Zero Resistance Living Newsletter
Volume 1 Issue 2
AMERICA, LAND OF REDEMPTION
by Dan S. Kennedy
One of the phenomenonal aspects of our society is its willingness to forgive and forget peoples' grievous errors, sins, even crimes in favor of individuals rehabilitating themselves and their careers. Some celebrities pull this off quickly, in a very public way i.e. Hugh Grant's now famous mea culpa on Jay Leno's show. Others, more gradually and privately, with greater effort. The article reprinted here, from USA TODAY, describes the difficult and ground-breaking transition of a well-known porn actress out of porn and into "real" movies and television. Apparently she is the first actress ever to "recover" from a career in adult films (although Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and a number of other actors and actresses have one or two adult film appearances in their pasts.)
These celebrity career re-births can offer inspiration for the rest of us: regardless of your past or present problems, redemption here and now is definitely possible, entirely at your option.
Consider financial ruin as an example. If you review the backgrounds of entrepreneurial, self-made millionaires and multi-millionaires past and present, you find financial disaster and humiliation, often bankruptcy, more often than not. In my personal case, too.
Consider tele-evangelists. Jimmy Swaggert is back on TV, apparently growing stronger with each passing month. Jim Bakker is out of prison, on the "rehab-his-image" trail with books, talk show appearances and lectures.
Recently, I produced an audio-tape for a client, with Alan Thicke as host. A lot of people have forgotten all about Alan's career low-point, when he went from being the #1 talk show host in Canada to taking Johnny Carson on, head on, and losing quickly and horribly. His show was a massive embarrassment. Many in the entertainment industry presumed it was career-ending. But it wasn't; Alan succeeded in the father role on a very popular, long-running sitcom, and is now the host of the syndicated game show 'Pictionary.' I often appear on programs as a speaker with Larry King. These days, few people remember Larry's problems earlier in his career, and I won't mention them here. Today he is arguably America's best-known interviewer, certainly Turner/CNN's #1 "property"; but he could just as easily have disappeared into oblivion.
Everywhere you look, you can find people setting aside burdens of one kind or another, moving on and moving ahead. But many people let a failure of one kind or another forever imprison them, long after society's jailer has opened the cell door, and the people around them have forgiven them or, more likely, forgotten it altogether. If you are letting some professional or personal failure worry you and hold you back, you can learn something from the celebrities you see and read about, who so often rebound from embarrassment to triumph with little more than a shrug of their shoulders.
One of the Webster definitions of redemption is "release from blame or debt." Only you can determine when it is appropriate to grant yourself such release. But one thing is clear; you need not wait around for someone else to give it to you.
As this is the season of giving, you might now give yourself a Psycho-Cybernetic gift of absolution for some past sin or redemption from some past failure that you are still lugging around like a giant sack of heavy rocks on your back. Or give the gift of forgiveness and redemption to someone who has wronged you in the past. Either way, Dr. Maltz will be proud of you.
When a blonde, redhead and brunette compete for the same job, does hair color matter? According to a research study conducted by California State U.-San Marcos, brunettes were offered higher salaries and, in general, judged as more capable. The study included showing reviewers the same resumes with different photos attached and comparing their ratings of the applicants. The "dumb blonde" stereotype does apparently influence hiring practices.
THERAPY MAY NOT BE THAT THERAPEUTIC
A University of York research study, described in a British publication, found no evidence that counseling helps people suffering from psychological trauma, and that counseling may actually harm people dealing with depression. Further, the same research study showed that the most effective approach is equipping people with do-it-yourself skills for developing positive attitudes and coping with stress.
KURT VONNEGUT DISPENSES SUCCESS ADVICE
Here's a transcript of famous novelist Kurt Vonnegut's commencement address at MIT, lifted off the Internet and sent in by Linda Miles:
Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths. Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
HOW TO "TRICK" YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND, FOR PLEASURE OR PROFIT
by Jeff Paul
Editor's Note: The following article by our Board Member Jeff Paul is a challenge to you, to use Dr. Maltz's Mental Training Techniques. As he points out, there is a great difference between knowing about something and really using it. Here, he reviews one of the most important of all Psycho-Cybernetic Techniques.
Be honest with me and yourself. Do you really practice watching the vision you have for your life or solving problems or sinking a putt in the "Theater Of Your MInd"?
Let's review for a moment. If you remember, Dr. Maltz has given you specific instructions on how to make the changes in your life you really want to make. Or at least that you claim to want to make.
He told you exactly how to prepare yourself to be able to clearly and distinctly see the different results you seek in your mind, and how to let this new movie in your minds eye guide your subconscious mind to take over and automatically lead you to your goals.
For example, if you want to quit smoking, he explained how to watch yourself in this mental movie as a non-smoker, and continually see yourself in this image living the way a non-smoker lives. After a very short while your subconscious will be reprogrammed to allow you to actually live like a non-smoker in real life.
And then your goal is achieved easily without will power or suffering.
OK. Now with that brief review, let's talk about you.
Whether you accept Dr. Maltz' proven system as making perfect sense, or think it is new age mumbo-jumbo....shouldn't you really try it?
Shouldn't you give it a chance to work?
My experience with all the self-improvement projects and businesses I get involved in is that most people understand the concept, cannot find any real way to argue with it....yet make little or no true attempts at doing the simple things necessary to achieve success!
There's a real interesting Catch-22 I find wtih people who have enrolled into the "Zero Resistance" programs. Here it is:
They pay lip service to changing their life, but don't have real desire to change their life because their self image is stuck in their current life, and unless they change their self image, they'll never change, but they can't change their self image without watching the "Theater Of The Mind", which they won't watch because they really don't believe they can change!"
I know this may sound confusing but here's the deal. Most people say they want better results from life. But, since they have a self image of a person who won't get better results, they don't get better results. And since they have this wrong self image they won't do anything about it because they think it's futile. So, even though they have been clued in on Psycho-Cybernetics, their poor self image prevents them from practicing the mental movie, which would alter their self image, so it never gets altered and therefore nothing changes. (Quite a Catch-22, wouldn't you say?)
So how can we convince you how easy it is to eliminate the resistance from your life, by simply watching these movies in your head?
I won't go over how to do it here since the technique is explained in great detail in your materials.
What I AM going to go over is how to get you off your butt to start changing your self image, and hence your life....RIGHT NOW!
Here's what you do:
#1. Go back and listen to your audio tapes when you're in the car until you've listened to the whole thing, even if you have listened to them already. Make a commitment to listen to ONLY these tapes until you are finished. Keep your CD player or radio off limits until you finish listening to the tapes. This is effortless work on your part. You're in the car anyway, so tune out the Rolliing Stones and tune in Dr. Maltz! Plus, be sure you spend a few minutes a day reading the material as you're in the process of listening to the tapes. The dual learning going on will reinforce the concepts so they become simple and not intimidation or overwhelming.
#2. Write down the three or four areas of your life you really don't like in order of importance. For example,
* Improve my relationship with my spouse.
* Get a job I really love and that pays well.
* Stop smoking.
* Lose 25 pounds.
See, when you make a short but powerful list like this, you can see exactly what you want to work on, and in which order. That way, you can focus in on one thing, and after you master visualizing and conquering that problem, you can move on to the next one. Taking small steps like this is akin to the old joke about how you eat an elephant. (One bite at a time, of course!)
#3. Don't let your self image stop you from taking steps to improve your self image. IGNORE ANY THOUGHTS that tell you you're too busy or that it's not gonna' work, or whatever! Just take this simple approach, and you will get your own mental move on the "air".
THIS STUFF WORKS! I have overcome many of life's problems and my own weaknesses by watching the movie of my desired self in my head over and over and over and over. After a while, virtually everything I've wanted, has come my way. My fantasies in my mental movie have turned into reality in my life.
Sit down and listen to Dr. Maltz and then DO IT FOR YOURSELF, so your fantasies will become your realities!
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