’t necessarily perfect, when you’re in an agitated, anxious or downtrodden state.
Sometimes when we’re sitting, if we’re filled with angst and anxiety, stress and strain, it feels much more difficult to get back into balance. But when you move, the world inside of you changes – and thus, the world outside of you, provided you do so with a meditative mindset.
As my friend, Dr. Tom Hanson, author of Play Big, put it in a recent conversation, “It gives you a different lens to look at the world.”
What lens are you using?
One that puts everything in front of you with a fear, fight or freeze response?
Or one that allows you to put the stresses of the day miles away?
Yes, it’s easy to get sucked into the negativity in the news. But it’s even easier to back away from it.
The bonus for walking away from the negativity is that you get to feel positively blissful for no reason whatsoever, the way you were as a young child.
When you were young, you didn’t need a reason to be happy. You just were.
That’s what happens when you practice Dao Zou and Theatre of the Mind.
Happy, for no explainable reason.
Ah, the joy of practice.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Fastest Way to End Overwhelm
It’s almost too simple to be believed, yet it’s true.
Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or anxious, you are mentally picturing the wrong thing.
Most of the time, the “thing” you are picturing is yourself and the corresponding erroneous notions of not being good enough, smart enough, talented enough, and so on.
In short, you don’t believe in yourself – and you think you should.
Why?
Because that’s what everyone has told you.
“You need to believe in yourself. If you would just believe in yourself, you could do so much better.”
Today, I’m here to tell you that there’s a way out of the maze. And it’s not sitting around working on your personal beliefs.
This is a realization I arrived at one day when I watched my son and daughter accomplish feats that neither of them believed they could accomplish, beforehand. Yet, both of them did.
My son batted .506 his junior year in high school with a 24-game hitting streak. Did he believe he was going to do this ahead of time? Absolutely not.
My daughter’s involvement in ballet grew to the point where she wanted to learn pointe toe and eventually showcase her skills in The Nutcracker, even though she doesn’t have your typical ballet body.
How did the two of them accomplish these objectives if they didn’t believe they were going to?
It’s simple: They suspended their personal beliefs on the matter. They did not focus on whether or not they could or could not do it. Instead, they put their focus on the mental pictures that lead to the finish line. In short, they visualized and imagined being where they wanted to be.
I’m sure that if my son and daughter sat around thinking about their personal beliefs about their goals, they would have felt a sense of overwhelm.
Why do I say this? I say it because of all the people I have seen who are focused on themselves instead of the objective. And guess what happens to them? They get overwhelmed with negative emotions.
Their focus is on whether they are good enough, likable enough, credible enough, tall enough, fit enough, well-dressed enough, ad infinitum, ad nauseam.
Meanwhile, someone who never thinks about any of the above, someone who is far less talented, good looking, etc. focuses on the objective and nails it.
Funny, eh?
Well then, what’s the way out of this mess?
It begins by reversing the erroneous notions you were taught. And the way to begin reversing them is by practicing Dao Zou – a moving meditation technique I learned over 15 years ago that I use to eliminate negative emotions of every kind.
Why do I recommend this program? I recommend it because it combines movement with visualization and deep breathing.
In short, you’re practicing what I wrote about in Theatre of the Mind, while you’re on the go. This means you’re nailing two objectives with one arrow.
One of my coaching members has been practicing Dao Zou for nearly ninety straight days, without a miss. To say his life has been transformed would be underplaying the reality of the situation.
As you move, suspend your beliefs about can or cannot, about believe or believe not. Just follow the program and you will make your own discoveries.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Psycho-Cybernetics.com
P.S. Looking for coaching on how to succeed without worrying or belly-aching over your limiting beliefs? Drop me a line and I’ll get back with you.
Why Limiting Beliefs Are a Crock
Over and over, we’ve been told we have “limiting beliefs,” and these beliefs represent where we are in life.
The prevailing presumption is that limiting beliefs are a “problem” that must be fixed if we want to be successful.
Instead of viewing them as a new starting point on the road of creation, we cringe at the thought of having them at all. This puts the focus on ourselves instead of putting it on what we want to accomplish.
The questions I propose are as follows:
1. Is it really necessary to focus on your personal limiting beliefs?
2. Can you bypass your limiting beliefs and become successful in spite of them?
Think about these questions for a short spell and see if you can come up with something you succeeded in, even though you didn’t necessarily believe you had the qualities necessary to pull it off.
I’m betting you can.
I have a client who dropped nearly 100 pounds over the past year. For much of that time he’s been telling me, “I can’t believe it. I can’t believe how the weight came off so easily. I can’t believe how it’s staying off.”
Never once, not even a single time, have I interrupted him to say, “Don’t say that. You must believe in yourself.”
This man is living proof that the key to his weight loss success wasn’t predicated on whether he believed he could or couldn’t do it. It was all about mentally picturing the kind of results he wanted and the steps he was to follow to attain them.
If you can mentally picture a result and the process you want to follow, you will naturally begin moving in a fortuitous direction. No amount of time sitting around convincing yourself that you believe you can is going to accomplish the task for you.
Yet, a short period of time visualizing the result you want, imagining, feeling and sensing yourself already there, while suspending the idea of whether or not you believe you have “the stuff” to pull it off, will move you closer to the target.
Don’t believe me?
Then test it out and see for yourself how the crock of “limiting beliefs” isn’t holding you back at all.
Give no thought as to whether or not you believe you can accomplish a goal. Instead, take the focus off your beliefs and put it on “the thing.”
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
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Coach of the Year
A quick note of congratulations to my friend, Nick Nurse, who was named NBA Coach of the Year for 2019-2020 season.
Nick and I grew up in Carroll, Iowa, and attended the same high school.
In 2007, at one of my live events, Nick gave me two signed basketballs, one of which contained a message regarding his goal to become an NBA coach.
To hear the rest of the story, you’ll want to listen to Theatre of the Mind.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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Give Up Fear
One early morning last month, as I was moving from dreamland to a waking state, I received an answer to a question that had been ruminating in my noggin for several days.
The answer came to me in three words.
Give up X.
In my particular case, the X was “coffee.”
Off and on, for years, I toyed with the idea of giving up coffee, but always chose to come back to it, for a number of reasons, one of which is the purported health benefits.
For the most part, I didn’t drink coffee for the caffeine kick. I drank it out of habit. It was part of my daily ritual.
Get up. Make coffee. Sip coffee while reading or preparing for a workout.
Nothing wrong with having coffee – except, maybe it was becoming wrong for me.
So I gave it up that morning, cold turkey. I did so by crafting a different mental picture of myself in relation to the drink, and what I would tell myself each day to stay away from it.
I went 24 hours without a sip of coffee.
Could I go another day without it?
Turns out, yes.
And another?
Yes.
Now here I am, some 40+ days later, free from the black bean.
As I think about it, the process I followed was incredibly simple. I wondered if the method I used would be effective in eliminating negative emotions, such as fear, worry, anger, doubt, and so on.
Turns out it works on emotions, too.
In order for it to work, though, you must either have “the desire” to give something up, or want to have the desire.
Yes, you can have a desire to have more desire. Interesting, eh?
I thought so, too.
See it. Feel it. Be IT.
Matt Furey
By the way: Increasing desire is something my Mind Power Monthly Coaching Members are learning in illustrious detail. If you want to increase your desire, too, send me an email about your situation and what you want to accomplish.
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The Worst Positive Thinking Advice Ever Given
If it’s not the worst advice, it probably should be.
When you don’t have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out, when you’re down in the dumps, the last thing you need to be telling yourself is, “I AM RICH.”
Acknowledging the truth may hurt a bit, but it will also set you free.
Having a financial goal is important, but at the end of the day, you must also acknowledge the facts with questions such as, “Where am I now?”
To move in the direction of what you want, you must simultaneously keep in mind where you are along the way.
Contrary to what so many in the self-development industry will tell you, giving an accurate report of where you are in relationship to your goal will not hurt you. It will EMPOWER you.
Yes, I am telling you that you need to see yourself where you want to be – BUT… you also need to see yourself where you are in this moment.
Self-acceptance is part of the formula mapped out by Dr. Maxwell Maltz in Psycho-Cybernetics.
Accept who you are and where you are in this moment, then work on achieving daily goals that move you in the direction of what is important to you.
Ask yourself, is saying, “I AM RICH,” or “I AM a MILLIONAIRE” working for me? Once you ask this question, accept the answer. And accept yourself in the process.
I have coached people who used to state the above affirmations on a daily basis… and they were no further along than the day they started. In many cases, they were worse off. Yet, round and round they went, hoping that their positive self-talk would eventually work.
Once they realized that mental imagery is king – especially imagery that is mixed with reality-based affirmations, everything shifted toward the positive.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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The Only Affirmations that Work
Everyday I speak with people who are frustrated with the results of “changing their beliefs” via affirmations, self-talk and so on.
They are usually shocked when I tell them they don’t need to try so hard to change their beliefs, that their beliefs will automatically upgrade when you’ve established momentum and flow.
If you’ve used an affirmation and had it backfire, i.e. the opposite of what you declared happens, tune into what I’m stating.
First, you are not alone. Second, there is a way out of the mess you find yourself in.
Shall I give you an example?
Last week, one of my Mind Power Monthly coaching members, wrote to tell me that he has been stating a positive affirmation for years having to do with wealth and abundance.
It was one of those affirmations I refer to as an “IAMI,” as in I-AM-I.
I am wealthy and prosperous now. I am a millionaire. I am rich. I am blessed. Etcetera, etcetera, blah, blah.
Here’s the kicker: The man told me he could not visualize himself being any of the above.
Yet, after reading my monthly newsletter – he changed his words to those that created momentum and within seconds he was, for the first time in his life, able to visualize effectively. He could see himself where he wants to be. He didn’t attempt to force the imagery into his mind. The imagery came to him, seemingly of its own accord, spontaneously.
Now we’re talking. Now we’re visualizing. Now we’re getting some results.
Dr. Maltz stated how positive thinking that is inconsistent with your self-image does not work.
To put it simply: Positive affirmations and self-talk that are inconsistent with the image you have in mind (and the feeling you have about them) do not work.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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