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I Don’t Care!

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When I was in 5th grade, I had a teacher, Mrs. Fair – who knew and used the value of her name to the max.

Whenever a student would utter the words, “THAT’S NOT FAIR,” she had the ultimate answer.

“Yes it is fair. How do I know? Because I’m Mrs. Fair.”

Well, Mrs. Fair and Mr. Furey didn’t see eye-to-eye on a number of matters but she had a way of coming around to my point of view on occasion.

For example, one day when it was below zero and snowing outdoors, I didn’t understand why recess was cancelled. I wanted to play and I expressed my displeasure.

In response, Mrs. Fair told me to get my hat, gloves and coat on and go play. I did so.

I was the ONLY student in the school on the playground that day. I ran through the drifts, threw snowballs at imaginary beings, went down the slide, made a snowman and had a blast, all by myself.

After the cold became noticeable on my face, I went back to the classroom. The other students looked surprised I’d made it back.

“I can’t believe you actually went out into the snow,” one student said.

“Why not?” I replied. “It was fun.”

Mrs. Fair drew a line in the sand with me on a number of issues – and one of them was when I uttered the words, “I DON’T CARE.”

Whenever I said this she smiled and said, “That means you care.”

Man, I hated that. Being told I care when I said I didn’t. And I still, to this day, do NOT completely agree with her.

Be that as it was – one thing I can tell you that I do agree with is this: A lot of the troubles so many people have are a result of “caring too much.”

If you care too much about the words you speak or others reaction to them – you’ll be afraid to open your mouth and say what’s on your mind.

If you care too much about the words you write, you’ll stifle yourself before you even start.

If you care too much about closing sales, making a good first impression and increasing your income – people will run and hide.

If you care too much about letter grades, athletic statistics, pleasing others and so on – you literally choke the flow of life force running through you.

And today, in this politically correct society, if you care too much about not offending a single person on the face of this earth, you’ll never be able to help anyone.

Think of it this way, if you offend someone unintentionally, no big deal. Just apologize. It’s not the end of the whirld.

Now the flip side: And this is where Mrs. Fair was right.
There is a yin and a yang to caring. If you don’t care at all – that might not be good. If you care too much – that’s probably not good either.

But if you have the predominant mindset of “I don’t care” – and mixed within this emotional concoction is a tiny bit of “I do care” – then this may be a winning attitude for you.

A little bit of care mixed with a lot of “don’t care” – can give you a sense of power that has somehow eluded you.

If Mrs. Fair were still alive today, I’d present her with a saying from the Chuang Tzu, written a long, long time ago in ancient China.

This saying is so important to me that I had a poster made of it – and it hangs upon one of the walls in my home.

Here goes:

When you’re betting for stones in an archery contest,
you shoot with skill.
When you’re betting for fancy belt buckles,
you worry about your aim. 
And when you’re betting for real gold,
you’re a nervous wreck.Your skill is the same in all three cases –
but because one prize means more to
you than another, you let outside
concerns weigh on your mind.

He who looks too hard at the outside
gets clumsy on the inside.

-Chuang Tzu

The archer cares enough about what he’s doing to practice and get good.

But if he cares too much – he’s a nervous wreck and cannot showcase his skill.

I’ve been there. I’ve lost “important” bouts because I cared too much.

Ironically, the biggest match I ever won, the world kung fu title in Beijing, is when I didn’t care if I won or lost.

As a writer, speaker and entrepreneur – I can say the same thing.

Yes, you need desire. Yes, you need a burning desire.

But the flame is burning of it’s own accord. It burns with effortless ease.

The flame is your love and passion. It’s your deep appreciation for this moment – a sense of awe for having the talent, ability and opportunity to be able to do what you love to do.

And as you do what you love to do – you could not care less what anyone else thinks.

This feeling gives you the power and insight to leave the candle flame alone. It’ll burn on its own.

Focus on the doing and the being – and the outcomes, the results, will take care of themselves.

Best,

Matt Furey

11th Commandment: No T.V. for 25 Years

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Last night I read an article about Pope Francis. Says he hasn’t watched tee-vee in 25 years.

Stop everything you’re doing and ponder this for a moment.

Regardless of your fatih, beliefs, etc. – consider this act in and of itself, for it’s own merit.

I’ve been told the average American watches 21 hours of television per week. And many of these same people believe they “don’t have time” to get things done. They’re busy. Very, very busy.

Tee-vee is only ONE of the many “activities” people engage in on a daily basis, that keeps them from doing something productive with their lives. Now, I’m not saying you “should” stop watching television – nor is it a commandment.

But perhaps dropping the telly is worthy of consideration.

When I read the article on the Pope – I truly took some time to reflect on it. What if I cut back on all the baseball games I watch on the box? And that’s literally about ALL I ever watch on t.v.

I cannot tell you who the most popular stars are, or what programs are rated or ranked. Don’t know the names of any of the shows. Or the times they come on.

For the MOST part, I have ZERO interest in tee-vee.

Except for watching baseball.

What if I completely gave that up? No more baseball on the tube. None. Just quit cold turkey.

Same goes for a host of other distractions. Like the cell phone.

Last week I forgot my phone. Left it at home.

Turned out to be a good thing after I got over the feeling of having lost an artificial limb.

Why do we think we MUST have a gadget with us at all times making us accessiible by text, email, Facebook, Twitter, and so on, all day long?

How about a withdrawal program?

Make a short term pact with yourself to give up ONE of your gadgets or activities for a week and see if you feel better.

If this causes you to feel uncomfortable, consider WHY.

This morning I wanted to turn on the idiot box. I really did. Wanted to get a recap of yesterday’s “plays of the day.”

I ignored this urging and got busy reading something – and typing a few emails.

Can I do this for a week, a month, a year, or 25 years?

I suppose so – but how about taking it one day at a time for now. Or half-a-day at a time. Or as I’ve taught over the years – one breath at a time.

For today I will observe the 11th Commandment – no tee-vee. It already feels pretty good. Despite the urgings of my subconscious telling me, “Look, Matt, you don’t watch that much. And you don’t watch ridiculous shows and such all day long. A little bit of this is okay” – I’m going to ignore those thoughts.

For today. For this breath. For this instant.

And I’m going to get more done in less time.

If you’d like to join me on this – keep me posted on how it’s working for you.

Kick the tee-vee habit – get more done in less time,

Matt Furey

author of Theatre of the Mind – a Nightingale-Conant best-seller – get it now for $40 off the original amount

P.S. Tee-vee is only one a thousands of daily distractions – but it’s a big one. Using this same strategy for some other time-slurper is a good idea, too. Just don’t try to revolutionize your entire life overnight. Start with one thing, build a success around it, then if you’d like, go to the next thing.

Cursing Your Circumstances

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As some say in the south – “dadgummit.”

That’s what I could have said yesterday – and a whole lot more, when I spent a good half-hour working on an email masterpiece.

It was a great one. It was riveting. It cut right to the heart of the matter in many peoples’ lives – especially the financial aspect.

Upon finishing this masterpiece – the computer shut down. There was no way to retrieve what I’d written because it was typed on the email site itself – not on a document.

As soon as this happened – I inhaled, took a breath and surprised myself with my next thought.

What was it?

Well, it wasn’t “dadgummit.” It didn’t contain expletives – unspoken or out loud.

It was as follows…

“Looks like that email wasn’t supposed to go out today. You can re-do it later. You can still remember what you wrote, so nothing is really lost – except time – and time doesn’t really exist anyway – so carry on.”

Huh?

Are you serious, Furey?

I AM.

Again, this suprised me. I’m not normally this calm about things. Close – but not when I lose something I’ve written.

If I had to give you a penny for all the times in life I’ve gotten upset over stupid stuff, worried over things that will soon pass, driven myself to frustration instead of unwinding my mind – you’d have a nice little nest-egg – that’s for sure.

Part of being truly human is the willingness to admit that you make mistakes. Stupid mistakes.

The other part is being willing to forgive YOURSELF – so you can move on and improve.

When we think about forgiveness, we usually think it’s about “others.” It’s not. It’s about YOU. It’s always about YOU.

You start by dropping the baggage about yourself. You drop the “I’m an X because I did X” story.

And as you’re able to toss your own garbage out – you open space within your mind to realize that others can be given a bit more slack,too.

After tossing out your own stupidities – and learning from them – you return to the NOW – for a fleeting moment – because the NOW never lasts. The NOW is gone as soon as it arrives.

Yet, from this so-called NOW – we can go into the past to find the moments in time when we experienced happiness, joy,
elation, peace of mind and so on.

It’s not BACK TO THE FUTURE.

It’s BACK TO THE NOW.

You go back in time to the moments when you were at your best – and then you feel as if you’re truly living them in the NOW.

The so-called NOW is when time stops. It ceases to exist. You have no sense of it whatsoever. You and what you are doing or not doing are just existing.

This awareness of who you are allows you to navigate life with effortless ease.

In Psycho-Cybernetics speak, we call this Zero Resistance Living.

You stop going through life with sand-paper rubbing against your skin. You start sliding through life as if you’re riding a sled through packed snow. You start rising higher with the wind – realizing you cannot get anywhere without it.

There are those who think you must resist life to make it; that you must even resist resistance itself.

I don’t share this line of thought.

Resistance is something you turn into effortless effort.

You’re working – but it doesn’t feel like work.

You’re practicing – even doing so with absolute gusto – but it doesn’t feel like practice.

You’re competing – giving it all you’ve got – and you make it look easy.

That’s what life is like when you use resistance to climb higher instead of seeing it as another battle to overcome.

Yesterday a man who recently purchased Theatre of the Mind wrote to tell me how calm he’s getting following the program. He says he’s listened to the program three times already – and he now has his wife listening to it along with him.

When a program is so good that you listen to it repeatedly, something must be right on about it. Comments like this make my day.

If you’ve got a story to tell about your experiences with Theatre of the Mind – please let me hear it. Would love to know about it

All for now – and so far, no dadgummits.

Yours,

Coach Furey

P.S. Starting over isn’t so hard. Each day we do it, without thinking. If you made a mistake yesterday, don’t curse your circumstances. Start again today.

No worry. No fear.

Don’t Get Mad – Get Even

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So I walked into the wrestling lockeroom at the University of Iowa, prepared to get dressed for practice.

Controversial: To Spank or Not to Spank

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Over the past two weeks I’ve been listening to accusations of child abuse involving NFL running back Adrian Peterson and his four-year old son.

The allegations go way beyond a slap or swat on the rumpus. Word is that the boy sustained welts and bruises all over his body. Some of the wounds supposedly drew blood.

Last Wednesday, whilst driving to practice Tai Chi, I turned on the radio and instead of music, I listened to a call-in show. Guess what the topic of conversation was?

“Should you spank your child and if you do, when does a spanking cross the line and equal abuse?”

Both men and women rang the station. The announcer himself talked about how he got beat regularly by his parents – and even told how he doesn’t just threaten his children with “the belt” – because threats aren’t sufficient.

Yep, at times he takes off the belt and  gives his children an unspecified number of lashes.

Although i was only listening for about 40 minutes, I didn’t hear a single parent say that spanking your child is wrong under any and all circumstances.

Neither will I.

But what I will say is what was taught to me long ago by an Aikido martial arts master.

To paraphrase the story:

One day an Aikido master saw a father angrily beating his child. As he hit the boy, the father yelled and screamed.

The master interrupted the scene and pulled the boy’s father to the side. In typical Zen fashion, he did NOT condemn the father for his actions. Instead, he gave him another way of experiencing life with his son.

“You can hit your son anytime you want,” said the Aikido master. “But ONLY under one condition.”

“What’s the condition?” the man asked.

“When you hit him, you cannot do so with anger. You can only spank him if you feel love in your heart for your child.”

The next time the boy stepped out of line, the father remembered the master’s advice. Instead of hitting him, he rid himself of the anger and replaced it with love.”

Surprisingly, after doing this, he felt no need to hit his son. He spoke to him instead – taking his time to teach him right from wrong.

The father did not hit his son that day. Or any other day thereafter.

Why?

Because it is almost impossible to hit or spank a child when you are not angry with him. If you take the time to clear your anger and replace it with love, chances are you’ll rethink how you handle your interaction with your child.

Now, you might think the above is “just a story.”

It’s not. It’s real life.

There are many parents who actually believe if they don’t hit their child, the child will NOT respect them. Or obey.

Really?

There are many ways to win the respect and obedience of your children without spanking them. And no, I’m not talking about “timeouts.”

I’m talking about challenging them in a physical way that highlights “who’s the boss” without hurting anyone.

For example, is it plausible that Adrian Peterson could lightly wrestle with his son to get the point across?

Come here, son. You don’t want to listen? Okay, let’s wrestle for a few minutes and if you can beat me, then you call the shots. 

I’m betting that it would be a great match. Adrian’s son would squirm and maneuver with all his might – yet be controlled with light pressure. I’m also willing to bet the match would end with laughter and a very different level of respect.

No belts necessary. No switches. No punches, hits or slaps.

Just the tentacles of a giant human octopus (that’s what he’ll feel like to his son).

Yes, I realize a lot of parents think they aren’t physically fit enough to wrestle with their children. But an NFL football player does fit the mould of someone who can.

Controlling your child with the least amount of force necessary makes a lot more sense than whacking him with your fist – or hitting him with a belt or switch.

As I’ve observed, parents who feel they must spank their children, rarely make a lasting impression. That’s why so many of them feel the need to spank their children so often.

Having a heart-to-heart with your child may not feel very easy for you. Using a belt or switch might seem like it’s much faster, quicker and easier.

As a parent, I can tell you that the word is mightier than the belt. Your children will remember your words and use them to make themselves better, if you choose them wisely.

About all they’ll remember from the beatings is the desire to “pass it on.”

Here endeth today’s lesson.

Yours,

Matt “Coach” Furey

P.S. Theatre of the Mind is filled with many stories and examples to help any parent become better than his or her parents ever thought of being. Grab your copy NOW for $40 off the normal retail amount.

Controversial: To Spank or Not to Spank

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Over the past two weeks I’ve been listening to accusations of child abuse involving NFL running back Adrian Peterson and his four-year old son.

The allegations go way beyond a slap or swat on the rumpus. Word is that the boy sustained welts and bruises all over his body. Some of the wounds supposedly drew blood.

Last Wednesday, whilst driving to practice Tai Chi, I turned on the radio and instead of music, I listened to a call-in show. Guess what the topic of conversation was?

“Should you spank your child and if you do, when does a spanking cross the line and equal abuse?”

Both men and women rang the station. The announcer himself talked about how he got beat regularly by his parents – and even told how he doesn’t just threaten his children with “the belt” – because threats aren’t sufficient.

Yep, at times he takes off the belt and  gives his children an unspecified number of lashes.

Although i was only listening for about 40 minutes, I didn’t hear a single parent say that spanking your child is wrong under any and all circumstances.

Neither will I.

But what I will say is what was taught to me long ago by an Aikido martial arts master.

To paraphrase the story:

One day an Aikido master saw a father angrily beating his child. As he hit the boy, the father yelled and screamed.

The master interrupted the scene and pulled the boy’s father to the side. In typical Zen fashion, he did NOT condemn the father for his actions. Instead, he gave him another way of experiencing life with his son.

“You can hit your son anytime you want,” said the Aikido master. “But ONLY under one condition.”

“What’s the condition?” the man asked.

“When you hit him, you cannot do so with anger. You can only spank him if you feel love in your heart for your child.”

The next time the boy stepped out of line, the father remembered the master’s advice. Instead of hitting him, he rid himself of the anger and replaced it with love.”

Surprisingly, after doing this, he felt no need to hit his son. He spoke to him instead – taking his time to teach him right from wrong.

The father did not hit his son that day. Or any other day thereafter.

Why?

Because it is almost impossible to hit or spank a child when you are not angry with him. If you take the time to clear your anger and replace it with love, chances are you’ll rethink how you handle your interaction with your child.

Now, you might think the above is “just a story.”

It’s not. It’s real life.

There are many parents who actually believe if they don’t hit their child, the child will NOT respect them. Or obey.

Really?

There are many ways to win the respect and obedience of your children without spanking them. And no, I’m not talking about “timeouts.”

I’m talking about challenging them in a physical way that highlights “who’s the boss” without hurting anyone.

For example, is it plausible that Adrian Peterson could lightly wrestle with his son to get the point across?

Come here, son. You don’t want to listen? Okay, let’s wrestle for a few minutes and if you can beat me, then you call the shots. 

I’m betting that it would be a great match. Adrian’s son would squirm and maneuver with all his might – yet be controlled with light pressure. I’m also willing to bet the match would end with laughter and a very different level of respect.

No belts necessary. No switches. No punches, hits or slaps.

Just the tentacles of a giant human octopus (that’s what he’ll feel like to his son).

Yes, I realize a lot of parents think they aren’t physically fit enough to wrestle with their children. But an NFL football player does fit the mould of someone who can.

Controlling your child with the least amount of force necessary makes a lot more sense than whacking him with your fist – or hitting him with a belt or switch.

As I’ve observed, parents who feel they must spank their children, rarely make a lasting impression. That’s why so many of them feel the need to spank their children so often.

Having a heart-to-heart with your child may not feel very easy for you. Using a belt or switch might seem like it’s much faster, quicker and easier.

As a parent, I can tell you that the word is mightier than the belt. Your children will remember your words and use them to make themselves better, if you choose them wisely.

About all they’ll remember from the beatings is the desire to “pass it on.”

Here endeth today’s lesson.

Yours,

Matt “Coach” Furey

P.S. Theatre of the Mind is filled with many stories and examples to help any parent become better than his or her parents ever thought of being. Grab your copy NOW for $40 off the normal retail amount.

Embarrassing

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Earlier today I was training with two fellow martial artists – both of whom are incredibly good at what they do. I’m practically new to their style, so the learning curve is large indeed.

Toward the end of the class I was given an exercise that I have never felt comfortable doing. Hint: That may mean it’s good for me.

At the same time, I am usually given minimal instruction when we do this exercise – then it’s “Ready, go.”

The two I was training with have been doing this particular drill for years – yet, it’s new to me. As of this moment, I get beat at it every single time.

And it feels downright embarrassing.

After the class I thought about the situation. I keep getting beat at this drill for three reasons;

1. Lack of knowledge – I don’t know what the others know – and they’re not exactly helping to fill in the gaps.

2. Lack of experience – I have only done this drill a few times in my life – the others have done it thousands of times.

3. No strategy – Because this drill is new to me, I lack knowledge on how to do it as well as the experience gained from having done it countless times. Without knowledge and experience, it’s hard to conceive of a battle plan, a simple strategy allowing me to play the game more effectively.

When I got home I sat on the couch.

But not to vegetate – to ruminate.

I began to think in earnest about how I keep getting beat and how much I hate it. And as I thought about it I came up with a few options:

A. Quit – this is the easy thing to do. It’ll help me avoid feelings of letdown and embarrassment – but those feelings will aire their uglness again as soon as I begin to try something else new – and it proves difficult, too.

B. Avoid – keep training but avoid this weakness. Do only the things I’m good at or feel comfortable doing. This will help me avoid feeling bad.

C. Become Fascinated – Instead of being embarrassed, start asking questions. Make no time to concentrate or think about my emotional state. Put my intention on a goal that’s worthy of achieving. Don’t let lack of direction or instruction stop me. Sit and ponder on my own and ask everyone I know who “owns” this skill for help. Put ego out of the way and make this drill a highly refined championship level skill.

In case you’re wondering, I’ll be choosing “Option C.”

Now, in case you’re wondering if I’ve ever gone through the “let down” phase before, I assure you it’s come and gone many, many times.

It’s part of learning – at least for me.

Sure, there are those “positive thinkers” who claim they have no ego, that they never feel embarrassed, etc.

All I can say is this: If you’ve ever achieved anything great, you got embarrassed along the way – and this lit a spark that helped lead you to greatness.

I don’t know a single “success” who never felt humiliated or embarrassed or horrified. Not one.

As Coach Dan Gable used to say, “The only place you start at the top is digging a hole.”

The same holds true for writing, running or river rafting. You get good by doing – AND by thinking about doing BETTER.

You picture better days. You practice so you can have better days – and eventually they will come your way.

Best,

Matt Furey

P.S. In The Tao of Email Copywriting – I do something most marketers never do. I willingly and openly teach you what I know, I tell you of my
experiences – AND I give you several strategies you can begin using NOW to improve the sales of ANYTHING you are offering. Whether it’s a book, a line of supplements, clothing or exercise equipment – email is still the very best way to put your message out there and create the life you want. Grab your future NOW.

You Can’t Escape from This

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In my former days, if I said, “You can’t escape from this,” I’d be talking about some sort of submission hold from my grappling or martial arts training.

But today, I’m coming at you from a different angle, a different direction.

This Friday, my son’s high school baseball team was going to have their “end of year” banquet – followed by a trip to watch a minor league ballgame with the Tampa Yankees.

Everyone was excited. Everyone was pumped.

At 8:21 AM I received an email notice from the coach saying that an optional hitting practice after school was cancelled.

Thought nothing of it.

At 12:39 PM I received another email from the coach, saying the weekend banquet was cancelled. And so were workouts
for the rest of the week.

Then he wrote something that caught my attention. For REAL.

“Please give your loved ones a hug and keep all of our families and boys in your thoughts.”

Huh?

What the hell happened?

I wrote the coach. No reply.

I then went through all my emails, looking for clues. Somehow I had overlooked an email from the school that was sent at 8:37 AM – entitled “Family Tragedy.”

Double “huh?”

I read the email and it mentioned two students by name and year, Megan (9th) and Colin (12th) Campbell.

Triple “huh?”

I just saw Colin the night before, at batting practice, working on his absolutely gorgeous swing. My son and I talked about how good he was after practice. How he had a scholarship to play baseball in the fall.

And now I’m hearing about a tragedy?

I started to scour the Internet for news – for anything, as I wasn’t in a place with televsion.

I texted my son at school. I asked him what happened.

He texted back, “Colin died.”

I couldn’t believe what I read.

How? Why? What happened?

And then I learned that the whole family died. Father, mother and sister – along with Colin – in an early morning fire in one of the most prestigious and “protected” areas of Tampa.

All the details haven’t surfaced yet – but one thing is certain – no one has heard from any of the Campbells.

As a father, as a coach, as a man who enjoyed talking to Colin’s father at ball games and watching his son clobber the ball – this situation brings me to tears. It really hurts. You see children with such bright futures, and parents who support them – and in a flash – they’re gone.

I spent much of the afternoon and evening yesterday with my son, talking to him, answering his questions as best I could. Mostly just listening. Being with him.

“Did you ever lose a friend when you were only 13 years old?” Frank asked.

“No,” I replied.

“Do you think we should have his initials on our uniforms next year? A ‘CC patch?”

“That would be nice.”

We went to the outdoor handball courts to blow off steam, whacking the ball over and over again. Then we drove around and talked some more.

As the evening unfolded I sat outside, looking into the heavens, wondering and asking questions I’ve never really asked myself before.

How could God let something like this happen?

Where’s the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit in this?

Is there a message in this for me? Something that will help me and others?

The answer came to me as I searched my soul.

They are as follows:

“You cannot escape suffering. It’s part of life. Even the enlightened beings suffer. Jesus suffered. Buddha suffered. All human beings suffer. No matter where you go, there will be suffering. Someone you know will die. Someone you know will get hurt or sick. Or you will.”

“You can move into the richest neighborhood on the planet. You can go where they have armed guards protecting you. And you will still see suffering – and you will also suffer. You can evade and elude suffering for awhile, but eventually you will encounter it yourself.”

“No matter how clean your Karma, you will suffer. No matter how good your past lives were (for those who believe in such a thing) – you will suffer. No matter how positive your thinking – you will suffer.”

“Life itself isn’t suffering – but suffering IS part of LIFE. The same holds true of happiness.”

“So what to do? Embrace suffering as part of life. Don’t fear it. Don’t try to avoid it. Recognize it for what it is – and allow yourself the opportunity to transform your suffering into compassion, love and happiness.”

“Those who have not suffered have not experienced what it is like to be truly human.”

These are the thoughts that came to me as I sat all alone last night, looking into the sky, listening to the frogs croak and the crickets chirp.

These thoughts don’t answer the “Why’s” – but they do help me to see the essence of what is going on – what is always going on.

Suffering, Compassion and Happiness. Three sides of the same triangle.

Matt Furey
Author of Theatre of the Mind

P.S. Those of you coming to Tampa this weekend for training, I’ll be ready for you. See you soon.

Shrink This Part of Your Brain – It’s Not Helping

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I’ve always said that Theatre of the Mind meditations/visualizations change who you are from the inside out by changing your brain and how it functions.

Well, I just watched a clip on YouTube highlighting research done on this “gray matter” – with detailed scans showing dramatic changes in the brains of those who meditate.This is important for those who don’t believe anything by experience alone – or from the experiences of

others – unless supported by scientific research.Okay, here you go:

Watch this NOW and then make a choice to wake up your brain with the unparalleled Theatre of the Mind.

Best,

Matt Furey

P.S. Suffering from anxiety, fears, worries and phobias – all of which can be classified as “fight or flight?” Well, make a note how meditation decreases the size of the amygdala – which thereby shrinks your capacity to be anxious or fearful.

Real reason why so many people have back pain

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Whenever someone feels a stabbing pain in his or her back, the first thing he looks for is the physical cause.

Did I lift something?Did I overdo it when I exercised?

Did I bend over the wrong way?

And so on.

But what if your back hurts – and often – and there is no single event that you can find that caused it?

Well then, perhaps you’re looking in the wrong direction when trying to find a physical cause.

Whenever I have pain of any sort in my body, the first place I look is the same as everyone else. What did I do?

And then I simultaneously look for emotional or energetic reasons.

Although most doctors won’t look for emotional or energetic causes of pain – they do in traditional Chinese medicine – and there are more and more MDs in the western world who are coming on board.

There’s an entire field of study and research called psychoneuro-immunology wherein the thinking and emotions of patients are shown to affect the nervous system.

Which leads me to my point about back pain: One of the biggest causes of back pain – especially lower back pain, is financial fear and uncertainty.

Someone feels unstable.  He feels like nothing is secure. This causes fear and worry that gets suppressed to the point where you think you’re
“blocking it out.”

You’re not.

You’re just burying a fear even deeper – and eventually you cannot hold it back any longer, so it flares up somewhere in the body.

Did you know that there are people who’ve tracked the negative thinking and negative emotional patterns of people for so long that they can tell you WHERE the pain will manifest? It’s true.

Some of these are not hard. In China’s system of health, they will tell you the following:

Anger harms the liver.
Worry harms the stomach, often causing ulcers.
Fear weakens the kidneys.
Depression weakens the lungs.
Impatience weakens the heart.

And each of the organs listed above exerts a powerful influence and control over the muscles and joints of the body. If you think this is false, consider what happens when a person feints out of fear.

Fearful thought leads to fearful emotion. Kidneys go weak – knees buckle, legs give way, lower back crumbles.

If you think a kidney punch is no big deal, try walking after you’ve been hit there. Your legs and lower back will have almost nothing left.

This explains why I felt it so important to blend some of my martial arts training with the original Theatre of the Mind.

In and of itself, TOTM is awesome – but when you add the deep breathing, the inner smile, the smiling universe and some of the other practices I teach – results are quantum leaps ahead of anything else.

Healing takes place. Real healing. Not placebo. True healing.

First you heal the emotional body by learning to breathe into mental pictures of empowerment.  Then you learn to squash negative emotions with a gentle breeze or cooling wave instead of engaging in warfare.

Changes take place right away, the second you begin relaxing into flow. And when you do TOTM on a daily basis, each and everyday becomes a masterpiece. Instead of wallowing in negativity – you rise above it and use whatever your current circumstances are as a spring
board to a better day, a better life, a better YOU.

Heal your mind, emotions and body with Theatre of the Mind. Yes, you can do just that – but only if you get the program and use it.

Best,

Matt Furey

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