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#1 Reason People Don’t Achieve Their Goals

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Of all the reasons why people don’t achieve their goals, there is one that is often overlooked.

Here tis:

People forget what their goals are.

Yes, it’s true. What you fail to review and by way of review….

REMEMBER, tends to be forgotten.

It doesn’t matter if your goals are in writing or not.

What matters is they are remembered.

The more often you picture a result you want, the greater the chance you’ll hit the bullseye.

Think of your goals as a checklist you bring to the grocery store. To be absolutely certain nothing is left out you carry a list and you refer to it.

Same with goals.

Take time to picture every day, and you activate your success mechanism to move toward the target – and the target toward you.

Matt Furey

P.S. Got Theatre of the Mind? It’s the key to remembering what your goals are.

Q: How do you act without trying?

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The question of the day:

Student: How do you act without trying?

Matt: The word ‘try” or “trying” is usually accompanied by excess tension or goal-resistance.

Most people do not see themselves doing better when the word “try” is added.

Instead, they see themselves trying (usually unsuccessfully) to do a thing.

Let’s go back to the baby again, shall we?

Does a baby “try” to learn how to speak? Or to roll over, crawl, stand up or walk?

There’s no trying involved in the baby’s actions. The baby simply follows what is natural.

Trying implies an unnaturalness to the equation.

“I’ll try to make it to the party tonight,” means the person is NOT going.

“I’ll see you there,” means you intend to go.

“I’m going to try to make more money,” means you don’t truly see yourself doing so..

“I’m going to” … or “I will…” – well, you can take those words to the bank.

Every time you catch yourself using the word “try” – or “trying” – stop yourself momentarily and remove the ‘t’ word from
your self-talk.

In so doing, you’ll be taking note of how things flow much more smoothly for you.

Matt Furey

P.S. ‪If you’re interested in discovering how to write emails such as the one you’re reading here, for your own business or for others – then go here.

 

More Money – Less Weight

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Last week a man who joined my Theatre of the Mind Facebook group, commented on why he wanted to be a member.

“More Money – Less Weight,” he wrote.

I sat back in my chair after reading his words.

That is fantastic,

It’s almost as good as the…

“Tastes Great – Less Filling”

It’s amazing when you think about it, but in many ways, for many people, self-image psychology, which is what Psycho-Cybernetics is about, somehow
turned into “more money – less weight.”

This wasn’t the intention of Psycho-Cyb at all. In fact, the book is NOT about creating wealth, getting awards or acquiring what Dr. Maltz called “prestige symbols.”

Dr. Maltz actually warned about this when he wrote,

Trying to be a “success” in terms of  acquiring prestige symbols, and wearingcertain badges leads to neuroticism, and frustration and unhappiness. Striving to be “successful” brings not only material success, but satisfaction, fulfillment and
happiness.

Yes, there is a difference between the two words, success and successful. One suggests that you’ve made it, you’ve arrived. The other admits that you’re a work in progress – and always will be.

Trying to be a success leads to frustration while striving to be successful brings you internal rewards first, followed by the external awards and symbols you may not have even cared about.

To be successful, peace of mind and happiness come first.

Want more money and less weight?

Then you begin to cultivate from the inside-out, rather than the outside-in.

You start with positive memories and feelings of accomplishment.

The goals you want to achieve are secondary.

An improved self-image is primary. Seeing yourself at your best, feeling good about yourself – those are the main goals.

You can achieve goals such as more money and less weight and still not feel good about yourself.

The world is filled with examples of “success” without happiness, such as…

Big gut wealth.
Big butt poverty.
Skinny miserable wealth.
Muscled and miserable poverty.

Happiness and good feelings first – followed by the achievement of virtually everything you focus on?

Now that’s what I call LIVING.

See it. Feel it. Be it.

Matt Furey

Don’t Make Your Bed Again Until You Read This

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Think of it. Speeches are given. Books are written. Success gurus have spoken.

Thou shalt maketh thy bed upon arising each day.

“Uh, why?” asks the Fure-Cat.

“Because it’s your first success of the day.”

“Because when you return home at night, you come full circle.”

“Because it proves you can get stuff done.”

“Really? You think so, eh?” I contend.

“If that’s all you have, it sounds to me that this is one of those ‘because I told you so’ moments.'”

Yes, I realize that many people think a made bed is important. The same goes for a clean desk. Both of these are so vitally important to some people that they’ll get into squabbles and fights over these “truths.”

Yet, from my Zen cave on a remote island, I couldn’t care less about a made bed or a desk stacked with files, books and innuendo.

A clean desk doesn’t prove you’re a genius and a made bed doesn’t prove you get stuff done. They may prove that you wasted
energy on matters that don’t really matter.

Einstein wore the same clothes every single day and he had a messy desk. I assume he never made his bed either.

Oh, and he slept 10-11 hours per day and got up at 8:30 AM.

And Einstein is NOT alone.

Genius doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all package.

There are geniuses who make their beds and clean their desks – and there are those who have someone else do it – or they don’t
do it at all – and don’t care.

What’s really most important and what will truly make a monumental difference in your life is discovering “how to organize and make up your mind.”

You can make your bed and clean your desk and still be a mess internally. On the other hand, you can leave your covers in a heap and have stacks of files on your desk, and be internally organized.

Upon awakening, how about mentally reviewing your goals for the day?

How about visualizing what you want to accomplish? How about being grateful for what you have already accomplished in this wonderful life we get to live?

When you do the above, you may feel so doggone good that you walk past your unmade bed, your messy desk – and you end up getting MORE done each day rather than less.

See it. Feel it. Be it.

By the way: If you want to exponentially ramp up your ability to get things done by making up your mind – then get your future award-winning hands on Theater of the Mind NOW.

Many people believe this to be the BEST audio program ever created.

Pretty amazing when you consider it was created on a messy desk and by someone who laughs at those who think making their bod is a “key” to success.

Matt Furey

P.S. Come join my Theater of the Mind Facebook group as well – for more insights and provocations that truly work.

The Greatest Motivator in the Whirld World

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In high school I was told that I’d never make it to the state tournament, and after I did, I was told that I’d never beat the defending state champion, whom I faced in the quarterfinals.

Done deal.

Then I was told I’d never wrestle for one second in an Iowa uniform.

Done that, too.

I was told that no one would read my writing if I deliberately mizpelled werds or used improper grammar.

HA!

I was told if I published my own books – no one would ever buy them.

Phooey.

I was told the style of advertising I wrote would never work.

Hurrah.

Of course, I’m bragging big time, but doing so with YOU in mind.

Whenever anyone tells you NEVER or NOT, thank the heavens above. They’ve just given you something almost as good as a dunk in the river Jordan.

Words are powerful – and sometimes the most negative words are the most positive. What some think of as negative causes the polar opposite to manifest.

When someone is told “You’ll NEVER be this or you’ll NEVER be that” – the chances of mysteriously catapulting this person into that very position are INCREASED – and sometimes dramatically.

Not always – but it happens so often in the lives of the successful that it’s easy for me to crown the word “NEVER” as the super-heavyweight champion of the WHIRLD.

Does NEVER cause the hair on the back of your head to stand up?

Good.

Now, here’s something I NEVER thought I would EVER do.

I set up three different Facebook groups – even though I’m not a fan of FB. If you’re not and stay completely away, I understand.

But if you’re willing to take a peek – you might find something positive afterall.

You might also be amazed – as well as understanding about why I’ve been putting most of my commentary on these groups.

I can now quickly communicate and “socialize” with those of you who enjoy my books and courses on Email Copywriting, Psycho-Cybernetics, Theatre of the Mind and CombatConditioning,

Listed below are three groups I’ve started that you may want to be a part of.

There is an approval process for each of these groups as well as a limit to how many people I will accept.

So if you want to increase your chances of being accepted, click the links below:

Email Copywriting Group

Theatre of the Mind Group

Combat Conditioning+ Group

See Ya,

Matt Furey

Big Time Invitation

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A few weeks ago I did something I never thought I would ever do.

After discussing social media with a long-time friend, I decided to start some Facebook groups that reflect the various subjects I’m involved in teaching.

As a result I can now quickly communicate and “socialize” with those of you who enjoy my books and courses and emails regarding Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind –

or those of you who subscribe to my emails because you enjoy reading my copy.

Listed below are three groups I’ve started that you may want to be a part of.

There is an approval process for each of these groups as well as a limit to how many people I will accept.

So if you want to increase your chances of being accepted, click the links below:

Combat Conditioning+ Group

Email Copywriting Group

Theatre of the Mind Group

See You on Facebook,

Matt Furey

You’re Invited

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A few days ago I did something I never thought I would ever do.

After discussing social media with a long-time friend, I decided to start some Facebook groups that reflect the various subjects I’m involved in teaching.

As a result I can now quickly communicate and “socialize” with those of you who enjoy my books and courses and emails regarding Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind –

or those of you who subscribe to my emails because you enjoy reading my copy.

Listed below are two groups I’ve started that you may want to be a part of.

There is an approval process for each of these groups as well as a limit to how many people I will accept.

So if you want to increase your chances of being accepted, click the links below:

Theatre of the Mind Group

Email Copywriting Group

Matt Furey

Clean Desk – Messy Desk

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‘Twas sitting at my desk, listening to an audio program on goal setting and time management.

The year was 1991.

As I listened I began to clean my desk. And then a couple clients came in to train (I had a gym as a personal fitness trainer at the time).

The woman, a high-energy best-selling author and highly paid keynote speaker, began to look at the program I was listening
to as her husband questioned me with, “What’s this all about?”

I began to rave about the program I was taking notes on.

“What have you learned so far?” he asked.

“Let me tell you, I’ve got pages of notes. One of the biggest is to keep my desk clean, to never let books and files and notes and
paperwork stack up,” I exclaimed.

“Hahahahahhahahahahahahahaha,” the couple chuckled and chortled in unison.

“What?” I wondered.

“Why do you think it’s a good idea to have a clean desk,” the man queried.

“Well, according to this program, all high achievers, all successful people, have clean desks.”

“I guess the author of the program has never visited the office of (he named a prominent business author who received, at the time, $65,000.00 per keynote.)”

I stood in shock, and listened intently as his wife nodded.

He continued: “In fact, if you were to see his office, and it’s about the size of your gym here (2,000 square feet), you’d see stacks of books and files several feet high everywhere. And then you’d see a small little path where you could make your way to his desk.”

“Are you serious?”

The couple shook their heads up and down. “Yes.”

He added: “There’s nothing wrong with having a clean desk, if that works for you and helps you be more productive. But you’d be surprised how many high-earners and entrepreneurs have desks, offices and homes that are literally stacks upon stacks of papers, files, clippings and books. That’s how they work best. A clean desk would drive them insane.”

To say I was speechless would be an understatement.

The woman then added one final punch to the “You must have a clean desk”  motivational mythology.

“As Einstein once said, ‘A messy desk is the mask of genius.'”

In looking to verify the quote, I found one that is much better.

“If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign of?” – Laurence J. Peter

From the date of the conversation highlighted above, I am quick to call “horsefeathers” on anyone who claims that a clean desk, a made bed, washed dishes and so on are somehow the “keys” to success.

In each and every one of these activities, you will find the “lack thereof” producing successful people as well.

If you function better and enjoy life more with a clean desk, with everything where it “should” be, with a made bed and dishes that are washed seconds after they get dirty, then I suggest you continue with this way of being.

But don’t assume this is the only way, the right way, the high-achievers way – or the way to success, just because someone else created a program saying so.

As a coach to many high-achieving people – as well as those on the way up the ladder – they can also vouch for the fallaciousness of so many of the myths that are posited as “truth” in the world of motivation and self-help.

In case you’re wondering if I have a clean desk – the answer is “what desk?”

You’re assuming I work at a desk.

I rarely do, so I could care less if it’s clean or cluttered.

When I do work at a desk – the answer is “sometimes.”

The same goes for whether I get up at 5 AM or got to bed early or plan my day in writing – or write out my goals.

Sometimes. Sometimes not.

Overall, a messy desk, getting up late, going to bed late and refusing to make my bed (most of the time), have served me very well.

I also love to go on a spree every couple years and get everything nice and tidy in my office.

In doing so, I feel elated and reborn. Until I realize the bed wasn’t made and the dishes got dirty.

Y’ouch!

Don’t fear the stuff that doesn’t matter.

So many of the motivational maxims are unnatural. Hence, they do not work.

Focus on the small natural actions and “ways” that do work and you’ll be all the better for it.

Matt Furey

P.S. The natural way to success is what I coach people on each and every day. Your brain and nervous system will go to work for you, almost on autopilot, once you know what “natural” is for YOU. Want some of the natural way? – then go here and see if you want to fill out an application.

P.P.S. Here’s how you can follow me on anti-social media:

Instagram – @fureycatmatt
Facebook.com/mativationaltips

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Go to Bed Late – Get Up Early

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If you’re looking for motivation or inspiration to get more done in less time, consider going to bed a bit later – and/or getting up earlier than usual.

Allow me to explain:

Several months ago, I made a decision to get up earlier than usual and slide out the door to walk a minimum of three miles.

This may appear to be an easy task, but I’m a “late to bed” moonlighting type of guy, so I’ve never practiced, believed in or advised others to get up at 5 AM or to go to bed early.

Yes, I realize there are many successful people who swear that getting up early is the hallmark of their success. Similarly, I’m simultaneously aware of the masses who get up early each day and receive no tangible or verifiable benefits.

Additionally, there are many legendary historical figures who worked creatively into the night – as well as innovators who discovered new pathways after midnight.

As a practitioner of Chinese internal martial arts, and a student of Taoist teachings on health and longevity, I’m aware of how the grandmasters have taught for centuries that the power hours of each day are 11 PM – 1 AM and 11 AM – 1 PM.

Think of the person taking a “power lunch” or the innovators and creators who were working after midnight to bring something new into existence. There may not be many of them, but I believe they enjoy a secret that few are aware of.

Personally, many of my best products were either created or finished in the late-evening, early-morning hours, and to celebrate the accomplishment, I slept in.

The ancient Taoists meticulously tracked everything they did, and as a result I was taught, by more than one master teacher, that every hour you spend in dedicated practice, espccially in the evening from 11 PM -1 AM, you obtain the equivalency of two hours of benefits in the form of “internal power.”

If you train for an hour – you get two hours of benefits. If you go for two hours – you get four.

I realize that this structure doesn’t necessarily appeal to those who believe you should get up at 5 AM each day or that you must have eight or nine hours of sleep per day to be a peak performer – yet, I believe there are some definite similarities to the approach.

Here are a few I can verify:

1. You’ll find it infinitely easier to engage in deep concentrated work because the majority of the world is sleeping,

2. You’ll be less prone to interruptions and trivial matters that anyone with a third-grade education can handle.

3. You’ll gain psychological and spiritual benefits, in part because you feel a sense of achievement just from the realization that most people are in bed already.

So, as you can probably see, if I’m going to be up until midnight or later, it’s inconceivable that I should also get up early to go for a jaunt.

Yet, intuitively, I felt this was a shift I needed to and wanted to make.

Upon contemplating the situation, I became aware that following this approach would result in a five or six-hour sleep pattern, rather than the eight or nine hours I was used to getting.

I then thought of something novel and made a psycho-spiritual shift in how I used my imagination as well as how I was utilizing my frontal lobes, the part of the brain involved in planning, organization and the prioritization of one’s day.

I put my ideas on paper in a hand-written journal I keep, then I set my timer to awaken at 5:55 AM, and made an agreement with myself to be out the door within 10 minutes.

When morning came the rebellious side of me that was intent on hitting the snooze button was unbelievably incorrigible.

What are you doing? Who do you think you are, Furecat? You don’t get up this early. This is absolutely stupid. Hit the snooze button and go back to sleep. This is crazy. You already walk five miles a day, you don’t need to do it at THIS HOUR.

As I was about to hit the snooze button, an illuminating awarness flashed before me.

I noted the precise mental picture I had just imaged.

The go-back-to-bed voice I was hearing was mostly a mental image, a mental picture of myself snoozing. At that moment I crafted an idea to transform the image of myself snoozing to one of me getting up and going outdoors for a walk.

This simple change in how I was using my imagination made it incredibly easy to follow through on my plans.

As a result I’m now able to get even more done in less time – so much less that I now do something truly mind-blowing.

I can cover this for you in a future dispatch if you’re game for it.

Or you can apprise yourself of all the nitty-gritty details at my seminar in February.

Until then…

See it. Be it. Have it.

Matt Furey

P.S. I’m thinking that no one reading this email can picture himself or herself in some area of life wherein you’d love to make a change for the better and move to the next level. But then again, maybe you do want to get more done in less time. If so, enroll in the seminar I’m doing with the legendary Ted Nicholas this February in Tampa. It will transform your life in a way unimaginable in common hours.

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