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What “Empty Your Cup” Means

April 14, 2015 by Matt Furey

Over the years, I’ve had a number of conversations with self-help authors and speakers who refer to their work as “head-trip stuff.”

Then there are others, myself included – who’ve used the term “mental game” instead of “head trip.”

Both terms are just as misleading and off the mark as those who say they’re practicing “mindfulness meditation.”

The practice of meditation is mind-less – NOT mind-full.

The person whose mind is full cannot spontaneously act, create or do anything. He or she must “think” about it first. And the very act of thinking interferes with the flow of energy and ideas, that are always available to us – if we’re open to them.

Yes, there is a time for thinking – but when you’re creating – there’s very little of it. When you create – you get downloads from the ethers – or from within – or a combination of both – and you’re so busy being the DOER that there’s no time for thinking,

The time between conceiving of an idea and implementing the idea is short indeed. And the shorter the time the more you are in flow – the more you understand that you’re “being” instead of thinking about being.

When it comes to processes like Theatre of the Mind and the advanced Psycho-Cybernetics exercises in Zero Resistance Living – what you’re doing is using deep breathing, the power of relaxation and mental pictures to get into a state of flow.

Yes, you’re using your brain to picture what you want – but that’s NOT the same as sitting around pondering. And the proof is that when a person really “nails it” with his mental imagery practice – ACTION becomes instantly spontaneous. There’s no “thinking” about taking action. You just act.

If you make mistakes with the actions you take, you realize you’re now a bonafide member of a very large club that includes … all human beings.

You might think – if I took a little more time to think before I acted, maybe I wouldn’t have made a mistake.

Possibly – but not likely.

You can say to yourself, “I should have done this” or “I should have done that.”

But as Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “You can never should have done anything.”

Time spent thinking about something before acting rarely improves performance – and I’m sure you can come up with thousands of examples where it hinders performance.

As the great Yogi Berra once said, when a manager told him to “think” when he’s having an at bat – “How do you expect me to hit when I’m thinking?”

Yogi was right on.

You cannot think and simultaneously do anything well – just as you cannot meditate with a full mind or with mind-full-ness.

In order to get into FLOW – in order to live life without resistance – you must head the adage: “Empty your cup.”

This means empty your mind of all the Ph.D. knowledge you have on a subject and “let yourself go.”

Stop holding yourself back. Be true to yourself.

You might “think” this is easier said than done – and it is when you’re thinking such a thing.

But if you pay attention to your breathing and relax your body as you picture what you’d like to have in your life, emotion begins to build inside you and without even knowing why or how, you get off your duff and begin doing what you were picturing.

On the other hand, if you hold onto your breath (refusing to empty your cup), you cannot physically or mentally relax – and so you cannot truly emotionalize what you’re picturing – or make it happen.

And now, it’s time for this spontaneous flow to come to an abrupt halt by saying…

here endeth today’s lesson.

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Best,

Matt Furey

Best Time to Focus on a Goal

April 10, 2015 by Matt Furey

Question: When’s the best time to focus your mind and visualize your goals?

Answer: Not when you think it is.

Seriously. Most of us have been told to visualize first thing in the morning or just before going to bed at night.

And these notions are correct if you’re a “neck-up” type of person.

I’m not.

Neither are many of the people I deal with. And based upon my experience in dealing with those who aren’t exactly physical – I believe you’ll help them far more by engaging their body as you “work” on the mind.

Contemplate the following: Almost everyone feels better after going for a walk.

Walking clears the cobwebs from your mind. It moves the blood, gets you breathing deeper and helps endorphins flow stronger.

Walking is good medicine for the mind – especially when you do it oudoors, in nature, surrounded by trees. Or on the beach. Or along a mountain road.

And when you combine walking time with visualization time – you capture two birds with each step.

Most of the people who live in the area that I coach are used to me having them do something physical as we talk.

They don’t come to me, sit in a lazy boy and have me guide them through Theatre of the Mind.

Instead, when they show up, they are handed a jump rope or told to follow me as I begin walking.

And when we walk, we talk.

They ask questions and get answers.

The stories flow. The advice pours out of me.

And they get even more super-charged – I’d say at least
three times more – than if they were merely sitting and listening.

I realize most of you reading these words cannot come and walk/talk with me personally.

But all of you can do as Richard has writen below:

Hey Matt,

Just want to let you know that I’ve gone through the entire TOTM CDs and video and am now on my second listening. I put it on my ipod and listen while doing chores or taking walks.

I think your program is excellent, one of the best if not THE best I’ve ever come across (I’ve listened to a lot of them) full of great transformative information and techniques. You are a great storyteller and it’s really easy to listen to.

One thing that I’ve glommed onto early on is the face behind the face and the inner smile. Really makes a huge difference.

Thanks for doing it and putting it out there.

Best,
Richard

MJF: Thank you, Richard. Maybe someday you can come to Tampa and experience the message LIVE. Glad you’re enjoying the CDs.

Well, my friend, if nothing else – get out there and walk. and if you really want to get somewhere in life – listen to my Theatre of the Mind program while you walk.

Turning walking time into success time.

Best,

Matt Furey

#1 Path to Success

March 30, 2015 by Matt Furey

This morning, Michael, a private client, who lives in the area, met me at 10 AM for a session.

He says, “I’ve been walking six miles a day. I do three in the morning and three more at night – and I listen to your Theatre of the Mind CDs the entire time. It’s awesome.”

“Great,” I said. “Let’s go for a walk.”

He smiled.

We started to walk and talk. And as we walked he began to ask questions. Really good questions.

He wanted to know the main difference between self-esteem and self-image – and how each relates to success.

He wanted to know why some people who achieve various successes, still don’t feel good deep inside.

I explained to him that many people cannot wrap their mind around the very word “success.”

They don’t have a clear or working definition of what it is. Ask these people to tell you about a success experience they’ve had and they literally draw blanks.

Truly. They cannot conceive of a single success experience.

Even if they’ve completed 8 years of college and have a doctorate – or they’re medical doctors, they can still find reasons WHY they haven’t really had a success experience yet.

I know people who’ve built their own homes, earned a ton of dough, married the woman of their dreams, written books, created companies, traveled the whirld – and yet, deep down, they still feel like nothing.

How can this be possible?

Truth be told, this situation is more common than you’d think.

Some people don’t feel successful, regardless of what they’ve done, because they don’t know how to be grateful, to stop and smell, touch and kiss the roses.

As soon as they accomplish one thing, they’re off to the next thing. Gratitude doesn’t exist. Taking time to breathe and be free doesn’t exist.

It’s more, more, more.

And more is good – provided you have the decency to appreciate what you have, where you’ve been and what you’ve got.

How many people do you know who say “thank you” – and mean it?

How often do you take a few moments during your day to think about all the things, all the people, all the circumstances you’ve had, are having – or will soon have – and how marvelous it is to be in your shoes – with or without the problems that go with it?

How often?

Chances are excellent that you NEVER take the time to be grateful. Or you do it so seldom the answer is practically never.

Last night I was playing ball with my son. When we finished, I said, “Son, I have something for you.”

I walked toward him. He’s waiting for me to give him something. But where is this something? Where am I hiding it? Am I going to get it out of my car? Or from the house?

As I walked toward him I could sense his curiosity growing. And when I was a foot away, I threw my arms around his torso and gave him a hug.

“Way to work today,” I said. “That’s awesome.”

We tend to overlook the little things that pay big dividends.

We tend to overlook the bigger things that are central to where we are today.

And we’re so good at overlooking the little and the bigger – that we even overlook the really BIG things, the pivotal people, the life-changers, the knowledge, the information, the six honest serving men – as Kipling called them.

No, I’m not successful because I’m not as rich as Bill Gates.

That’s B.S.

No, I’m not successful because I wasn’t valedictorian, or didn’t win the World Series, or the Super Bowl or get my Ph.D.

More B.S.

No, I’m not successful because ….

Because what?

You’re alive, aren’t you? Your heart’s still beating. You can still breathe. You can still walk, talk, read, write and feed yourself.

The fact is you could do NONE of the above when you were getting started – and breathing and having a heart beat are not something you do to yourself. They’re automatic.

Even if you cover your mouth to forcibly stop breathing, eventually nature will force your hand so you gasp for air.

So what’s the #1 Path to Success?

It’s the path of remembering who you are, where you came from, who helped you along the way – and how grateful and happy you are for everyone and everything.

Know someone who won’t show gratitude?

They’re on the path to failure.

And you’re not.

The greatness of Theatre of the Mind is that the process puts you into a state of gratitude and a state of flow – and it does so easily and naturally, without you even realizing it.

What a way to live.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. Want to know of one of the biggest reasons why so many visualizers, affirmers and goal setters never get what they want? Listen to Theatre of the Mind and it’ll be clearer than crystal.

Why Affirmations Don’t Work

March 11, 2015 by Matt Furey

This morning, I’d like to tackle a question that many readers have on the subject of positive affirmations.Do they or don’t they work?Below is what one customer recently wrote – followed by my answer:

Dear Matt,

I recently listened to your Theatre of the Mind CDs (which I think are fantastic) but just wanted to know more about the reason you believe affirmations are not valid.

It is refreshing to hear your take but every other “mentor” out there, says you must read affirmations daily as if you had already accomplished them, and I guess that is what we are meant to see in the Theater of the Mind.

Is it that the Theater of the Mind is enough and that doing so daily renders the affirmations useless? I have been using affirmations before I heard your teachings, admittedly, with not much success 🙂

I hope you don’t mind me emailing you but I was curious to find out more.

Best regards,

R.H.

My response:

Dear R.H.,

Thank you for such a great question. My answer may shock you even more than the Theatre of the Mind program.

The experts say that all affirmations should follow the three P’s – personal, present tense and positive. They say this is the way to create your own reality.

Okay, so my question is: Is this the way you do normal everyday tasks, like eating, bathing, sleeping, and so on?

When you’re hungry, you probably say something to yourself like, “I AM Hungry” – correct? This is then followed by a question, “What do I want to eat today?”

And this question is probably followed by you scanning a series of mental images about food and/or restaurants, until you decide on a specific mental picture or movie of yourself devouring your next meal.

Are you with me so far?

Okay, so let me ask: When you ask yourself what you’d like to eat, do you say to yourself, “I am now eating a giant pizza?

Probably not. I’m willing to bet you don’t say you’re eating anything until you actually ARE.

Yet, I’m also willing to bet that you formed some type of mental image of yourself eating and you imagined the meal being really, really good before you ate it.

So, you linked a mental picture with the emotion of hunger and the emotion of feeling – and this drove you to feed yourself.

You could stand in your kitchen and affirm, “I AM NOW EATING A PIZZA” for the next month – and be no further toward eating than when you began.

The same goes with money, relationships, travel, business and so on.

Just because you positively affirm something doesn’t mean you’re going to create it.

In fact, in many cases, positively affirming something practically ensures that you’ll NEVER have it.

You do NOT create results just because you positively affirm them.

You create results because of the mental images you have in your mind, the desire you have within to achieve them – and because of the actions you’re wiling to take to make your images become reality.

Many “positive affirmers” don’t picture what they want – don’t have enough feeling in what they affirm and aren’t willing to take action at the level required to achieve their goal.

If the words you are affirming are incongruent with the mental imagery and feelings you have on the same subject, you’ll get nowhere but stuck.

Additionally, if the words you’re affirming are being negated by an unconscious voice (automatic failure mechanism) that is essentially saying, “B.S. You’re never going to do this, that or the other…” – then it doesn’t matter whether your affirmations are present tense, positive and personal – or future tense – i.e. “I am going to” or “I will.”

In fact, you can make “I can” or “I will” or “I am going to” statements and make them become reality at shockingly surprising speed if your mental images and your level of emotion are strong.

I’ve given clients affirmations that are neither positive or negative. They just ARE.

For example, for a fellow martial artist – “move from your center.”

Not, “I am moving from my center.” Just, “move from your center.”

For a wannabe writer, instructions are to “Shut off the monitor and write.”

Not, “I am shutting off the monitor screen as I write.”

So the whole thing about the three P’s is practically irrelevant provided you see yourself where you want to be – and feel yourself there – as you state a goal to yourself.

In short, if you see yourself making a pizza – if you feel good about the idea, then it matters not whether you think or affirm, “I am now making a pizza” or “I’m going to make a pizza now.”

And now, for the ultimate mind-bender. There is a way to use positive affirmations, including the “I AM” variety, and get results – but not until the failure mechanism has been subdued, minimized and shut down. So guess what? It’s not for beginners.

Even so, you cannot get to that level of affirmation magic unless you first and foremost understand the power of mental pictures and the feelings that go with them.

This means that, if you affirm anything, positively or negatively, nothing much will happen unless there’s powerful mental imagery and emotion linked to them.

Lastly, keep this in mind: “In the beginning was the Word.”

True – and the Creator speaking the Word had a mental image of what was being created – otherwise the “Word” alone wouldn’t have created anything. So it is with affirmations. Words alone don’t do the trick – unless or until they are mixed with mental images and feelings.

Again, thanks for your email.

Yours,

Coach Furey

P.S. For personal coaching in Theatre of the Mind and Psycho-Cybernetics, visit our website and fill out the application.

Cursing Your Circumstances

March 4, 2015 by Matt Furey

As some say in the south – “dadgummit.”

That’s what I could have said yesterday – and a whole lot more, when I spent a good half-hour working on an email masterpiece.

It was a great one. It was riveting. It cut right to the heart of the matter in many peoples’ lives – especially the financial aspect.

Upon finishing this masterpiece – the computer shut down. There was no way to retrieve what I’d written because it was typed on the email site itself – not on a document.

As soon as this happened – I inhaled, took a breath and surprised myself with my next thought.

What was it?

Well, it wasn’t “dadgummit.” It didn’t contain expletives – unspoken or out loud.

It was as follows…

“Looks like that email wasn’t supposed to go out today. You can re-do it later. You can still remember what you wrote, so nothing is really lost – except time – and time doesn’t really exist anyway – so carry on.”

Huh?

Are you serious, Furey?

I AM.

Again, this suprised me. I’m not normally this calm about things. Close – but not when I lose something I’ve written.

If I had to give you a penny for all the times in life I’ve gotten upset over stupid stuff, worried over things that will soon pass, driven myself to frustration instead of unwinding my mind – you’d have a nice little nest-egg – that’s for sure.

Part of being truly human is the willingness to admit that you make mistakes. Stupid mistakes.

The other part is being willing to forgive YOURSELF – so you can move on and improve.

When we think about forgiveness, we usually think it’s about “others.” It’s not. It’s about YOU. It’s always about YOU.

You start by dropping the baggage about yourself. You drop the “I’m an X because I did X” story.

And as you’re able to toss your own garbage out – you open space within your mind to realize that others can be given a bit more slack,too.

After tossing out your own stupidities – and learning from them – you return to the NOW – for a fleeting moment – because the NOW never lasts. The NOW is gone as soon as it arrives.

Yet, from this so-called NOW – we can go into the past to find the moments in time when we experienced happiness, joy,
elation, peace of mind and so on.

It’s not BACK TO THE FUTURE.

It’s BACK TO THE NOW.

You go back in time to the moments when you were at your best – and then you feel as if you’re truly living them in the NOW.

The so-called NOW is when time stops. It ceases to exist. You have no sense of it whatsoever. You and what you are doing or not doing are just existing.

This awareness of who you are allows you to navigate life with effortless ease.

In Psycho-Cybernetics speak, we call this Zero Resistance Living.

You stop going through life with sand-paper rubbing against your skin. You start sliding through life as if you’re riding a sled through packed snow. You start rising higher with the wind – realizing you cannot get anywhere without it.

There are those who think you must resist life to make it; that you must even resist resistance itself.

I don’t share this line of thought.

Resistance is something you turn into effortless effort.

You’re working – but it doesn’t feel like work.

You’re practicing – even doing so with absolute gusto – but it doesn’t feel like practice.

You’re competing – giving it all you’ve got – and you make it look easy.

That’s what life is like when you use resistance to climb higher instead of seeing it as another battle to overcome.

Yesterday a man who recently purchased Theatre of the Mind wrote to tell me how calm he’s getting following the program. He says he’s listened to the program three times already – and he now has his wife listening to it along with him.

When a program is so good that you listen to it repeatedly, something must be right on about it. Comments like this make my day.

If you’ve got a story to tell about your experiences with Theatre of the Mind – please let me hear it. Would love to know about it

All for now – and so far, no dadgummits.

Yours,

Coach Furey

P.S. Starting over isn’t so hard. Each day we do it, without thinking. If you made a mistake yesterday, don’t curse your circumstances. Start again today.

No worry. No fear.

Shut if Off

February 17, 2015 by Matt Furey

Last week I wrote about the Failure Mechanism and how to shut it off. Many of you wrote to ask for more information.

Quickly, here’s what each letter in the word Failure stands for:

F – Frustration
A – Anger and Aggression (excessive)
I – Insecurity
L – Loneliness
U – Uncertainty
R – Resentment
E – Emptiness

Now, the list shown above may not look like much, until you convert it into questions like, “How many times in the last 30 days have you felt frustrated about something going on in your life?”

Or, “Have you felt any resentment for something in your life over the last 30 days.”

It’s a tough question to face, I know. For many people, to even ponder this question is somewhat comical. I have recordings
of a live seminar conducted by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, wherein he asks this “resentment” question.

Guess what the response was from the crowd?

Laughter. Raucous laughter.

It was as if the laughter were saying, “Are you kidding me? The last 30 days? How about the last 30 minutes?”

The question Dr. Maltz asked gives you a glimpse of how much time a person can spend off-track in his or her emotional state.

And all the time you spend feeling frustrated, angry or resentful is actually taking you toward negative instead of positive goals. It’s causing more of what you don’t want.

It’s the equivalent of a quarterback being upset that he threw an interception in the first quarter when the game is tied in the fourth and his team has the ball.

When it comes to succeeding in this game called LIFE – it’s hard to go it alone. It helps to have someone guiding you away from the Failure Mechanism and toward the positive goals you want to achieve.

But it’s hard to know – it’s oftentimes hard to see how we derail ourselves.

This is where a good coach or mentor plays a key role in your life.

If you think you can get where you want to go – on your own – with absolutely zero positive outside influences or influencers – you’re pretending to be the one in a zillion who can do it that way.

If I take a few moments to think of all the great coaches I’ve had in my life – and there are many – the list would be long, indeed.

In addition to the coaches, I’ve had a ton of positive influencers – people who weren’t a coach – but who at various moments in time, were the perfect person at the right time, to help me go to the next level.

So make no mistake about it, if you find someone who is anti-coach, a person who claims you can and should “go it alone” – this person has influencers telling him such a thing.

I’d be foolish to think that all the things I currently know WOULD have been figured out by me and me alone, without a coach or outside influence.

At this point in time, I work with two different martial arts teachers – even though I’m a world champion (1997).

You might think, “What more do you need to learn from these men?”Answer: A LOT. There’s an entire universe of knowledge and information I have yet to learn – and to think I’m going to figure it all out on my own – HA.

True, when I train and practice I CAN figure a lot of things out on my own – but this is because I have a coach who points me in the right direction.

In my opinion, the most important coach of all is the mental game coach.

Why?

Because after you’ve learned what to do physically – chances are you hold yourself back in some way.

Naaaah, nobody would ever hold himself back, right?

No one would ever stop herself due to fear, worry, self-doubt or some other negative reason.

No one would ever have self-defeating thoughts or feelings.

Everyone who knows WHAT to do follows the Nike slogan. They “Just Do It.”

Wouldn’t it be great if that really were the case.

Yet, it’s not.

And that’s why it’s so important to have someone guide you over and around the pitfalls of the Failure Mechanism.

It’s a fact that nothing in your life will change for the better unless YOU change on the inside for the better – FIRST.

This isn’t about “attracting success.” It’s about changing who you are INTERNALLY so you can pull what you want into your life.

Change how you think and feel WITHIN and you’ll change how your life flows on the outside.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. I have an enrollment form up for Psycho-Cybnosis Coaching. There will be private as well as group coaching classes starting very soon. Let me know your preference.

Biggest Mistake Coaches Make

February 10, 2015 by Matt Furey

The other day I gave my daughter a tennis lesson.

I decided to do so after watching her get a private lesson from a very good coach.

As I watched her lesson, though, I made a few mental notes on what to work on. There was one mistake that she repeatedly made – so I devised a way to correct it for her, within 5 minutes, and do so without ever telling her she was doing anything wrong.

What?

Now, that’s a pretty big idea, especially when I’m not a tennis coach and for all “practical” purposes, am not qualified to give instruction on the game.

Okay, if I’m “not qualified” – how’d the session go with my daughter?

Well, first let me tell you what I didn’t do – EVER, in the entire lesson.

First, I gave zero instruction on mechanics, how to hit the ball or anything remotely close.

Second, I never corrected her mechanics in any way.

Third, I believed I could have her hitting the ball correctly within a few minutes with this “mental game” method.

So what happened?

In less than five minutes, she was stroking the ball better than ever.

Now, how could that be? Am I joking?

Not at all.

Here’s the trick: People make mistakes all the time when they do something new. And they’re told by coaches that in order to create “muscle memory” they need to repeat their technique 2,000 times in a row in order to have a repeatable movement pattern that’s on auto-pilot.

This is totally false and misleading.

Far too many coaches and teachers still don’t realize that mistakes are NOT a bad thing – so long as you learn from them and use them as feedback to guide you to a BETTER – not a perfect – performance.

IF you continually point out mistakes – you cause the person to become a bit more tense and a bit more inhibited. More tension and more inhibition lead to reduced performance.

So the key is to reduce tension and reduce inhibition – to remove the fear and frustration of making mistakes. To actually VALUE your mistakes. To practice without pressure so that you can think and make adjustments.

As a coach, if you don’t condemn mistakes, neither will the player.

If you don’t have something to say after every shot – the silence will do more to help the athlete than your barking about technique and mechanics.

You’ve got to trust that the player isn’t an idiot, that if you know when to leave her alone – she’ll actually turn out better.

You’ve got to know what not to say.

You’ve got to know how to give the athlete the control so she can make the adjustments on her own and figure it out herself.

And the amazing thing is you don’t even have to know the game in order to do this.

Let me tell you, my daughter was smiling and having a blast. She was loving the game more than ever.

Her Dad was a genius. How’d he know all this stuff to help her get better so fast?

What I know is how to “Defeat the Failure Mechanism.”

That’s right. The Failure Mechanism.

If you don’t know how to shut the feelings of frustration, fear and inhibition OFF – no amount of positive thinking will help you.

Why?

Because the failure mechanism will undermine all the positive stuff you’re trying to do.

As parents, coaches and teachers, many of us unknowingly contribute to the inhibition, fear and frustration of those we love. It’s sad but true.

I did so myself.

Until I discovered the secrets of defeating the failure mechanism.

Once I had these keys in mind and began implementing them, I was no longer the same coach, teacher or parent.

I’d like to pass these keys on to you. If interested let me know.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. Remember, you can save $40 off the price of Theatre of the Mind if you order NOW. It’s the best CD program out there – and was created without a bit of self-criticism on my part. It was all FLOW. Listen to this program and it’ll connect you to the Force of FLOW as well.

The Power of a Daily Discipline

February 9, 2015 by Matt Furey

Over 20 years ago, author Deng Ming Dao, autographed two of his best-sellers for me.

The first was inscribed, “To Matt, a Sifu.”

The other, “To Matt, In Discipline Lies Freedom.”

The second inscription was the one that gave me pause.

Even this morning, more than two decades later, I’m still drawing wisdom from this simple wisdom.

A daily discipline is not the same as a habit.

Habits are things you do almost unconsciously.

You don’t have to think about most habits because you’ve been doing them so long they’re on autopilot.

Getting dressed in the morning isn’t a discipline – nor is brushing your teeth, taking a shower, grabbing a cup of coffee or reading the latest on social media.

These are habits. They might be good – they might be ho-hum – but they’re not disciplines.

Disciplines are the activities you get involved in that you usually WANT to do – but after you get started, your automatic failure mechanism (or ego), jumps into the mix and does everything possible to derail you.

I know you said you’re going to walk for an hour each day – but you’re tired today. Take a rest.

I know you said you’re going to write for a half-hour per day, but today’s your birthday, take a rest.

I know you said you would practice the piano – but this tee-vee show is on, and it’s really good. You don’t want to miss this show, do you? Take a rest.

The failure mechanism loves to guide you away from a daily discipline.

It loves to see you filled with fear, frustration and resentment. It loves tearing down what you’re working on. It loves interrrupting what you’ve committed yourself to doing.

Why?

Because that’s the way negativity operates. If your ego can keep you from ever developing any type of ability, talent or power – it feels safe.

No worries, you’re not going anywhere. Stay where you are. Sure, you’ll never be fulfilled, but that’s easy – just blame others for why you’re not who you could be.

That’s the way the failure mechanism works. Blame. Resentment. Excuses. Self-Criticism and Criticism of Others.

Taking on just one new daily discipline – something you commit to do each and every day – something you haven’t done before – brings great power into your life.

It brings you freedom.

Why? Because a daily discipline lets your failure mechanism know that the REAL YOU is in charge – not your ego.

Rain, snow, sleet or stifling heat – you’re doing what you set ou to do.

No excuses. No whining. No complaining.

Each and every day, someone or something will try and derail you. Guaranteed.

Again, that’s WHY a discipline is more than a habit.

The failure mechanism wants you to believe that self-discipline is slavery. It couldn’t be more wrong.

Self-discipline means you’re NOT a slave to your emotions, to other people, to the weather, to the next show on tee-vee.

You have power because you’re FREE from all the people, ideas, activities and changes in the wind that could blow you off course.

And because of your daily discipline, you have the power and the freedom to CREATE what you want in life.

You can create a new talent, ability or skill.

You can create a new body, business, home, product, service or work of art.

You can create. Period.

The truth is that you will never take on or maintain a daily discipline without thinking about it first. It’s physically impossible to embark on a new discipline without picturing yourself doing so in your imagination.

Not only that, you cannot get derailed from engaging in your new discipline unless you picture yourself “not doing” what you set out to do.

Sure, your wife talked you out of it (or your husband, daughter, sister, brother, dog, cat or pet tortoise) – but that cannot happen unless you buy into their mental picture of you taking a break.

This is why the Theatre of the Mind program is so important. It’ll help you do more than get going with a daily discipline – it’ll give you the tools to easily tell all the detractors, naysayers and nobodys that you’ve got something important to do.

You’re building power. You’re creating a new self-image – and along with it, a newer, better and more productive life.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. I’m putting together a program that’ll go into even more detail on Ways to Defeat the Failure Mechanism. If you like this idea, let me hear about it.

Fear Does What?

February 4, 2015 by Matt Furey

When we are fearful about something, we unconsciously tense our muscles, furrow our brows and close down.

This way of being causes us to feel pain – not only in our bodies, but in our day-to-day lives.We can have a workplace that is a pain. We can have friends and family who are a pain. And we can have financial troubles
that feel like a crushing weight.The pain can be psychological, physical and emotional – and usually is – all at once.

To escape this pain, we may create bigger barriers – and before we realize it, our whole life can become a maze where we’re doing little but side-stepping what we’re afraid of instead of attacking and going toward what we want.

Fearful people hang back. They don’t want to lead – and don’t want to be seen. They’re crying for someone to love them while
simultaneously building bigger barriers to being loved.

Amazing, but true.

The other day I told a parent who was struggling with his children:

“All children have a fear that Mom and Dad don’t love them – or won’t love them.

“But do you know what? All parents fear their children don’t love them – or won’t love them after they did their best to teach them all they knew.

“All children make mistakes and get corrected – but being corrected doesn’t mean your parents don’t love you. The exact opposite is true.

“I suggest you talk to your children and tell them exactly what I just said. Lay it on the line. Talk about FEAR and how it gets in the way.”

I can vouch for the above because I’ve done it with my own children. And it never fails. You cut to the chase. You talk about the four-letter word that destroys success before it can happen – or interferes with successful living.

Think about it: Why do we want our children to succeed? Why do we want to succeed ourselves?

It’s not just that we want to win – or be somebody. It’s that we’re deathly afraid that we aren’t somebody right now – and we better prove we are – or else our whole lives are nothing but failure.

Imagine a different scenario. A scenario in which you did whatever you did out of love for what you are doing – and the fear of not being loved or being somebody had NOTHING to do with it.

There’s a great baseball movie, For Love of the Game. In the end, a baseball is autographed by a big league pitcher. He’s retiring – but not before throwing the game of his life. Before his final inning – he grabs a ball and a pen and writes those five magic words – then signs his name.

He did not write:

“I Had to Do It”
or
“Fear Drove Me”
or
“My Dad Made Me”
or
“I Finally Proved I Am Somebody”

You come into this whirld with a light shining brightly within you – a spark of the divine.

And then, over time, sludge, slime, dirt, grease and mud cake the light and make it harder and harder to see.

All that stuff that blocks your light is FEAR.

Your parents fears, and everyone else’s – that YOU unknowingly took on.

The great truth though, is that regardless of how much dirt covers the light, the beam is still shining, doing it’s best to push through the crud.

And the crud can be removed, layer by layer, by retraining your mind to think in empowering pictures and re-equipping your body to feel empowering emotions.

This, my friend, is what you’ll learn from me when I teach you personally and privately how to coach yourself in the Theatre of the Mind and Psycho-Cybernetics programs.

In fact, these programs are pre-requisites to being mentored by me – that way we’re both on the same page.

If you already have these programs, and you’re ready to take the teachings to the next level to eliminate the fearful thinking from your life – then let’s talk about some Psycho-Cybnosis – coaching sessions – wherein you learn to dehypnotise yourself from false beliefs – like the FEAR response that causes so much pain in so many peoples’ lives.

Let your light shine. Let’s remove the crud and bring forth the REAL YOU who plays the game of life for “the love of it” – and for no other reason.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. A typical fear response to the above would go like this: “But if I did things out of love – then I wouldn’t …..”

Keep in mind, if you hear a similar voice – FEAR stands for… “False Evidence Appearing Real.”

One Man’s Mistake – Another Man’s Trophy

February 2, 2015 by Matt Furey

You’ve probably heard the saying, “One person’s trash, another treasure.”

Last night, I watched one coach’s mistake turn into another team’s trophy. A Super Bowl trophy.

I honestly couldn’t believe what I saw – even after I watched the replays.

It looked like the dumbest play EVER in Super Bowl history. If you’re a Seahawks fan.

If you’re a Patriots fan – it’s the greatest play you’ve ever witnessed.

Today, the more I think about it, the more I realize that I’ve been in a similar place in my own mind when it comes to dumb mistakes.

MOST of US have a dumbest mistake EVER operating in our minds. All of us did something stupid, said something dumb, made a game-losing move, gave the wrong answer at the correct time – and so on.

Somewhere, sometime, somehow.

And if we don’t clear away the anger, the guilt, the frustration, that memory is still there in our subconscious, haunting us.

If we had the misfortune of making our mistake on an international stage – UGGH.

That’s the AGONY of Defeat at it’s zenith.

Yet, it’s simultaneously an opportunity to grow and make yourself better.

Every mistake is a memory with emotion. If the emotion is positive, we can use that memory to create more of the same. If the memory is negatively charged, we can learn from it and grow – but ONLY if we purge the dark energy surrounding the mistake.

In Theatre of the Mind, I tell the story of the big mistake I made as a 19-year old – and how the day I cleansed the negative emotion from it was the day I was set free.

Got something you’d like to set free? Some experience? Some hurt, heartache or dumb mistake?

Then I subtlely suggest yo get your copy of Theatre of the Mind today.

It’s currently on sale for $40 off the regular amount – and we have supply in stock.

This extraordinary program doesn’t last long when I have it around – so claim your copy NOW – and live life to the full from then on.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. With each program you also receive a free copy of one of my best-sellers – and you’re going to love this one because it has to do with increasing your income.

What “Empty Your Cup” Means

Best Time to Focus on a Goal

#1 Path to Success

Why Affirmations Don’t Work

Cursing Your Circumstances

Shut if Off

Biggest Mistake Coaches Make

The Power of a Daily Discipline

Fear Does What?

One Man’s Mistake – Another Man’s Trophy

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