Last weekend, as I watched the finish of the 2020 Women’s Olympic Marathon in Tokyo, Japan, I took out my camera to record the interview with Molly Seidel, who won the bronze medal, becoming only the third woman in U.S. history to medal in the event.
“Oh my God, I can’t believe it,” Molly said after the race. “Just getting here was already a dream come true. And to be able to come out today against a field like this and to be able to come away with a medal, a bronze, for the U.S., uh, I’m in shock. I’m in disbelief right now.”
I sent the video clip I shot to Jack, a client, with the following line: “See what I mean? Here’s even more proof you don’t need to believe you can do something in advance to make it happen. Picture the goal. Picture it daily. Picture it with enthusiasm. Picture it BIG. Then get to work. And after you walk through your goal, the reality is you still might not truly believe that you did it, even though you know you did. Achieving a goal can be a surreal experience.”
Jack replied: “So even at the Olympic level, athletes don’t fully believe in themselves.”
“Correct. At every level this is the truth you’re not being told. Athletes battle fear, worry, self-doubt and the doldrums that often accompany defeat.”
“So the idea of an athlete entering the ring without any fear whatsoever…”
“Is pure bunk,” I interjected. “30 minutes before I stepped out on the mat in the world championships, I was more than just a wee bit nervous. But then I calmed my emotions and cleared my mind. I gave myself a blank slate, so I could go out there and perform without unnecessary tension.”
“Did you believe it after you won?”
“I believed that one – but other victories still astound me. The thing they all have in common is picturing a result and then going after it without thinking too much about it. Picture and go.”
“What you’re telling me reminds me of the long jumper in the Olympics,” Jack mentioned. “I think it was the 1968 Olympics.”
“Yes, you’re talking about Bob Beamon. He leaped so far in his first attempt that he broke the Olympic record by 55 centimeters. And get this, he physically collapsed after the feat, not from exhaustion, but out of disbelief. He couldn’t believe he did what he did. So Beamon didn’t leap as far as he did because he believed he would. It’s the same as the little ole lady who lifts the car off her loved one. She doesn’t lift the car due to her belief, but due to her mental imagery and the adrenal surge the mental image created.”
“So I don’t need to spend all my time trying to override my existing limiting beliefs?”
“Correct. Picturing what you want is the key. And last time I checked, you don’t need to believe in order to picture.”
Here endeth the lesson.
Matt Furey
My Father’s Gratitude
My father was laid to rest yesterday afternoon in Florida National Cemetery. ’twas a grand moment to observe the military salute, the playing of Taps and the meticulous, respectful folding of the flag.
Since the passing of my father, who was 97, and a veteran of WW II, I am eternally grateful, not only for his life and the lessons he taught me, but also for the prayers and positive thoughts sent to me by so many. I have done my best to acknowledge everyone who has reached out to me in anyway. If I have overlooked you somehow, please accept my apologies as I say, “thank you” again.
Last weekend, a man wrote to tell me that there was no need to thank anyone, that the focus should be on me, my family and what the emotions we are dealing with. I appreciate this man’s words, but there is just no way I can do as he suggested. I literally feel compelled to thank each person who has written me, called or who came to see me at my father’s funeral.
This sense of duty is not something I came up with or read in a book. It was instilled in me by my father.
Just before Christmas, when my dad was in the hospital for a few days, I watched him thank every single nurse or doctor, every single time they came into his room, to help him. Whether he was brought a straw, a glass of water or a napkin, he would thank the person who helped him.
When a nurse was taking my dad’s temperature, he conveyed his dismay that he was unable to send Christmas cards to family because he was hospitalized. The nurse looked up and said, “Oh, I think they will understand.”
As I recall so many precious memories with my dad, feelings can volley around the court from one emotion to another. Thank goodness for my nightly practice of Dao Zou – which has definitely benefitted me in ways I did not foresee when I initially released the program.
I’m telling you about Dao Zou now because it continues to help me process and ultimately detach from emotions such as grief and sadness. There is no attempt to suppress or control the emotions with the program. You let the emotions flow as you rewind your mind and effortlessly enter another dimension; a dimension where peace that surpasses all understanding becomes part of you.
If you’re aware of someone who is battling sadness or other negative emotions, this non-thinking way to detach from them definitely works. I practice Dao Zou every night before bed – and I cannot stop raving about what a difference-maker it is.
Again, “thanks mucho” to all who have written me. Your words of comfort are greatly appreciated.
Best,
Matt Furey
Eliminates Pre-Election Anxiety
The main stream media wants everyone in panic-mode. All the time.
If it’s not something in the United States, it’s France, Germany or Russia.
If it’s not the first wave, then it’s the second, or the third. It’s its not this bug, then it’s the next one.
Everyone is out to get you and it’s not even Halloween yet. Makes you wonder who the real spooks, ghosts and goblins are.
Where’s the positive reporting on all the good going on in the world? Where’s the positive spin on what is truly positive?
Anyone can be negative. It’s as easy as chomping down a slice of pie or gorging on chocolate. But to give up negativity, that takes some thought, some imagination, some mind power.
Giving up bad habits begins with small steps. We only get one moment at a time, so I believe in giving up a bad habit for a short while (a day), then I keep extending the time frame.
For example, back on July 13, I decided to give up coffee. No particular reason other than to see how life would be without it.
I started with one day. And then, I added a day, and another. I kept adding days until I got to 108.
On day 108, I decided to have a cup of Turkish coffee. I enjoyed breaking the streak but I didn’t enjoy the coffee as much as I thought I would. What a letdown.
The next day I was back to starting another streak. How many days will I go? I don’t know. I don’t have a set agenda, other than to be conscious each day of what I am giving up and what I am adding to fill the void. [Yes, it’s important to replace a habit you don’t want to own anymore with another that you would rather embody.]
I’ve done the same with fasting. I start with a small commitment, then I add on. This approach has helped me to extend an 18-hour fast into 8 days, 5 hours and 15 minutes.
One of the greatest habits I have ever uncovered, one that makes it much easier to give up unwanted habits, or extend good ones, is the daily practice of Dao Zou – a type of moving meditation/visualization that the longest-lived people in China believe extends your life by reducing negative emotions such as grief, anger, angst and so on. It also gives your brain and nervous system a well-deserved feeling of relaxation.
It’s amazing how the program works. You don’t make any attempt whatsoever to be less negative or to feel good. You just follow the program and voila – peace of mind cometh.
Here’s an email I received recently about how much the program helps you:
Dear Matt,
I wanted to thank you for making the Dao Zou videos available. I only actually made it through the first video before starting to practice. I have now completed over 30 days and have so much more clarity, focus, better balance, inner happiness and peace than I had before. I never miss a day now…30 mins., simple breathing and a smile in my heart, as you taught. This practice has made all the difference for me in many ways.
Thanks again,
Donna
P.S. Do you do any certification to allow people to teach Dao Zou? I believe people my age (I’m 67) could really benefit.
M.F. Hi Donna. So great to hear about your results. It truly is remarkable, isn’t it? Yet… it is totally predictable. As you’ve discovered, you feel it the first day, and when you work the program regularly, the results accumulate. The idea of having a certification has entered my mind numerous times this year. I will definitely look into having one as it would be HUGE.
All for now, my friend.
Best,
Matt Furey
Why Changing Your Beliefs is Unnatural
Here’s how a lot of self-development people tell you to change your beliefs.
First, you figure out what your negative self-talk is on any number of subjects. Perhaps you think you’re not good at math. Or you tell yourself you can’t write, draw or make money.
Second, you set out to change what you think of yourself. Gotta get rid of those negative beliefs.
Third, you record your negative thoughts/beliefs on paper, analyze them and figure out the opposite, which you then record as your NEW beliefs.
“I can’t play the piano” is changed to “I can play the piano.”
“I weigh 390 pounds” is changed to “I am now at my ideal weight.”
“I’m broke” is changed to “I am a millionaire.”
Tell me the truth when I ask, “How’s that working out for you?”
Chances are excellent that all the “work” you’re doing to change your beliefs isn’t bearing fruit. And there are plenty of reasons. The biggest of all is that words are not mental images.
The reason positive thinking doesn’t work is because you are only dealing with words. If your words do not match the mental images you have in your mind, positive changes will not take place.
The same goes with prayer. If you pray in a state of fear, your imagery doesn’t match your request. But if you pray in a state of confidence and faith, the power is out of this world.
Positive affirmations, for many people, are band-aids. They cover up the wound, the scar, the infection, but they do not fix anything.
The same goes for all those attempts to change your beliefs. If the image you have in your mind doesn’t shift to something much more appetizing, your beliefs will remain the same.
This is why I teach you to make no conscious effort to change your beliefs. Most of your beliefs took hold in your mind unconsciously and effortlessly, therefore, attempts to upgrade them should also be effortless and spontaneous, not forced or rehearsed.
This is where Dao Zou comes in. This program is designed to be used without effort or will power. This means it puts you into a “feel good” state without “trying.” And it doesn’t matter whether or not you believe this feel good state will happen. It just does.
Effortless effort is the idea you want to allow into your mind. Stop trying so hard to make changes in your life. Start with small stuff and build momentum; build a sense of flow. Once you have momentum, anything becomes not only possible, but doable.
Feeling good is much easier to accomplish when you engage your physical body along with your mind. The practice of Dao Zou grabs hold of your brain and nervous system and reorganizes your emotions to be much more positive and productive, naturally, without pressure or angst.
Dao Zou accelerates the practices of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind substantially. That’s why I recommend it to you so often.
See it. Feel it. Become it.
Matt Furey
Why Will Power Doesn’t Work
“In the battle between will power and imagination, will power always loses.
Will power loses because it imposes and forces its way. Imagination wins
because it creates spontaneous, natural rhythm and flow. Will power causes
resistance while imagination creates momentum.”
– Matt Furey
My best-selling product, Dao Zou, strengthens your imagination along with your body. There is no will power used whatsoever in this program. Meditatively move as you picture your goals. Breathe deeply, connect and let go. Feel the buzz of energy you’ve heard about, but never experienced.
Are You Alright?
One of my subscribers wrote to tell me he was outdoors, practicing Dao Zou, feeling the bliss of the moving meditation/visualization program he got from me.
A lady reported him. She didn’t understand what the man was doing.
The police showed up and asked the man if he was “alright.”
Without a shred of panic or fear, he told the cops that he was doing better than ever. They picked up on his smiling energy, smiled back and left him alone.
15 years ago I was staying at the Beau Rivage in Biloxi, Mississippi. Each night I would practice this moving meditation in front of the hotel/casino. I don’t recall anyone looking at me funny. And if they were, I was oblivious and immune to it.
Until the final night, when someone pulled to the curb, rolled down her windows and asked, “Are you alright?”
Funny, isn’t it?
When we take time to be silent, to go within, to regroup, most people will leave you alone, but there’s always that one person who doesn’t have a clue of what to do. The person is concerned about you – and it’s good to have people who care.
The greatness of Dao Zou is it makes you so peaceful and powerful, you don’t care if people don’t understand what you’re doing. You’re in the Zone – and ain’t no better feeling than that.
Mastering your mind isn’t only sitting and thinking positive thoughts when everything is going grand. It’s getting up and moving into the Zone when things aren’t necessarily perfect, when you’re in an agitated, anxious or downtrodden state.
Sometimes when we’re sitting, if we’re filled with angst and anxiety, stress and strain, it feels much more difficult to get back into balance. But when you move, the world inside of you changes – and thus, the world outside of you, provided you do so with a meditative mindset.
As my friend, Dr. Tom Hanson, author of Play Big, put it in a recent conversation, “It gives you a different lens to look at the world.”
What lens are you using?
One that puts everything in front of you with a fear, fight or freeze response?
Or one that allows you to put the stresses of the day miles away?
Yes, it’s easy to get sucked into the negativity in the news. But it’s even easier to back away from it.
The bonus for walking away from the negativity is that you get to feel positively blissful for no reason whatsoever, the way you were as a young child.
When you were young, you didn’t need a reason to be happy. You just were.
That’s what happens when you practice Dao Zou and Theatre of the Mind.
Happy, for no explainable reason.
Ah, the joy of practice.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Peace Officers
My wife came downstairs to sound the alarm.
“A cop just killed a black man in Minneapolis,” she cried.
She started to give me the details of how it happened. She asked me to watch the video with her.
I interjected: “What the ….? That’s not how you hold someone down. Who are the idiots who teach you to put your knee on someone’s neck to hold him down?”
My wife’s words painted such a gruesome picture in my mind, that I didn’t need to see the video. Doing so only made me feel sick.
I’m not into watching people suffer. I’ve seen enough violence. I’d much rather watch videos of people getting along, in peace and harmony.
As a teacher of grappling and submission holds, and as a person who used to write a monthly column for a number of martial arts magazines, I cannot believe that cops are being trained to restrain someone with a “knee on the neck.”
And to hold your knee on a person’s neck for almost ten minutes, while the person is gasping for air, that is beyond horrible. You have to be absolutely ruthless and uncaring. You have to be filled with hate.
What a sad situation. How can a human being’s life end at the hands of an abusive, dirty, ruthless, insensitive cop? It’s truly tragic.
Now the country is in chaos and the virus appears to be off the front burner.
Yet it isn’t.
As I stated long ago, the worst viruses of all are internal. These are the viruses of fear, of hatred, of racism, of anger, of cruelty.
When you see a hateful act committed by anyone, you are witnessing what comes from within. Nothing is expressed on the outside without first being played out on the inside of someone’s mind.
I am grateful to the police across this nation who took a knee yesterday. I am grateful to the police who have embraced, consoled and hugged those who are suffering at this time.
We need more police officers in this country who are “peace officers.”
We need more regular people who are officers of peace.
My heart goes out to to George Floyd, to his family and loved ones.
May we have peace in this country. May we have peace in our world.
And may it begin within each one of us, starting NOW.
Matt Furey
Fear Mongers
The fear mongers are relentless. They get off on weakening the strong.
They love instilling fear in others. They love to dampen and weaken all your dreams and desires.
And they love to pretend that they are protecting you from harm.
Many of those who attempt to weaken you are disguised as “helpers.” It’s easy to assume they want the best for you, but oftentimes they don’t.
This is why I believe in tapping into your innate discernment ability.
Most people have misplaced this ability and replaced it with whatever they are told to believe, or whatever their brand of news tells them to think. Even the so-called “spiritual people” no longer show an ability to discern.
Tapping into your ability to discern begins with your willingness to take a step back, detach and disconnect.
Can you go an hour or two without the dopamine fix you get from tell-a-vision or social media apps?
Can you ignore the negativity of others?
Can you unwind your mind and de-stress each day?
Yesterday a man wrote to tell me that I was “not the same” as Dr. Maxwell Maltz, energetically speaking. He accused me of stealing the Psycho-Cybernetics business, which I have owned for 15 years.
I smiled as I read this man’s email.
But does it deserve a personal reply? Not at all. It deserves the delete button. Yet wisdom tells me to use the essence of this man’s idiocies in an email for all to see and benefit from.
The fella doesn’t know how to discern, even though he thinks he does. And he doesn’t read well, either, as it’s obvious that I am the rightful owner of the business.
Of course, energetically speaking, I am not the same as Dr. Maltz. And I’m not supposed to be (this is covered in depth in lesson one of the Zero Resistance Living System). Neither is Dan Kennedy, who owned the business prior to me.
We’re supposed to be different, physically and energetically – and if you want to go further, spiritually.
As I stated yesterday, the best thing you can do with these negative vipers is shut them completely out of your life. If that’s not possible, ignore them. Give them no energy whatsoever.
Most importantly, make sure you refuel each and every day.
Make sure you have a way to take a step back from it all, gain a clearer perspective and recharge. Make sure you have a way to de-stress on a daily basis so that you can live and lead a more successful life.
Letting go of the negative stresses in your life may be as easy as a change in how you move. Negative thoughts seem to be hardwired into our brain, body and central nervous system, but only when we move in a familiar pattern.
We’ve heard the adage, change your thoughts, change your life. That’s looking at life in a metaphysical way.
But what if you changed what you do physically, and this lead to a change in your thoughts and emotions, and stress levels?
Well, I have good news for you. I created a program, Dao Zou, that radically changes your emotional state without you even trying to change your thoughts.
I have used it to recover from the sadness of a loved one passing away. I have used it to calm down and get focused before speaking in public. And I use it on a regular basis to “unwind my mind.”
Dao Zou is currently deeply discounted to help more people de-stress for success.
Jump on it NOW and we will work on your order today, even though it may not go out until Monday (we sold out yesterday, ugh).
Kick ass – take names.
Matt Furey
Walk Away from Negative People
There’s good and bad news all around us.
Optimism and negativity are in the air.
What matters most is what you tune into. Some people tune into the negative. It’s their nature.
Others do their best to tune into the positive, then negative people come along spreading doom ‘n gloom – and they get infected with a bug that can linger for a lifetime.
Many of these doom n bloomers watch and listen to their version of the news – believe it is gospel, and spread the spell.
These people are not psychics, but they act as though they are. They interpret your dreams, your hopes, your words. They tell you what you meant by what you said, or what you wrote. Yet, they have no clue whatsoever.
You’ll find these people everywhere. They’re in every profession, every industry, every way or walk of life.
And the best thing you can do is shut them completely out of your life. If that’s not possible, ignore them. Give them no energy whatsoever.
They need your energy. They feed off it. They use it as fuel.
Don’t give them any.
Most importantly, make sure you refuel each and every day.
Make sure you have a way to take a step back from it all, gain a clearer perspective and recharge. Make sure you have a way to de-stress on a daily basis so that you can live and lead a more successful life.
Letting go of the negative stresses in your life may be as easy as a change in how you move. Negative thoughts seem to be hardwired into our brain, body and central nervous system, but only when we move in a familiar pattern.
We’ve heard the adage, change your thoughts, change your life. That’s looking at life in a metaphysical way.
But what if you changed what you do physically, and this lead to a change in your thoughts and emotions, and stress levels?
Well, I have good news for you. I created a program, Dao Zou, that radically changes your emotional state without you even trying to change your thoughts.
I spoke about it in Theatre of the Mind.
I have used it to recover from the sadness of a loved one passing away. I have used it to calm down and get focused before speaking in public. And I use it on a regular basis to “unwind my mind.”
Dao Zou is currently deeply discounted to help more people de-stress for success.
Jump on it NOW and we will put your order in the mail later today.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
Dangerous Facts
Contrary to what many people choose to believe, there can be more than one set of facts. Not always, but more often than you may realize.
There are the facts that are shown to you – and there are the facts that are withheld.
There are the number of people who died from a virus – and there are the 99+ percent who survived and got no mention whatsoever.
There are all the countries who locked down, and those such as Taiwan and Sweden, who didn’t.
There are those who believe that masks protect you and others, and there are those who say that masks increase the risk of disease.
There are the OCD “wash your hands” and use hand-sanitizer 100 times a day people, who are paranoid about touching their own face, and there are those who believe you should never use hand sanitizer because part of a healthy immune system is dealing with bacteria on your hands.
There are those who think this panic-demic is the worst thing since moldy bread, and those who yawn and say it’s nothing more than the flu.
There are M.D.s who roll their eyes about taking Vitamin C, Vitamin D and Zinc, and there are M.D.s who write books supporting their value.
There are those who write me and applaud when I write messages such as this one….
And then there are those who go into a rage and drop off my list.
HURRAH!
That’s how I FEEL when I receive kind words, as well as when someone flushes himself off my list.
I applaud the people living in the Gulag Californigh-oh, who march to the beaches and to the capital to protest the lockdown. I also applaud those who choose to stay at home.
Don’t make me no never mind.
I have a unique Zen-like perspective on “the facts,” as well as the theories, as well as the unknown facts, as well as the not to be revealed facts.
I am this way when it comes to fitness, to self-development and to communication skills, such as writing and speaking.
I’m no fan of the “put on a persona” marketers you see on YouTube, Instagram and Facebook. I look for and follow those who are genuine, down-to-earth, authentic and sincere.
If someone reading my messages gets upset and chooses to move on, I consider that a blessing.
If someone thinks I’m a fraud, a phony, insincere or inauthentic, so what? It’s none of my business and it’s not my job to change their mind.
Think what you want to think.
Meanwhile, I shall write what I want to write…
including the four words I learned from my fellow friends on the University of Iowa wrestling team, so many moons ago.
Those four words are…
Kick ass – take names!
Matt Furey
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