Every blessing contains a curse, and every curse, a blessing. That’s the realization I put into words recently.
Think about it. Think of any strength you may have, whether it is superior intellect, athletic skill, musical or artistic talent – you name it. Rest assured, along with your skills you’ll find a few things you wish weren’t part of the deal.
If some of your blessings are material, I can assure you there will be people who feel entitled to a piece of what you have. And if you’re fortunate enough to use a talent you have to acquire material wealth, don’t expect everyone to respect you. Some will hate you for no other reason than you appear to have MORE than they have.
Now let’s look at the “curse” side of the equation.
How can a curse contain a blessing. Well, it does, if you’re brave enough to look for it.
Let me give you an example: A young man I coach told me how he lost his job. He got fired. When I spoke to him by phone he was really down. And when I told him that losing his job was “good” – he was stunned.
Huh? he thought.
I continued: “Now you’re in the perfect position to start your own business, to become an entrepreneur. Now you can do the things you’ve always wanted
to do.”
The man thought I was smoking weed. He didn’t see himself as an entrepreneur. He didn’t believe he had any business skills.
But he followed my lead and persisted.
As of today, this young man has been self-employed for nearly 10 years. He turned a curse into a blessing – by looking for it.
Over the years I’ve written extensively about my highs and lows, my good and bad times. I’ve written about my successes and my failures.
This week has definitely been a challenging one. I’ve been stung a few times.
At the same time, this week has been one of growth. It’s been a week where I learned to “forgive and forget” at a higher level. It’s been a week of “let’s move on.” It’s been a week when the phone has rung with fresh opportunities to begin again – to take skills to the next level.
It’s not easy looking for blessings out of curses. It’s not easy looking for the good in a mistake you made, a blunder you caused or a failure you feel badly about.
It’s also not particularly exciting to know that your skills, abilities and/or blessings in life are not looked at favorably by others.
But it’s part of life and you either accept it or reject it.
One of the key phrases I learned from Dr. Maxwell Maltz goes as follows: “I may be a mistake maker, but I’m also a mistake breaker.”
In my case, this statement is definitely true. In fact, as part of a visualization, I can go back in time and relive something I did that I regret. And as I look at it
with objective eyes, I can repeat to myself, “Mistake Maker – Mistake Breaker.”
This will get me over the hump.
If I follow this statement with the question: What’s good about this? – then my mind will begin searching for a blessing. And it will find one.
Will this blessing have a potential negative attached to it. Well, sure. So what to do.
Rise above it by focusing on the blessings. When you do this, you’ll find it far, far easier to weather the negatives.
Best,
Matt Furey
P.S. To learn how to go from being a Mistake Maker to a Mistake Breaker who gets the ultimate out of life, be sure to order the Zero Resistance Living Course. It’ll calm you down, cool you off and help you make the most of any situation you find yourself in.
