The Creator gave us a potent and powerful force that we use to build ourselves up, tear ourselves down… or to try to remain relatively neutral.
Although this force is within us and we use it every day of our lives, it is also hidden. It’s not deliberately hidden. It’s hidden only because we haven’t been taught how to recognize it.
We don’t see it, yet it is there at all times, in every waking and dreaming moment.
This force is encoded in every mental image we form.
What we repeatedly view in our mind’s eye, what we imagine to be true about ourselves, begins to move into our lives.
Most people use this force randomly. They picture one goal today and another one tomorrow. Because so many people are inconsistent with what they picture, they get average and/or inconsistent results. But the person who consistently pictures the same idea or goal in his or her mind, this person appears to make quantum leaps.
Yet, the leaps this person makes aren’t quantum. They are predictable.
Changing your life isn’t a matter of changing your words, your beliefs or self-talk, although these ideas can help a bit.
But the biggest key to turning your life around is changing the mental imagery playing inside your mind. If the imagery doesn’t change, no amount of positive self-talk or belief changing will make a difference.
Many people have been erroneously taught that they are not “visual.” Not true. If you’ve struggled with the idea of visualization in the past, it’s not because you’re not visual. It’s because you were taught a one-size-fits-all approach to it that only works for some people.
As my clients have found, there is an easier and faster way to get started with mental imagery, one that brings results quickly, and no, it’s not closing your eyes and seeing everything in high-definition.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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How NOT to Begin Your Day
Earlier today I was a coaching a young man who is having a banner year. In spite of all the shutdowns, lockdowns and quarantines, he’s crushing it.
We went over his daily routine, starting with the first thing he does when his feet hit the floor. And whaddya know, he doesn’t instantly check his dumb phone to see who texted or emailed. He doesn’t look at Twitter, FB or Insta.
Instead he begins with Theatre of the Mind. Then he does the Dao Zou workout he learned from me.
In the past, this man used to push himself to fatigue and failure. Now he pushes himself – but never too much. Instead he stops when he’s still within his comfort zone – and once he finds his comfort zone, the CZ expands spontaneously, without effort.
It’s not about push, push, push… harder, harder, harder.
Reminds me of someone who went from straight F’s to straight A’s. This wasn’t accomplished by telling him to “get out of your comfort zone.” It happened because we helped the young man become comfortable, so comfortable that he WANTED to LEARN.
I realize there are a lot of people preaching this “get out of your comfort zone” mentality. The truth is they only give you part of the story. No one puts himself or herself into an uncomfortable situation unless and until the person is comfortable.. INTERNALLY.
Remember how a few years ago, the ice bucket challenge became a thing? Get a 5-gallon bucket, fill it with ice water and have someone filming you as you dump it over your head.
It’s a simple task. Once the bucket is filled, all you have to do is lift it over your head and turn it over. Only takes a couple seconds… and you’re done.
If you saw people accepting this challenge, but you declined, ask yourself why. Why didn’t you do it?
I’m willing to bet that that you refused because you were “uncomfortable” with being cold, or have a fear of getting sick from ice cold water.
The people who accepted the challenge put themselves into a situation where they were probably going to be physically uncomfortable. So why did they do it? Because they were internally comfortable with the ideas of being physically uncomfortable.
I’ve played around with cold water dousing enough to recognize what I’m saying is true. I’ve gone from barely getting my feet wet to full submersion in cold water. I’ve gone from bailing within 30 seconds to hanging out for 15 minutes, and enjoying it. The secret to hanging in there is finding the comfort zone within.
One of my favorite ways to help people change their results is the daily practice of Dao Zou. It not only helps rewind your mind, it also helps you reverse the flow of negativity in your life.
If you’re getting straight F’s, that can be reversed with a change in how you think and move. If you’re terrified of the cold, or the heat, you can reverse this thinking by reversing the way you picture things in your mind.
If you’re afraid of being broke, or you’re afraid of being prosperous, understand that both of these realities begin as ideas, as images in your mind.
The same goes with anything else. Walking is nothing more than walking until you change one tiny detail of how you walk. If it’s snowing or raining or the temperature is below freezing, maybe you’re less comfortable doing it.
Imagine, though, a way of walking that was so therapeutic that it rewound your mind and made you feel fabulous, without effort; it put you into an internal comfort zone so you could effortlessly expand into realms that were only a figment of your imagination before.
Yes, I believe there is a way of walking that changes your thinking and your life, helping you transcend circumstances.
It’s called Dao Zou. And it may be the answer you’ve been searching for without even realizing it.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
Fastest Way to End Overwhelm
It’s almost too simple to be believed, yet it’s true.
Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or anxious, you are mentally picturing the wrong thing.
Most of the time, the “thing” you are picturing is yourself and the corresponding erroneous notions of not being good enough, smart enough, talented enough, and so on.
In short, you don’t believe in yourself – and you think you should.
Why?
Because that’s what everyone has told you.
“You need to believe in yourself. If you would just believe in yourself, you could do so much better.”
Today, I’m here to tell you that there’s a way out of the maze. And it’s not sitting around working on your personal beliefs.
This is a realization I arrived at one day when I watched my son and daughter accomplish feats that neither of them believed they could accomplish, beforehand. Yet, both of them did.
My son batted .506 his junior year in high school with a 24-game hitting streak. Did he believe he was going to do this ahead of time? Absolutely not.
My daughter’s involvement in ballet grew to the point where she wanted to learn pointe toe and eventually showcase her skills in The Nutcracker, even though she doesn’t have your typical ballet body.
How did the two of them accomplish these objectives if they didn’t believe they were going to?
It’s simple: They suspended their personal beliefs on the matter. They did not focus on whether or not they could or could not do it. Instead, they put their focus on the mental pictures that lead to the finish line. In short, they visualized and imagined being where they wanted to be.
I’m sure that if my son and daughter sat around thinking about their personal beliefs about their goals, they would have felt a sense of overwhelm.
Why do I say this? I say it because of all the people I have seen who are focused on themselves instead of the objective. And guess what happens to them? They get overwhelmed with negative emotions.
Their focus is on whether they are good enough, likable enough, credible enough, tall enough, fit enough, well-dressed enough, ad infinitum, ad nauseam.
Meanwhile, someone who never thinks about any of the above, someone who is far less talented, good looking, etc. focuses on the objective and nails it.
Funny, eh?
Well then, what’s the way out of this mess?
It begins by reversing the erroneous notions you were taught. And the way to begin reversing them is by practicing Dao Zou – a moving meditation technique I learned over 15 years ago that I use to eliminate negative emotions of every kind.
Why do I recommend this program? I recommend it because it combines movement with visualization and deep breathing.
In short, you’re practicing what I wrote about in Theatre of the Mind, while you’re on the go. This means you’re nailing two objectives with one arrow.
One of my coaching members has been practicing Dao Zou for nearly ninety straight days, without a miss. To say his life has been transformed would be underplaying the reality of the situation.
As you move, suspend your beliefs about can or cannot, about believe or believe not. Just follow the program and you will make your own discoveries.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Psycho-Cybernetics.com
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How to Obliterate Negative Emotions
Sometimes the best way to mediate or visualize is sitting. Sometimes it’s standing. Sometimes it’s lying down.
And then, many times, the ONLY best way is to move.
I have found the FASTEST way to clear your mind and eliminate negativity is a moving meditation practice I learned in China, called Dao Zou.
I’ve written about it and spoken about this practice for more than 15 years.
It’s still a big part of my daily practice as it puts me into a feel good state almost instantly. And the times we are living in today make Dao Zou even more valuable and vital than ever before.
Last night I was speaking with a client about how he can utilize this system in a 600-square foot room. Even though he has a maximum of approximately 15 feet from end to end, in his room, I showed him how he can still make the practice work.
As he began to practice, he felt the energy shift.
“Most people utilize sitting or lying down practices,” I told him. “These practices have their place, but in my experience, the ultimate game changer is moving meditation. Tai chi, which I also practice, is a type of moving meditation. But it takes a long time to learn. Dao Zou is different. You can learn the initial elements quickly and feel the shift almost as fast.”
Last week, I was working with another client, teaching him how Dao Zou helps you transcend rather than suppress negative feelings.
I told him how my friend, Mark, suddenly passed away a few years ago, and how I was shook up about it.
I went for a 3.5 mile walk to move through the pain, yet, upon my return, I was still out-of-sorts.
Then I got up and began practicing Dao Zou.
Using a small amount of space, I was amazed at how quickly I shifted from grief to neutral to peace of mind.
Later that day the grief returned. I got up and began using Dao Zou again. Once again, the grief disappeared. I continued using this practice to ameliorate the negative feelings until they were obliterated.
Yes, there is value in grieving, in letting out emotional strife – but grief can also harm the brain and body if it continues unabated.
When I first learned Dao Zou, I loved it because it took me to another level of feel good, creative energy. It also made me more creative and athletic.
But little did I realize at the time, that it would help neutralize negative feelings.
When you move your body in a certain way, slowly, while incorporating Zen-like deep breathing and mental imagery, you can feel amazing without any effort.
In China, many of the longest-lived people practice Dao Zou – or reverse training. It is often prescribed to help people heal and recover from various health challenges.
Dao Zou appears to clear the mind of worry, self-doubt, fear… even sadness and grief, better and faster than anything I have ever seen or witnessed. It truly is the Ultimate in Moving Meditation as it catapults you into an incredibly vibrant state of BEING, super fast.
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See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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The Flow Zone
One of the signature practices I spoke about in Theatre of the Mind, is a meditative style of walking called Dao Zou. It puts you in “the Zone” fast.
Dao Zou means to train in reverse – to go backward. Slowly.
But it leads to a quick turnaround in how you think and feel. It helps you gain a feeling of control over your mind and your life.
Incorporated in this seemingly shamanic practice are specific breathing patterns, visualizations and arm movements. When your body, breath and mind are tied together in a seamless way, you place yourself upon a path that transcends ordinary angst, fear and worry.
On numerous occasions, while teaching Dao Zou in person, the transformation from a single session is evident upon the face (and in the eyes) of the practitioner.
I began teaching Dao Zou over 15 years ago, and I have yet to find a single person who wasn’t blown away after a single session. It’s a game changer.
If you’re looking for a psycho-physical practice that will put you in “the Zone,” a practice that will put you into a state of “flow,” on command, then Dao Zou is the way to go.
Find the bliss of the comfort zone, and allow yourself to expand naturally and spontaneously, without force.
Latch onto Dao Zou today and feel an almost instantaneous change in how you feel.
See it. Feel it. Do it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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The Worst Positive Thinking Advice Ever Given
If it’s not the worst advice, it probably should be.
When you don’t have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out, when you’re down in the dumps, the last thing you need to be telling yourself is, “I AM RICH.”
Acknowledging the truth may hurt a bit, but it will also set you free.
Having a financial goal is important, but at the end of the day, you must also acknowledge the facts with questions such as, “Where am I now?”
To move in the direction of what you want, you must simultaneously keep in mind where you are along the way.
Contrary to what so many in the self-development industry will tell you, giving an accurate report of where you are in relationship to your goal will not hurt you. It will EMPOWER you.
Yes, I am telling you that you need to see yourself where you want to be – BUT… you also need to see yourself where you are in this moment.
Self-acceptance is part of the formula mapped out by Dr. Maxwell Maltz in Psycho-Cybernetics.
Accept who you are and where you are in this moment, then work on achieving daily goals that move you in the direction of what is important to you.
Ask yourself, is saying, “I AM RICH,” or “I AM a MILLIONAIRE” working for me? Once you ask this question, accept the answer. And accept yourself in the process.
I have coached people who used to state the above affirmations on a daily basis… and they were no further along than the day they started. In many cases, they were worse off. Yet, round and round they went, hoping that their positive self-talk would eventually work.
Once they realized that mental imagery is king – especially imagery that is mixed with reality-based affirmations, everything shifted toward the positive.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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The Only Affirmations that Work
Everyday I speak with people who are frustrated with the results of “changing their beliefs” via affirmations, self-talk and so on.
They are usually shocked when I tell them they don’t need to try so hard to change their beliefs, that their beliefs will automatically upgrade when you’ve established momentum and flow.
If you’ve used an affirmation and had it backfire, i.e. the opposite of what you declared happens, tune into what I’m stating.
First, you are not alone. Second, there is a way out of the mess you find yourself in.
Shall I give you an example?
Last week, one of my Mind Power Monthly coaching members, wrote to tell me that he has been stating a positive affirmation for years having to do with wealth and abundance.
It was one of those affirmations I refer to as an “IAMI,” as in I-AM-I.
I am wealthy and prosperous now. I am a millionaire. I am rich. I am blessed. Etcetera, etcetera, blah, blah.
Here’s the kicker: The man told me he could not visualize himself being any of the above.
Yet, after reading my monthly newsletter – he changed his words to those that created momentum and within seconds he was, for the first time in his life, able to visualize effectively. He could see himself where he wants to be. He didn’t attempt to force the imagery into his mind. The imagery came to him, seemingly of its own accord, spontaneously.
Now we’re talking. Now we’re visualizing. Now we’re getting some results.
Dr. Maltz stated how positive thinking that is inconsistent with your self-image does not work.
To put it simply: Positive affirmations and self-talk that are inconsistent with the image you have in mind (and the feeling you have about them) do not work.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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The Magic of Visualizing Big
You may have heard about the magic of thinking big.
I first saw a book featuring this same title when I was in high school. It’s a good one.
Yet, the title is somewhat of a misnomer.
Why? Because it’s not “thinking” that you’re doing, at least not in the logical sense of the term.
It’s VISUALIZING BIG – or IMAGINING BIG.
Years ago I wrote: “There is no magic in logic.”
This sentence came to me when I was explaining mental imagery to a person who always wanted to know the “how” before he decided on a goal, or what I refer to as a “what.”
Instead of deciding upon a goal (what?), then picturing it, he wanted to know “HOW” picturing it would help – or HOW it could even be accomplished.
This question is similar to having a basketball in your hands as you stand at the free throw line, looking at the hoop. The obvious goal is to sink the ball through the hoop, preferably with a wonder-filled “swish” sound. But instead of focusing on the goal, you want to know HOW the ball leaves your fingertips, HOW it travels through air in an upward arc, HOW the ball knows how far to travel, and HOW the ball descends at the perfect time and swooshes through the center of the net.
How does the ball move that way? isn’t a bad question. But it’s definitely out of sequence.
The first order of business is having the goal to put the ball through the hoop. Simple as that. Know the “what” before you look at the “how.”
You can learn the proper mechanics of shooting the baseketball all you want, but if you cannot SEE the ball going through the hoop in your “mind’s eye,” you’re never going to be good at sinking free throws.
Last week I was shooting hoops as I waited for a friend to join me. Before that day, I hadn’t touched a basketball in at least a year, so it took about ten minutes to find my groove.
At first, my shots were off, but in true cybernetic fashion, I used all the missed shots as corrective feedback. This means all my mistakes were guiding me to better, more accurate shooting.
Some of the corrections I made were physical or technical.
But the biggest shift I made was inside the theatre of my mind.
When my friend showed up, I was on my game. I was sinking one swisher after another.
Within 20 minutes time I went from missing almost every shot I took to making seven out of the next eight free throws.
After my friend warmed up, I taught him the visualization secrets I was using and within short order he was knocking down free throws with ease as well.
Many people mistakenly think “I got it” when they have a positive experience such as the one described above. And they make the mistake of thinking they don’t need to visualize anymore.
Wrong.
Just as you need physical practice you also need visualization practice. Both are skills that you continually work on improving. There is no point in time wherein you no longer need to practice.
Keep in mind, though, that you are always visualizing, even if you’re unwilling to see this dimension of reality at this time. So my question is: Are you taking deliberate control of your mental imagery, or are you allowing Random (ran-dumb) to run the show?
When you get up in the morning, do you let Mr. Random decide whether it’s a good idea to brush your teeth today?
If you have a lawn to care for, you don’t mow it once and think your job is done forever, do you?
If you have a garden, would you rid the soil of weeds and think your job is completed throughout infinity?
Your practice continues onward even when you know what to do, even when you can do it exceptionally well.
You either take an active role in determining what you will picture in your mind’s eye, or you allow random forces put images into your mind.
Either way, you will become what you visualize.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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Do Positive Affirmations Work?
The self-development industry is still teaching out-dated methods that rarely work.
Positive thinking and/or positive affirmations are a prime example. As Dr. Maltz taught so long ago, “it (positive thinking) cannot work when it is inconsistent with the self-image.”
Truism.
But what do the life coaches teach?
They teach you to “change your beliefs” with positive affirmations and self-talk while doing nothing to change your self-image, the mental blueprint you carry around with you everywhere you go.
Read my words now and listen to me later: You cannot change your beliefs unless your mental pictures change. And you cannot change your mental pictures if you’re encountering resistance from your own mind. A method that bypasses your own resistance and naturally upgrades your beliefs, even if you’re not trying to upgrade them, is the key.
Yes, it’s true. You can upgrade your beliefs without even realizing you’ve done so and without attempting to do so.
Here are some examples of “positive thoughts” that cause resistance and have almost zero chance of shifting your reality:
I am happy and grateful. I am a gazillionaire. I am fit and healthy now. I am now at my ideal weight. I am love and I am surrounded by loving people. Prosperity comes to me easily and effortlessly.
You might wonder why I am disputing whether these statements work. That’s easy.
I’ve watched a ton of others who insisted upon using them, and they got nowhere.
The other day, for example, a client read me a list of his self-talk statements. I took note of how strong the vibration of each statement was as I heard it being uttered. There was only one statement that had a truly positive charge. The rest were weak.
“How would you rate the one you just read?” I asked.
“I’d give it a three,” he replied, sheepishly.
“I see. Well, do you think a three is going to shift your brain, much less your reality?”
“Probably not.”
“How about most definitely not,” I added.
During the rest of the coaching call I helped this man discover how to create self-talk statements that are uniquely powerful to his situation. I’m also teaching him how to visualize each of these statements. That’s the key. Without the mental imagery, you may think you’re making progress, but you really aren’t doing much of anything other than blowing smoke rings.
Here’s another key point: If you’re working on changing your beliefs with words, anything you say or write or think that “pushes you out of your comfort zone,” is ultimately doomed to fail.
Think I’m wrong on this one?
Then go through Psycho-Cybernetics and show me where Dr. Maltz said you need to, “get out of your comfort zone.”
I’ll be waiting. A long, long, long time.
Because it’s not in the book.
I realize that it may appear to you that “everyone says to get out of your comfort zone.”
Well, Dr. Maltz didn’t. And neither do I.
Success comes from knowing how to get INTO your comfort zone.
Yesterday I went to look at buying a new car.
Do you think the salesperson invited me in and offered to bring me a water, coffee, tea, etc?
Hmmm. Good question, eh?
When you have a guest in your home, do you make the person uncomfortable?
If not, then why would you attempt to do this to yourself?
This topic is what I cover in the first lesson of my all-new Mind Power Monthly Coaching Program.
The digital newsletter went out to members on Wednesday – and the other components will be delivered over the next week.
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If you want to be involved, email me and I’ll forward you details about the group and what you will receive.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
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Hot-Cold-Hot-Cold
Last night I got on a roll in the sauna.
About 10 minutes into the session, a group of us began speaking about “heated” subjects, and the next thing you know we’d been baking for 28 minutes and 12 seconds.
Normally I stay in for 20 minutes, then take a break. I’m usually aware of the time because I use an app that chimes every five minutes. But last night, when my mind shifted into a different “theatre,” I lost track.
After the sauna I took a 52 degree plunge. Yes, that’s in Fahrenheit. The near-freezing water brought me back to the cold reality where time existed once again.
To build momentum, I gave myself an easy goal to achieve. Something within my comfort zone.
NOTE: In Psycho-Cybernetics, you do NOT force yourself out of your comfort zone. Instead, you find your comfort zone and EXPAND it. This is how you build sustainable momentum. You give yourself small, daily, incremental goals. And you have a system whereby it gets easier and easier to achieve them, so much so that you naturally and spontaneously go further without even noticing. Your beliefs are upgraded without force as well.
Anyway, after a minute of cold, I stepped into a pool of much warmer water for five minutes.
Then I went back into the cold water – and it was easy compared to the first round. And because momentum was on my side, I upgraded the time as I focused on relaxed breathing.
Hormesis, an adaptation response from the sauna and cold plunge, took hold of me.
What was once difficult, became much easier, not from gigantic, big goals, but from smaller, achievable goals that create an on-going sense of success.
Once again, I wanted to do more, not because I pushed myself out of my comfort zone, but because I found my comfort zone and allowed it to organically expand.
Oddly enough, before going for last night’s sauna and cold splash, a fellow coach messaged me on Instagram.
“What big goals do you have for this year?” she asked.
“I only have daily goals,” I responded.
“Ah, haha. Well, what big goals do you have for the day?”
“My daily goals are small. Very small.”
She may have thought I was joking, but I was telling the truth.
As I state in Theatre of the Mind, small, incremental daily goals that establish momentum are more important than BIG goals that cause stagnation.
Tonight I’m going to hit the sauna again. Will I have a goal for longer than 30 minutes?
No.
20 minutes is my baseline goal. If I choose to go beyond 20, it’s either because I decided to upgrade while I’m in the act – or I forget to check the timer due to a heated conversation takes me into a different reality, a theatre, one where I’m in the sauna but unconscious of it.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
P.S. I’ll be giving an update later this week or early next regarding the Psycho-Cybernetics Group Coaching. If interested, drop me a line and let me hear why it’s important to you.
