Psycho-Cybernetics - See Yourself at Your Best
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Today I’m doing something you don’t see much anymore. I’m writing to you with an ink pen and a sheet of plain white – non-college ruled paper. See the image below – and enjoy what comes to mind as you read. Make notes – this is a life-changing letter…
On December 1, 1998, my wife’s parents came to the United States for a six-month visit. The visit ended up lasting nearly 17 years, during which time Wai Po and Wai Gong (Chinese for grandparents on the mother’s side) took several trips back to their homeland in China, to keep up with the changes.
Less than a month ago, due to their age and the possibility of health difficulties manifesting, they decided it was time to return to the Big Country. It was an agonizing decision because none of us wanted them to leave – nor did they – but ultimately, they want to be back in China when they take their last breath on this earthly plane, so it’s for the best.
For the past two weeks all of us were counting the days. Last night, it really started to hurt. I could sense how they cherished every single moment with us; how they looked forward to cooking us one last meal; doing the dishes, having one more conversation in our home; watching me write in my journal or practice tai chi; seeing our children doing homework; seeing them exercise, even, as odd as it may sound, taking out the garbage for the final time.
True story, just before getting in the car to go to the airport, Wai Gong (grandpa) insisted on putting the trash receptacles on the street for pick-up. Yes, he even savored taking out the trash. Talk about having a spirit of gratitude.
One last time.
At 5:15 A.M.
When I hugged Wai Po (grandma) I automatically began to thank her for all she’s done for our family for the past 17 years. She interrupted me to thank ME for all I’d done for her and her husband for the same period of time. I was stunned – so was she, I think. Neither of us could say, “You’re welcome.” We couldn’t even think such words. We could only feel a deep sense of thanksgiving for each other and to express it with xie xie ni (thank you).
As Wai Po and Wai Gong got into the car to go to the airport, I told my son and daughter to stand with me and maintain eye contact as long as possible. See them off in grand style. Don’t just turn around and walk away. This is a moment to remember for the rest of your lives. Your grandparents are going back to China, to stay – and the only way we’ll see them again is when we go there ourselves.
I realize it’s nine days early for a Thanksgiving message, but the truth is everyday is an opportunity to be thankful. Each day is a day to count your blessings, to go through your life and cherish the best moments; to be grateful for the life you get to live, the people you get to meet and the opportunities that come your way.
Savor your life’s experiences. Love your family and friends – and forgive your enemies.
The present moment is all you have.
Live in the NOW, aware of every breath, conscious of as much detail as possible in all there is to experience.
Realize how all moments must pass, and will.
Even the most beloved will come into our lives, and eventually go. It may not be easy when they depart, but this “coming and going” is an unmistakeable law of living.
As for our memories, we can hold them near and dear to our hearts. Doing so invigorates us and keeps up healthy. Keep in mind that withIn sadness lies happiness, within sorrow their is joy and within emptiness you will find substance and meaning – provided you are looking for it.
Adjusting to life in our home without Wai Po and Wai Gong will take some time – especially after almost 17 years of being with each other. Ah, the lessons I learned by being immersed, perennially, in Chinese culture, are gifts I shall treasure forever.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Matt Furey
P.S. The teleseminar I held last Friday on Failure Forces for those who purchased Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded, was epic. Send me the receipt for your order by email and I will send you a link to listen to the replay.
Today is the last call for the free bonus teleseminar I’m giving away when you order your copy of Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded – which contains my commentary, foreword and afterword on the 55-years young self-development classic, written by Maxwell Maltz, M.D.
Psycho-Cybernetics is often credited as the springboard and launching pad for the plethora of knowledge existing today on the topics of goal achievement, visualization, self-image and mental imagery. As one best-selling author once told me, “We cut our teeth on Psycho-Cybernetics.”
Similar comments can be noted about the grand majority of best-selling self-help authors of the past 50 years – including many of today’s top speakers and writers, such as Anthony Robbins, Bob Proctor. Dan Kennedy, John Assaraff, Tom Hopkins, Mark Victor Hansen and too many others to mention here. The late Zig Ziglar and Dr. Wayne W. Dyer can also be added to this list of Dr. Maltz acolytes. In fact, the same goes for NFL Hall-of-Fame legend, Vince Lombardi, who had a dog-eared, underlined, highlighted copy in his personal library.
35 million copies sold doesn’t happen by accident.
Now, here’s some important news for those of you who order Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded during this LAST CALL.
I have a free gift for you when you order Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded today.
The gift to you will be a LIVE teleseminar wherein I reveal the Biggest Causes of Failure in Society Today and What You Can Do To Nullify Them.
After you’ve purchased the book, all you need to do is send me your receipt by email and I’ll put you on the list for the priceless teleseminar I have planned. It’ll take place late next week – so see yourself placing this order NOW. Doing so will land you on the teleseminar with me.
Make Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded an integral part of your personal library today. This book has already changed millions of lives. Be one who leads the field in this new era of achievement. .
Best,
Matt Furey
P.S. A hearty “thank you” to those who have already responded and purchased the book. I’ve been collecting your email receipts and will be notifying you next week with the information about the teleseminar.
27 years ago I was sitting in an audience, listening to the late Zig Ziglar give a riveting speech about goals and how to achieve them. Partway through his presentation, Zig declared how your IMAGINATION is the “greatest nation on earth.”
In order to make such a statement you must be a person who thinks with both sides of his brain. This is why the logical, linear person, upon hearing such a statement, scoffs and tells you you’re full of baloney.
Zig Ziglar didn’t scoff because he knew nothing great is ever achieved unless someone, somewhere, first imagined it.
Don’t believe me, then look around your home or office. Or go for a stroll or a ride along the road. As you witness the objects indoors – or the homes, street signs, traffic signals, streets, roads and buildings outdoors – ask yourself if these objects just showed up out of the blue, without anyone imagining them being where they are first. I dare say you have a very hard case to prove with logic alone.
As I’ve told my students over the years, “There is no creative power or magic in logic.”
Yes, logic is important, but it is NOT the way to conceive of something and create it. In fact, logic is often the “demotivator” or destroyer of dreams and goals.
Logic, when overextended, becomes a major source of weakness. A person cannot even conceive of a better life because he immediately succumbs while pondering all the reasons something can’t or won’t work. Coming up with reasons something WILL work – that’s not logic’s department. It lies in your ability to IMAGINE.
To understand the creative power all of us have within, it’s imperative that you begin SEEING DIFFERENT. When you see different, you think and imagine unusual higher-powered thoughts – and these thoughts cause avenues to open up in and to you that you were incapable of seeing previously.
These new avenues begin inside your forebrain. When you combine your newly imagined goals with the positive memories and emotions stored within the hippocampus, you’re able to envision taking charge of your life in a new way.
This is what Zig Ziglar understood to be true. Where did he learn this piece of information?
From Dr. Maxwell Maltz, author of Psycho-Cybernetics, the 35 million copy classic best-seller now in it’s 55th year of publication.
Nearly one year ago, I was asked to help create an updated and expanded edition of this monumental life-changer. What an honor it was to add a riveting foreword, a powerful afterword and essential commentary throughout. Today this book went LIVE. I encourage you to order Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded NOW so you can discover new life-altering principles in your life on a daily, consistent basis. I recommend this book to you because it will expand your IMAGINATION – making it so powerful and so effective in causing results to flow into your life, that other people will marvel at the changes in you.
Naturally, most of these people will have logical reasons to explain your successes, opting out of the better life themselves. It’s too bad, but it IS a reality.
Here’s some more great news: I have a free gift for you when you contact me with a receipt for your order. It’ll be a LIVE teleseminar wherein I reveal the Biggest Causes of Failure in Society Today and What You Can Do To Nullify Them.
After you’ve purchased the book, send me your receipt and I’ll put you on the list for the priceless teleseminar I have planned.
Best,
Matt Furey
P.S. Yes, your imagination is the greatest nation on earth. Place your order for Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded NOW and you’ll understand why.
Tomorrow is a very big day. We call it Election Day – or Super Tuesday.
It’s a day wherein we choose to elect people to hold various offices in this country.
I have a very different opinion about Election Day. Instead of looking on the outside for change to happen, instead of pinning your hopes and dreams on others to fulfill them – why not “elect yourself?”
You could say to yourself while looking into the mirror, “Tomorrow I’m going to enter a booth in my mind and vote for you. I’m going to stop putting myself down. I’m going to stop selling myself short. I’m going to throw out the garbage thinking on a daily basis. I’m going to vote for myself. I’m going to cast my first ballot for you. And from this day forward, I’m going to vote for myself every single day. Not just on election day – but every single day.”
You might think such an idea is too simplistic for you. I suggest you DO IT before forming an opinion. I’m willing to bet that emotions will get stirred up as you recite the words listed above. I’m willing to say you’ll feel blood coursing through your veins, that you’ll feel your brain pulsating with an energy you haven’t felt in years – or never before.
Yes, it’s important to have great political leaders. At the same time, the most important person to lead you to fulfill your purpose in life is YOU. This is why it’s so important to vote for yourself.
One of the ways you can truly cast a vote for yourself is to study more about the self-image, and how it is the blueprint in your brain that is forecasting your forthcoming experiences. You cannot rise above the overall self-image that’s stored in your brain – but you can alter it and improve it. You can make it bigger, more powerful and much more useful.
A colossal key in strengthening your self-image is the 35 million copies classic best-seller, Psycho-Cybernetics. The book is now celebrating it’s 55-year anniversary – and I’m elated to announce that there’s an updated version available tomorrow, on Election Day. Yours truly wrote the foreword and afterword to this masterpiece – an honor that I am truly honored by. I also provided some brief commentary on the principles and how they work, in any age, for anyone who dares to apply the secrets.
I sincerely suggest you get a copy of Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded NOW.
Use the book as part of your daily practice in getting more living out of life. Learn to become the BIG YOU that you’re voting for tomorrow. Then again, why wait until tomorrow. Start today. Vote for yourself this very moment by ordering Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded.
I have a free gift for you when you contact me with a receipt for your order. It’ll be a LIVE teleseminar wherein I reveal the Biggest Causes of Failure in Society Today and What You Can Do To Nullify Them.
After you’ve purchased the book, send me your receipt and I’ll put you on the list for the priceless teleseminar I have planned.
Best,
Matt Furey
P.S. Once again, here’s the link to order Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded
What I’m about to tell you may be too “mystical” for you to believe. And you may think I’m reading too much into the situation. Either way, here’s what happened:
He was about 20 feet away from me and was wearing a football jersey.
At first I thought nothing of this situation. I looked down and began to highlight the section, then I turned my gaze a bit to the side, pondered what I’d just seen for a moment, then looked straight forward again.
“What did it say on that jersey again?”
Plain as day. Right before my eyes the name….
WAYNE
Now, I realize this may appear to be nothing more than a coincidence – but Wayne Dyer was a big believer that our so-called coincidences are anything but coincidences.
Nearly two years ago, for example, I put on a Super Bowl jersey and went to breakfast. The jersey was from Super Bowl XVIII (43). I’d never worn this jersey at any other time than when I attended this game, which was held in Tampa.
As I ate breakfast that Sunday, a number of people made note of my jersey. I began to wonder why I was wearing it.
Later that day my Dad called to tell me my mother was in emergency at the hospital. Before I picked up the phone I heard a voice telling me the eventual outcome. I rushed to my Dad’s home to pick him up.
When I saw my Mom I knew she was not going to make it. This was her time.
And then, when I overhead my Dad giving the nurse my Mother’s date of birth, I instantly knew why I was wearing that jersey. It was symbolic of Mom’s birthday – 4-30 – but reduced to 43 for obvious reasons.
Okay, okay. I get it. Both of these experiences were just random events that I’m assigning some sort of arbitrary meaning to in order to understand the “human condition.”
Really?
Perhaps. Then again, perhaps not.
I guess I’m in the You’ll See It When You Believe It crowd. If you haven’t read this Wayne Dyer classic, I suggest you order it, because the opening story in this book makes what I just told you seem like nothing.
In fact, when you’re really in touch with how your automatic success mechanism works, as Dr. Maltz would say, these sort of coincidental experiences are anything but random – unless you think everyday occurrences still qualify as meaningless.
Yours,
Matt Furey
President of Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc.
Psycho-Cybernetics.com
P.S. Here’s a passage from yesterday’s email that may provide a clue as to what happened at breakfast yesterday (pay attention to what is underlined and italicized):
“In his latest book, I Can See Clearly Now, Wayne wrote about the positive influence Psycho-Cybernetics had upon him and how it changed his life for the better. Due to Dr. Dyer’s positive personal touch to my life, I included him in the foreword to the updated and expanded version, Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded, due out November 3. My only wish is that the book were published for him to see the reference before he passed.
Then I remember, this is the man who wrote books about the mystical, magical and mysterious. Why not visualize that he will see it? Not in human form, but in spirit.”
The “AH” is a pause, a moment of silence, a moment to reflect upon the lives Wayne Dyer touched in his journey on Earth, including mine.
I was a freshman in high school the first time I saw Wayne Dyer’s face. Twas on the cover of his first monumental best-seller, Your Erroneous Zones. A teacher was reading it – and at the time, I felt no attraction to his teachings. I was too deeply mired in cruddy thinking to see the value. In fact, I was so far gone that his very countenance repelled me.
Years later, post-college, I was in a bookstore in Santa Cruz, California, going through the self-help section. At that time the repulsion was nearly gone. I recall picking up five of his books and putting them into my pile for purchase.
Then a negative force told me to put the books back. And I did. Uggh. That was stupid.
A year goes by and Dyer comes out with a new book, which was trademark typical of his career (at least one new book per year for quite a spell).
This time I was ready. Really, really ready.
So ready, in fact, that in conjunction with the new book coming out, he was giving a talk in San Jose. I bought a ticket and attended – and as soon as Dr. Dyer glided onto the stage, I was hooked. I bought the hardcover copy of You’ll See It When You Believe It – and during an intermission, I joined the long procession of others who wanted their book signed.
Shaking Wayne’s hand was a turning point in my life – and over the next few years, everytime he came back to California and was within two hours of where I lived, I was in the audience. Each time I attended I met with him to at least say “thank you.” Each time he greeted me with a smirky smile, patted me on the head and said, “I see the two of us have the same barber” – or something similar.
Dr. Dyer’s Nightingale-Conant audiotapes often played in my vehicle as I rode around town. How to Be a No Limit Person and Choosing Your Own Greatness were two of my favorites. Two years ago, when I was in the studio in Chicago, recording Maxwell Maltz’s Theatre of the Mind, I was astounded to know the seat I took to record the CD’s was the same that every author had used over the past 20 years. With eagerness I asked, “So Wayne Dyer sat in this SAME chair when he recorded all his programs?”
“That, he did,” came the reply.
I smiled from jawbone to jawbone. What a day.
Over the years I watched Dr. Dyer’s many PBS specials and bought the packages he promoted.
In his latest book, I Can See Clearly Now, Wayne wrote about the positive influence Psycho-Cybernetics had upon him and how it changed his life for the better. Due to Dr. Dyer’s positive personal touch to my life, I included him in the foreword to the updated and expanded version, Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded, due out November 3. My only wish is that the book were published for him to see the reference before he passed.
Then I remember, this is the man who wrote books about the mystical, magical and mysterious. Why not visualize that he will see it? Not in human form, but in spirit.
Most importantly though, there’s that word “AH” resurfacing.
What on earth – how does a man live his life so profoundly and positively that I am smiling as I remember his days on this plain? There’s no grief whatsoever.
I can honestly say “that’s a first.” Just as Dr. Wayne Dyer was a first in so many categories.
He often said he had proof that everyone is born a winner. Why? Because you won the first race you entered. You beat out millions of other “competitors” in order to be conceived and born.
Wayne didn’t just win the first race he was in before being born – he won the last race he was in, too.
What a man. What a life. What a legacy.
To Wayne, I’m thrilled to know we share the same barber.
I’d normally close by saying “rest in peace” – but somehow that doesn’t fit.
“Live in peace.”
Yes, that’s better.
Thank you for your guidance.
Matt Furey
President, Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc.
On the drive home I asked, “Did you feel a bit nervous when you saw me watching you today?”
“Yes,” she replied.
“Did you try harder when you saw me?”
“Yes.”
“Were you trying harder because you wanted to do a better job for me than you’d normally do when you practice?”
“Yes.”
“That’s what I thought. Well, I have some advice for you on this if you’d like to hear it.”
“What is it?”
“If you see your Daddy looking through the glass, pretend he’s not there. Don’t try to impress him. Don’t try harder. Don’t try to do more than you normally do. That doesn’t work. Just do what you do and tune me or anyone else out.”
“How do I do that?”
“There are many ways, but one of the best is to imagine a brick wall to the side of you. No one can look through this brick wall. You’re by yourself, totally focused, even when you know you’re not. Can you picture a brick wall right now?”
“Yes.”
“Can you feel how it blocks someone else out?”
“Yes, that works pretty good.”
“Great. Now, just so you know, I had a similar discussion earlier today with a ball player. He was trying to impress the scouts who were at his practice, so he started trying to do more than ever before, and guess what? In trying to do more, he didn’t. If he’d have just been himself and put a wall up to block out the scouts, he’d have been a lot better off.”
The moral of the story is simple: First of all, don’t TRY. The very word “TRY” is guaranteed to make matters worse. Second, if you try to do even more to impress others, you won’t. You’ll do less.
Just DO what you’d normally do and the impressing will take care of itself.
This is where the psychology of what you do is so incredibly important. A dancer’s steps or moves do NOT change because someone else is watching or because you’re on a different stage.
A ball player’s throws, swings, passes or shots don’t change either.
The above applies to anything you’re involved in, whether business, academia, theatre or sports.
If what you’ve been doing is working, trying to do more or do even better won’t lead to more progress. But awareness will of your breathing, your thinking and your body as you do what you do.
I’ve said it before, and written it, too. The word “try” is demonic. It’ll curse you. It’ll cripple you and make you stumble.
The word “DO” is enough. Don’t try to do it. Don’t “just” do it.
Do it. That’s enough.
Be it. Do it. Live it.
That’s the ticket … to the big show.
Best,
Matt Furey
P.S. It’s all about ridding your body/mind of “resistance.” Resistance to success, fear of failing or falling, fear of disappointing others, etc. For deeper instruction in these methods, I suggest the Zero Resistance Living System – or private coaching/mentoring.
Monte Clark, then an assistant coach with the Miami Dolphins, used this same book to help head coach Don Shula go 17-0 and win the Super Bowl with the Miami Dolphins.
The legendary Jim Brown, arguably the greatest NFL running back of all times, spoke about this book in an HBO documentary, Jim Brown: All American.
And then there’s Augie Garrido, the winningest coach in college baseball history. He’s won five College World Series titles – with two different teams. He’s guided young men who nobody wanted and helped them become extraordinary ball players. He’s a fan of this same book, too.
On page 75 in Augie’s book, Life is Yours to Win, he writes about the influence Psycho-Cybernetics has had on him and his teams.
He also states how a key element of Psycho-Cybernetics is championed in the movie, For Love of the Game, starring Kevin Costner, who played the pitcher, Billy Chapel, who at 40 years of age, is so focused and “in the moment” that he doesn’t realize until the 8th inning that he’s throwing a perfect game.
Coach Garrido writes: “One of the techniques Chapel uses to stay focused is to tell himself, “Clear the mechanism.”
“This is a phrase from Psycho-Cybernetics. Clearning the mechanism is a method for emptying the mind of fear and other distractions. It’s managing the moment by mentally slowing it down.”
Clearing the mechanism is clearing the brain of fear and other distractions. It’s letting go of worry, self-doubt and other concerns. It’s living in the moment – one breath at a time.
How do you clear the mechanism, the brain?
You mentally picture a calculator before you. It has numbers on the screen. You push the clear button so you can do a new
computation.
You could also picture a computer screen before you. You clear the screen by seeing it dissolve before you.
As you do this, you breathe deeply and center yourself. And then you go about your business, doing what you’ve set out to do.
There are many others ways to do this in Zero Resistance Living – the advanced program on Psycho-Cybernetics.
The key, though, is training yourself to live in the moment, to feel good everyday, no matter what. It’s learning how to use your positive as well as negative past to launch yourself forward.
Wouldn’t it be great if nothing from the past that was supposedly negative is there to do anything but help you succeed at a higher level?
And this is true, if you know the techniques in Zero Resistance Living. I encourage you to give the program a whirl, so it can give your life a positive whirl in the right direction.
Yours,
Matt Furey
P.S. By the way, in November, Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded, will be available, containing a foreword and afterword from ‘yours truly’ – as well as commentary throughout.
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