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How to Find Your Purpose in Life

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One of my clients was frustrated.

He told me he “felt lost” because he couldn’t find his life purpose. He’d been on a search to find his purpose for years, all to no avail. 

Within a matter of minutes, I helped him figure his predicament out, and the weight of the world was lifted off his shoulders. 

I asked him questions that got to the heart of the matter; questions that dealt with his assumptions. 

Yes, we assume that we have a purpose in life. We also assume that it was given to us and our job is to find the needle in the haystack by searching and searching and searching.

But it doesn’t work that way. The more you search, the more you struggle, the less likely you are to succeed. It’s similar to “trying harder.” The harder you try to do something the more you interfere with what is naturally yours for the taking.

Put your open, cupped hand in a bucket of water and you can retrieve some.

Put the same hand in water then make a fist before you pull it out, and you will have nothing. You can “try harder”with a closed fist an infinite number of times and the result will be the same.

Success in anything comes when you have balanced proportions of relaxation and tension.

To retrieve water from a bucket with an open palm, you need some tension in your fingers. If there’s too little tension, if you’re too relaxed, your hand cannot do its job. Same goes with too much tension.

Being relaxed doesn’t mean you have zero tension. You have just enough to succeed, and no more.

It’s a deep subject. Deeper than that bucket of water. And it applies to finding your purpose in life.

Last night I sent out the nitty-gritty details of how I walked my client out of his frustrated funk to members of my Theatre of the Mind Masters coaching group. 

If you want in on those details, you can subscribe by going here.

Matt Furey

P.S. And by the way, in the current issue, I also covered how you can lose weight without will power, and how you can do so while making every day as plentiful as a Thanksgiving Day Feast. No calorie counting, no carb counting, no bull. We’re going into the holiday season, where people tend to blimp out. This may be the perfect answer to that time for you.

When You’re Feeling Blah… MOVE

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If you’ve ever gotten up in the morning and you could not get yourself going… this email is going to music to your mind and body.

Psycho-Cybernetics is not just about the inner workings of your mind, how to improve your self-image, and how to set and achieve goals.

It is also about “moving” your body when your mind is out of whack. And how sometimes, getting a move on is the best thing you can do to blow off steam, de-stress and take control of your emotional state. It’s about using your body to access deeper levels of your mind.

One of my long-time friends, himself a master of creating his ideal world, once told me that he could only remember waking up feeling good about five times in his whole life. Yet, every time anyone saw this man, he was happy, productive and resourceful.

How could that be?

Well, just because he wakes up in a less-than-happy emotional state doesn’t mean he is doomed to stay there.

What’s the man do?

He gets up and begins moving his body. He begins with small movements for his joints to get his blood flowing. He focuses on his breath as he moves. And then he begins working on other exercises that immediately give his brain and nervous system the “juice” and the “reset” that it needs to feel happy and get things done.

ONLY after he has moved his body does he sit in a chair to visualize. He gets everything pumping and flowing first, then he pictures what he is going to get done today.

At the end of each day, he expresses gratitude and appreciation for what he got done and he feels exhilarated.

The next day this man repeats this same process. He doesn’t exercise in exactly the same way each day. He varies it somewhat, and that is also part of his body-mind activation secret.

In the November issue of Theatre of the Mind Masters, I’m going to give my coaching subscribers multiple ways to take charge of your life by using your body in some mind-bending ways, along with photos that demonstrate what I am doing and why.

If you follow the methods I am laying out, you will obliterate the “blah” state so many people experience upon waking up, within a minute or two. More importantly, these same psycho-physical methods will work any time of the day that you feel a bit off.

The November issue will go out on the 7th of the month, but the deadline to subscribe is approaching quickly.

Jump in NOW to make sure you get this pivotal issue.

Matt Furey

Two Worries

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Two worries. Negative and positive.
Negative worry is about problems.
Positive worry transcends problems
and creates a new path.

from One Breath at a Time 

As Dr. Maltz taught in Psycho-Cybernetics, worry is the negative use of your imagination. You picture something in the future and the image you see is horrible.

When you picture something negative in the future, you instantly feel fear, anger, horror and panic.

But when you turn worry into something positive, you picture what you want.

To enhance your mental imagery even more, here’s how you can verbally turn the following situations around:

You’re worried that you’re going to lose your job.

“I’m worried I am going to keep my job or somehow get an even better one.”

You’re worried about a trip you’re going to take.

“I’m worried that I’m going to have an incredible trip.”

I’m worried that I’m going to be homeless.

“I’m worried I’m going to make so much money I will feel totally relieved from life’s burdens.”

Postive Worry!

Give it a whirl and change your whirld for the better. 

Matt Furey

P.S. My newsletter coaching group is applying these ideas with stellar results. If you want to leave negative worry in the past and unlock the secrets of positive worry, and much more, in a HUGE way – click here.

Wayne Dyer’s Small Steps Approach to Success

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Dr. Maxwell Maltz wasn’t the only self-development pioneer who understood the importance of daily goals and a small-steps approach to success.

Turns out Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, had a similar method.

Here’s what Dyer wrote in is book, I Can See Clearly Now:

“In the Tao Te Ching, Lao-tzu speaks about the importance of thinking small, not big. “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Had I been thinking big back then, I would have passed over that tiny little WRAB radio station two blocks from my home. Yet a simple knock on the door of a station with maybe ten watts of broadcasting power led to so much more. What I see clearly is that a baby step leads to the second step. I was being urged to take little steps by a force in the universe that directs everything and everyone. Great things began with a single step.”

Dr. Maltz’ book, Psycho-Cybernetics, has sold over 35-million copies worldwide.

Dyer’s book, Your Erroneous Zones, has sold an estimated 100-million copies worldwide.

Perhaps these two authors knew something simple, yet profound.

As I’ve written many times:

When you think big,
you stumble on every twig.
When you think small,
you realize you can have it all.

On a daily basis we are assaulted with the think big mentality.

That’s why we need daily reminders to focus on what is getting accomplished today.

Reminders that come in the form of short quotes or powerful thought-provoking poems, that cause the information to stick to your mind as though glued to your brain.

One Breath at a Time accomplishes this objective.

Each day, read a passage or two. Then put the book down and picture what I’m writing about.

Then go through your day with this pivotal message playing in your mind.

After 30 days of doing this, look at your results and be amazed.

Then keep doing this same thing, focusing on daily goals, one breath at a time, and you’ll be creating the life you’ve always wanted to live.

See it. Feel it. Be It.

Matt Furey

The Biggest Goal Setting Mistake Ever

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Have you been taught to set goals with no limits, to set big, hairy, audacious goals that scare you?

If you have, ask yourself, How many of my goals have been accomplished?

Chances are, if you’re similar to most people I’ve met, at the end of each year, you have a long list of unaccomplished goals. And you may think that YOU are to blame, that it’s all your fault.

Well, I’m here to tell you something refreshing. No, I am not going to say that it IS or ISN’T your fault.

What I am going to tell you is that you’ve been taught wrong. You’ve been taught an inferior method of creating the results you want.

The key to success is NOT long-range goals that are big and hairy and scary.

The key is gaining momentum with shorter-range goals that build so much passion, drive, confidence and courage within you that you are literally catapulted onto achieving BIGGER goals that DO NOT scare you.

I use the word ‘catapulted’ for a reason because it implies you are LIFTED out of your present circumstances by a force that has your back. You’re not fighting yourself. You’re not struggling. Instead, you are knocking off so many smaller goals that you cannot help but think BIGGER. And as you think BIGGER, you don’t even think you are thinking BIGGER.

How you are thinking is a natural byproduct of momentum. Along with this momentum is a track-record of success that supports you, that gives you confidence and courage.

The above is covered in Zero Resistance Living as well as in my new book, One Breath at a Time.

I suggest you delve into both of these programs, unless, of course, you enjoy rewriting the same list of goals each year, with little to show for it, except for a weak feeling of hope that this time things will turn out differently.

There’s a lot to glean from today’s email, in and of itself… but if you want more, those links shown above are waiting for you. Will you respond to that inner calling you have within to make a change for the better?

See it. Feel it. Become it.

Matt Furey

Donuts for Breakfast?

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So we’re on the road again. Doing lots of sitting as we drive. 

What do we eat for fuel? 

I can assure you that it’s not donuts. 

In fact, one of the secrets of being able to drive for long distances is NOT eating anything. It’s this thing called FASTING. 

Years ago, long before “science” caught up, I advocated fasting. Today, many people still poo-pooh the benefits of fasting in favor of counting calories, eating five small meals per day, giving up meat, and so on. 

One of the biggest erroneous arguments against fasting is that you’ll lose muscle mass. The opposite is true. 

You maintain muscle mass as you fast – and you burn off fat. 

It takes discipline. It requires mental toughness. But the benefits are huge.

Increased flexibility. Improved cognition. Added strength and vitality. Elimination of aches and pains. And much more. 

I’ll write more about this later.

Kick ass – take names.

Matt Furey

The Brain-Body Reset

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This past weekend I had a seminar with a group of men in Kalispell, Montana.

Part of what I was teaching were exercises that give you a brain-body reset. Many of them involved positioning your body in specific ways that make you feel energized, happy and confident, even though you’re not necessarily thinking about any of them.

This is what I call physical-cybernetics. When you sit, stand and move in a structured way, good feelings arise naturally.

Same goes for good experiences.

People respond to you differently, giving you better results with less effort.

When the training was finished, over and over I heard attendees say, “This was the reset I needed.”

Every day we have an opportunity for a grand reset, to relax and focus our minds on an objective that we turn into reality.

Every day we have an opportunity to create a result we envision.

And every day we can observe the results of working the process.

Last June, when I got home from a different brain-body reset, I got to work on creating the seminar I just completed. I envisioned it in my mind, then made it happen by taking action. I didn’t just sit around visualizing and hoping everything would work out.

You see what you want in your mind’s eye, then you get to work in such a way that you don’t feel as though you’re trying. In fact, if you feel that you are “trying,” you’re missing the boat. Yes, you put forth effort, but ultimately, effortless effort is what gets the job done.

In August I published my latest book, One Breath at a Time, using the same process.

One reader sent me the following note a few hours ago:

Hi Matt, 

When I was thinking about ordering One Breath At A Time, one of my thoughts was wow, $69 for a book?

I’m glad I trusted my gut and ordered it. I just read it for the 1st time and I can tell you that it has changed my life for the better.

I will continue to read it over and over again, a few pages each morning when I wake up and at night before bed.

I look forward to incorporating the ideas into my life!

A big fan,

John R.

Thank you, John. I’m happy for you. Keep me posted on your progress.

Well, my wife and I have a few more places to visit. I’ll check back in with you as soon as I can.

In the interim, to get your copy of One Breath at a Time, click here.

See it. Feel it. Be it.

Matt Furey

Double Your Luck

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Today’s question is about the so-called Luck Factor, and whether the practice of Theatre of the Mind increases it.

Matt,
I gotta tell ya, when I practice Theatre of the Mind it feels like it makes me luckier, if that makes sense. After practicing it I feel better and is seems to me that when I feel better I get better results in whatever I am doing. I was always taught that there’s no such thing as luck but now I’m wondering if these old sayings about hard work being all there is are holding us back.
Jane

M.F. Thank you for this question, Jane. It’s a good one. There’s an old saying attributed to Thomas Jefferson, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.” And there’s truth to this saying. At the same time, millions and millions of people work incredibly hard and they don’t seem to get any lucky breaks… at all. Then there are those who are lazy, and not necessarily talented, and somehow, they rise to the top. So there’s a lot to this luck notion.

Here’s what I can tell you based upon my experience, and the experiences of those whom I coach. When you relive past, positive experiences in the Theatre of the Mind, and you do this BEFORE picturing a goal, your energetic field is instantly changed.

Instead of feeling blah, you feel happy. And you feel happy NOW, even before you’ve achieved your goal. This happy feeling then makes it far easier for so-called coincidences and lucky breaks to come your way. In fact, there are neuroscientists who have studied this phenomenon, which I’m going to cover in far greater detail in the October edition of Theatre of the Mind Masters.

For now, realize that what you picture in your mind influences how other people respond to you, as well as how the subtle energy of the universe responds to you. If the mental picture you have in your mind is geared toward happiness and success, good things follow you more closely than someone whose predominant disposition is negative. This is one of the reasons why gratitude is so important. And by the way, even though the practice of Theatre of the Mind is not referred to as “gratitude,” it most certainly activates this quality within. When you take the time to remember and review the positive in your life in the mental movie theatre, you feel happy now, regardless of where you are on the road to your goal.

Matt Furey
Psycho-Cybernetics.com

P.S. To ensure that you get the forthcoming October issue of Theatre of the Mind Masters, where I go into major league detail about activating LUCK through Theatre of the Mind, click here. 

How to Practice Without Effort

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Psycho-Cybernetics Question of the Day

I have a question Coach… what does it mean to “Practice without effort?” In Ch 4, page 66 of Psycho Cybernetics, Knight Dunlap is being quoted and I’m not sure how to comprehend practice without effort.

Basil

M.F. Good question, Basil. When you practice with effort, you are attempting to over-power a situation. This begins with the mistaken notion that physical effort is superior to mental and spiritual power.

Here’s an example:

Most students attempt to memorize by rote. They read and re-read something, or repeat it out loud over and over. This requires much more time and effort than using the power of mental imagery. Not only that, but the rote method doesn’t last long. A few days after an exam, most of what was “memorized” is forgotten. But with the mental imagery method, a great deal time is saved. You learn and comprehend remarkable fast, and ​​​​​​​the material that was learned, without struggle, is still with you… long after the exam.

Many people struggle to remember names, so they repeat to themselves the name of someone in order to recall it later. But if you form a mental picture of the person’s name, associating it with someone else you know, as well as with an action and a location, the name is “locked in” immediately, without all the rote repetitions.

Another simple example that can give you the experience of what this means is when you are opening a bag of food, or unscrewing the lid from a jar.

As you “try” to open the bag or unscrew the lid, you may find it unusually difficult. At this point you can double your physical effort – still to no avail.

But if you stop for a few seconds and picture the bag already being open, or the lid already being unscrewed from the jar, you will be shocked at how, with a seemingly effortless movement, the bag opens and the lid comes off.

This is the idea.

Take time to picture first – then act. When you do it this way – it’s almost crazy how little effort is involved.

Effortless effort doesn’t mean ZERO EFFORT.

It means less than ever before… so much less that it feels as though what you did was EASY. It was NOTHING.

Picture the ball going through the hoop before you shoot.

Picture the sale being made before you open your mouth.

Picture the report being finished before you begin writing.

Then observe what happens.

More picturing – less grunting.

Matt Furey

P.S. My new book, One Breath at a Time, wants a home inside your hands. When it is on your desk, you see it and you pick it up each day to read a few pages. You breathe as you read, taking in the wisdom of “effortless effort.” And as your day moves along, you may be stunned at how you flowed… how you got so much done with a feeling of ease. What you learn in this book is so much better than “trying harder,” it is stunning. If you’re ready for an amazing change,
​​​​​​​click on this link.

How Small Successes Become HUGE

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Here’s a passage from my new book (it’s one of my favorites):

Momentum comes from small successes that spontaneously catapult you onto bigger objectives. What you thought was impossible becomes possible, when you have a string of small successes that give you the confidence that you can do anything.

Why is this passage one of my favorites?

Because it represents the breakthrough moment I had as a collegiate wrestler, the moment that catapulted me to winning a national championship.

Yes, I had a big goal to win the title – but I struggled with nervousness and anxiety about whether or not I could make it happen.

Then one day afternoon, I decided to set a goal that wasn’t so far off. It was just a goal for today’s practice.

I took out a notecard and wrote:

“I will throw my practice opponent 20 times in today’s workout.” 

That afternoon, facing the same person that I had only thrown four times in our previous practice, I put a whooping on him. I tossed him repeatedly. The difference was almost magical. It was surreal.

I achieved my goal for that practice. And I continued to set adaily goal for the remainder of the season.

At the national championships I was the number one seed.

Even so, I did not look beyond my first match. I followed the same procedure, taking one match at a time.

Looking too far ahead destroys the ambitions of many athletes. 

They look at the first round, albeit briefly, then begin to project ahead, thinking, often out loud, about who they will face in the second round, in the quarterfinals, in the semifinals and finals.

And far too often, the athletes who look beyond the first round, get beat before the second.

The same thing happens in business. It took me awhile to figure out that having a daily business or career goal was just as important
as having a daily goal as an athlete.

This is why I repeatedly say, “Take care of today first, and there will be no frustration.”

Even better, take care of what you have before you NOW.

Get the seemingly small stuff done each day, and before you know it, you’re on your way.

Get yourself going with what appears tiny, and you’ll hold a trophy that’s nice and shiny.

For a copy of my new book, One Breath at a Time, click here.

Matt Furey

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