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Welcome to the Official Site of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind. This is where we do as the good doctor, Maxwell Maltz, did for so many years. We heal internal scars. We give you an emotional face lift. We transform the agonizing pain of defeat, failure, frustration and loneliness into courage, confidence, love, gratitude and peace of mind. We help you reach your goals by showing you how to remove the obstacles that you think are standing in your way.
As a reconstructive plastic surgeon, Dr. Maltz realized that although “plastic surgery” benefited 0.5% of the population, the other 99.5% had unresolved emotional scars from the past, and that these could be removed by changing your self-image. Once these internal scars were irradiated, what followed was a life of success and happiness with you reaching “the greatest port in the world: peace of mind.”
On this blog, I will be giving you Psycho-Cybernetics success tips for transforming your self-image, as well as making recommendations on books, courses and seminars that will take you to the next level. Make sure you subscribe to our email list as well because we have special offers that you’ll want to see.
Matt Furey, President, Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc.
March 3rd, 2014
This past Saturday I received a call from my friend, Fairfax Hackley, who was with Dan Gable at the Arnold Classic.
Coach Gable was just inducted into the Arnold Classic 2014 Hall of Fame as the “Greatest Olympic Wrestler and Coach in History.”
Fairfax mentioned to Coach Gable that we were good friends. Gable immediately tested to make sure.
“Can you call him right now and get him on the phone?” he asked.
“I can call him and if he doesn’t pick up he’ll call me back,” said Fairfax.
“Will he get back to you right away?” Gable asked.
“Yes, he’ll get back to me right away.”
Fairfax makes the call.
I don’t pick up because I’m with a friend. But I sense the urgency and excuse myself from the table. I call Fairfax back. He says, “I have
someone who’d like to speak to you.”
“Okay,” I reply.
The phone is transferred to someone else. He begins talking.
“Hello Matt,” he says. “How’s everything going?”
“Going great,” I reply.
“You still a kicking butt? You still a big shot?”
I know who this is, I think.
“Well, I’m not the type of person who’s going to refer to himself as a big shot,” i reply.
“But you’re doing okay, right?”
“Yes, we’re doing very okay.”
“Well, I’ve been watching you. You’re not an easy person to follow. Seems like you’re all over the place. And I want you to know that I have a different way of judging my athletes these days. I no longer judge them based upon what they did when they were with me. I judge them based on what they’ve done since they left.”
“Do you know who this is yet?”
“Yes, I do?”
“Okay, who is it?”
“It’s Coach Gable.”
“Ah, very good. How’d you know?”
“I know because you’re still testing me. You were seeing if I’d take the bait and brag on myself.”
“Well, we still have some wrestlers who need to come back to earth. They’re still not there yet.”
[Coach Gable begins to name name's and tell me, confidentially, whom he's still watching in the hopes that he'll get his act together.]
We speak for a few more minutes. Coach Gable, true to the end, does not directly praise me in anyway. It’s not his style. He understands the harm it can do.
Yet, as a result of what he did say, I’m elevated once again. I want to do even better. Not for him, for myself. But knowing that my former
coach is still, in some ethereal way, pulling for me – and all his former athletes, that says a lot. Which means, he will never be a “former”
coach to me or anyone who ever was given the grace to work with him.
Yes. The “grace.”
The great novelist John Irving, once wrote that to be on the mat with Dan Gable was to be in touch with “grace.” Yes, that’s the word he
To get a phone call from him, telling you how he’s still evaluating the talent he recruited, is as well.
In my newest product, Maxwell Maltz’s Theatre of the Mind, I tell many stories about Dan Gable and the influence he had upon me. From his visit to me in the hospital when my face was shattered, to him telling me I didn’t “try very hard” to his method of burning the past to create a vacuum for the future – it’s all in there. And then some.
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Be Still – and Flow,
P.S. Still think that thinking the wrong thoughts is no big deal, that negativity doesn’t matter. Well, look at this Dan Gable quote. Imagine being 181-0, and this is your very last match in college, for the NCAA title, and this is what you admit to thinking about it:
“All I worrried about was what (Owings) was doing to me, instead of what I was doing to him. When you start worrying about that stuff, you’re going down the wrong path.”
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February 28th, 2014
Warning: Today’s message may rattle a few cages. Proceed with caution. Proceed only if you are open to new ways of thinking.
Over the years I’ve written and spoken a number of times about a belief many parents pass on to their children about the importance of getting Straight A’s in school.
If getting Straight A’s is something you and your child want, I’m all for it and can show you how to accomplish this feat with far greater ease, by using Theatre of the Mind - especially the newest and most powerful version of the program, that I recently released with Nightingale-Conant.
On the other hand, I will go on record stating that I do NOT demand that my children get Straight A’s. My wife and I believe that A’s, B’s and an occasional C are fine.
Although my wife is Chinese, neither of us believe the world is going to come to an end if my child gets a “A-” – (an A- is known as the “Chinese F” in many Asian families), much less a B.
Now, truth be told, I often wonder if demanding A’s and B’s is still the wrong approach.
Because you still have to factor in the truth.
Most of the subjects students take in school are not necessarily interesting or exciting to them. And there are some very, very wealthy businessmen who dropped out of school for that reason. In short, they couldn’t take it anymore, so they started Apple, or Microsoft, or Facebook, and so on.
If you’d like to read a good book on this covered-up secret, I suggest The Education of Millionaires: It’s Not What You Think and It’s Not too Late by Michael Ellsberg.
Oh, by the way, the author of the above references “yours truly” in his book, so you really do want to check it out, eh?
Anyway, I’ve always justified our families “A-B grades” philosophy because my wife and I are big believers in being involved in other activities outside of school such as baseball, dancing, piano, paining and martial arts – to name a few.
None of these activities can be learned at a high level in your standard public or private school. If you want to get good at them, you must seek outside coaching.
Now, it turns out that you could choose any one of the “extra” outside interests listed above, and you’ll see a massive amount of interest and excitement.
Make a note, as Emerson said, “Nothing great was ever accomplished without enthusiasm.”
Okay, so that covers a portion of my previous thinking. To me, getting A’s and B’s instead of “only” straight A’s was based upon having other interests.
But now, I’ve changed my tune.
Because when I hear parents talk about their children, they say the following: “Getting Straight A’s is VERY IMPORTANT if you want to get into a good college or get a good job.”
Fact or fiction?
Answer: Part fact – part fiction. Part A. Part B. Maybe even a Part C.
Here’s what I have observed to be reality:
1. There are many people in college who were NOT straight A students.
2. There are many people in college who did not get all A’s and B’s.
3. There are people in college who barely passed high school.
4. There are people who have high-level jobs who were not straight A students.
5. There are people in positions of authority who, based upon the straight A theory, should NOT be.
Although the above represents fact, not fiction, the “you must get straight A’s thinking” continues in many households. Again, I’m not against that if that’s your family’s way of doing. At the same time, there’s another totally missed ASSUMPTION in the belief that: “Getting Straight A’s is VERY IMPORTANT if you want to get into a good college or get a good job.”
What’s the assumption?
The assumption is that a “JOB” is working for someone else.
I understand having a goal of straight A’s and I support it 100 percent. Without pushing, our children have set goals to get straight A’s – and we have supported them wholeheartedly in that quest.
But my wife and I have NEVER told our children that you MUST get straight A’s in order to get a good job.
Why? Because we wouldn’t even think of thinking that it’s a good idea to think about getting a job from someone else.
Think about it. Most people who have jobs HATE their jobs. They go to work dreading their jobs. The majority of these people work for someone else, which is one of the key reasons WHY they hate their jobs.
So I am NOT going to tell my son or daughter to get straight A’s so they can get a good job from someone else.
Get straight A’s because you’d like to get straight A’s. Get straight A’s because you want to prove to yourself that you can. That’s enough of a reason.
It’s a far better reason than the reality of what your child will most likely face if you sell him the “straight A’s equals great job theory.”
Moreover, when talking to your child about good grades, why not plant a different image in his Theatre of the Mind?
Why not plant the following: “Son/daughter, the reason it’s a good idea to get good grades in school is because someday you may want to work for yourself. Someday you may want to be self-employed. You may want to open a business or go into private practice. You may want to make it BIG. You may want to hire a whole bunch of other people to work for YOU. You may want to help make the world a better place. And in order to do so, you’ll want to carry a feeling of success in every cell in your body. Getting good grades will be a reminder to you, when times are tough, that you can focus on something you really want – and you can make it happen.”
On the flip side, George, a friend of mine with five children, managed to get ALL of them off to college with “full rides.”
How’d he do it. He painted the following imagery in the Theatre of the Mind and passed it off to each child. It goes as follows:
“Son/Daughter, let me make you a deal. If your grades in school are so good that you get a scholarship to the college of your choosing, I will buy you a brand new car as your reward. Is that fair?”
Five children. Five full rides. Five brand new cars.
Yet, look at how this man framed his message to his children.
What can I tell you about this man? A lot. But I’ll keep it short.
He works for himself.
Different thinking, different pictures in your mind’s eye produce very different results.
Here endeth today’s lesson.
Be Still – and Flow,
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February 25th, 2014
“If man could be crossed with the cat it would improve man, but it would deteriorate the cat.” - Mark Twain
Yesterday’s email on “Fear of Fall-ure raised quite a stir. Some people wrote to ask how a person can fall down on purpose and not hurt himself.
The answer is simple: Observe the cat.
Did you know that cats have either fallen or been thrown out of buildings much higher than the roof of your house. And the cat walked away unharmed. No injuries. About the only negative that can happen is a chipped tooth.
Now, this doesn’t explain why some cats climb trees and stay put until the fire truck comes to the rescue. Perhaps the cat just wanted a little theatre – a little Theatre of the Mind – and we humans fell for it – freaking out, calling in the rescue team. What if we just left the cat alone and gave it no audience?
Anyway, in terms of other things you can learn from a cat – the list is long indeed. Yet, most things you can learn fall under the banner of physical and mental relaxation.
Cats don’t get hurt when they fall because they are physically and mentally relaxed. Instead of fighting the fall, instead of going against the wind, they become one with it and melt into space. This allows the cat to land softly. So softly that it walks away unharmed.
Again, without a physician’s approval – or proper instruction in falling, I’m not suggesting you begin a program this very moment. For now, entertain the idea that “YES” you can fall and not get hurt. And if you deliberately practice falling, you lose your fear of it – and you learn to relax your mind-body to a new level of experience.
Today I worked on falling forward, backward, sideways and while reading a book. That’s right. I held a book in front of my face. I began to read and then I fell down, as if pushed from an unseen person. I think the falls I did with a book before my eyes were my very best. They felt “normal.”
When I finished with my falling drills, I didn’t have to tell myself to relax my mind and body before doing Theatre of the Mind. I was already relaxed. Now, all I needed to do was breathe deeply, picture the good things in life and emotionalize them.
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Be Still – and Flow,
February 24th, 2014
The last few mornings, shortly after arising, I go to a “play room” in our home and practice falling.
Yes, you heard that right. I practice falling – something most people have great fear of – and never resolve. So, I came up with the idea to begin my day with fall-ure. Afterall, when you get fall-ure out of the way early on, the rest of the day is absolutely awesome.
I start off falling down backwards. I imagine someone pushing me in the chest, and I immediately collapse, as if I feinted, into a relaxed heap of cells on the floor.
As soon as I touch the floor, I start to get back up as quickly as I can while staying totally relaxed. To do this I focus on my breathing.
When I’m getting up, I’m not interested in adding more tension to my body because it will interfere with the process of standing.
Did you know that?
The same goes with falling. The reason people are afraid of falling (fall-ure) is because as soon as the person begins to fall, he tenses his muscles, holds his breath and does everything he can to prevent it.
Nothing wrong with preventing a fall – but being afraid of falling is pretty much the same as being afraid of failing, hence the term I coined: fall-ure.
When someone is afraid to fail, he’s also afraid of falling, and vice versa. Fear of failure doesn’t help you to succeed, just as fear of success doesn’t help you succeed.
Ridding your mind-body of fear is a wonderful idea. You didn’t come into this world riddled with fear. You learned fear. You watched your parents and learned to be afraid. You learned to be afraid from teachers, siblings, coaches and neighborhood bullies.
At some point you may have heard a “fear not” speech, or you got mentored by someone who taught you how to overcome fear. And learning from these people was a fortunate day in your life.
At the same time, you probably have no idea how much fear is still in your mind-body, regardless of how much time you’ve invested in “do the thing you fear” actions.
In addition to overcoming fear, other benefits of this drill are as follows:
1. All grogginess or feelings of not being fully awake yet vanish within 30 seconds.
2. My energy picks up dramatically. Tension leaves the mind and body in an instant, even if I felt I had none to begin with.
3. I feel loose and flexible all over.
Yes, I realize this drill is not appropriate for everyone – so heed the suggestions of your physician before beginning something like this.
If it’s not for you, have no fear. I have many other ways to rid yourself of fear.
By the way, be on the lookout for a special offer I’ll be sending your way within the next 24 hours.
Be Still – and Flow,
P.S. The teleseminar I’m planning to do on the Neg Busters/Theatre of the Mind Coaching program will be held on Wednesday at 12 noon EST. If you’re interested in this, please be sure to fill out an information request.
February 21st, 2014
How hungry are you?
No, I don’t mean physical hunger. And I’m not asking you when you had your last meal.
I asking you about your level of desire. Do you have enough to get what you want out of life? Or do you have so much that you’re causing interference?
You may not realize it, but you can put too much pressure on yourself. You can take a burning desire and turn it into a deadly volcano, spewing lava and destruction everywhere.
You can also have too little desire. Yes, you want to achieve your goals, but you’re not hungry enough to do what it takes to make it happen.
You may even think you’ve got enough talent to succeed without putting in sufficient practice, focus and concentration. If you fall into this camp, you’re probably in for a rude slap across the face. I’d call it a rude “awakening” – but that would pay disrespect to the term.
One of my favorite sayings comes from Herb Brooks, the coach of the 1980 USA Olympic hockey team, who did the unthinkable, winning the gold medal after knocking off the supposedly unstoppable Soviet team.
“You think you can win on talent alone?” Brooks said to his team. “Gentlemen, you don’t have enough talent to win on talent alone.”
Translation: You men better do more than show up for practice. You better show me how hungry you are to win. And if you don’t show enough hunger, I’m going to replace you with someone who will.
Around that same time period, I had a coach who took me to the side and explained how success works in very similar terms.
“Furey,” he said, “I have something important to tell you. Right now you’re a leader in the room. You’re much better than most of the people you’re training with. And there’s a danger when that happens.”
I nodded, sort of understanding where my coach was going with this.
He continued: “So I have something I want you to make sure you follow to the letter. Each day in practice, no matter who you’re training with, no matter how much better you may be, you MUST beat them as badly as you can. You must make sure you never let up one bit BECAUSE IF YOU DO – YOU WILL GET WORSE.”
My eyes bulged. I didn’t like the idea of getting worse.
My coach then added: “If you don’t give it all you’ve got – not only will you get worse – but you’re not helping your teammates become as good as they can be. If we want them to get better, if you want them to eventually push you and make you better, then they need to be pushed by you right now. Doing so will make you and them better.”
I realize the above may seem heartless to some people, but it’s a reality that all great athletes must contend with at some point in their careers.
When no one in practice is pushing you – you’ve got to find ways to push yourself. You’ve got to make yourself your biggest competition.
If you don’t do this, you’ll get worse. And when that happens, you won’t understand why.
Being the best in a small pond can be dangerous because you may start thinking that your small pond is reflective of the whole world. It’s not. There are people all over the world – in other ponds – and they’re not resting on their laurels. They’re training and practicing and working. And they’re very, very HUNGRY.
So to stay sharp, get sharper and keep on improving – you better emblazon the following two words into your consciousness:
It’s a different way of saying you need a burning desire. It’s also a way to FEEL the message in the pit of your stomach – in your solar plex, in your heart and in your head.
In good times and bad.
Be Still – and Flow,
P.S. I’ll be announcing the time and date for the Neg Busters/Theatre of the Mind teleseminar very soon. When I do there will be a registration page. Stay tuned so that you’re on this powerful, life-changing hook-up.
February 20th, 2014
You might be wondering what I mean when I use the term “de-hypnosis.”
De-hypnosis is a term coined by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, author of the 30-million copy best-seller, Psycho-Cybernetics. Below is an excerpt from another Maltz book that I believe you’ll find of great value:
“I’ve come back from Europe where I have studied plastic surgery for a year or more. I have opened up an office on lower Fifth Avenue near Eleventh Street and I wait for my first patient.
A week passes and there isn’t a telephone call – except the one from my mother who asks me how I’m doing. The second week is the same as the first.
At the beginning of the third week I’m sitting near the window biting my nails. I’m watching a new apartment house going up across the street.
A young husky man is carrying bricks on the fourth floor. I watch. He almost trips. And now I begin to imagine that sooner or later he will lose his balance and fall, and his face will be disfigured from this fall. I see myself rushing across the street and taking care of him on the spot. I see a big write-up in the newspapers and suddenly I am known.
I watch this young man every day high up above the street but nothing happens….
Not even a telephone call, except the one from Mother.
One more week and I have to pay the rent. The five-room suite now looks like a hundred rooms to me. Worry, fear suddenly overpower me. I see in my mind a picture of failure. I see myself closing the office, giving it up and pleading with Dr. Schmargle to let me work for him.
The vision of being a plastic surgeon becomes blurred in my mind. I’m in a panic.
At the beginning of the fourth week the phone rings. I dread to pick it up and speak to Mother. I pick it up. It’s a friend who became a doctor. He has a patient for me.
I get shaved, put on my white coat. The hour is a lifetime before the doctor comes with my first patient. He is a shoe salesman in his twenties with a bashed-in nose from an accident.
The Art of Dehypnotizing Ourselves
At the beginning of my career I was hypnotized by a positive belief about my future even though many people didn’t understand what this future was. The point is, I did.
Yet, at a moment of fear and panic I was hypnotized by a negative belief that I’d never succeed.
Within all of us is the capacity for happiness, regardless of how big a failure we think we are, because within us is the power to change our feelings of inferiority by dehypnotizing ourselves from negative beliefs.
We begin to dehypnotize ourselves from false beliefs the moment we stop trying to be what we’re not, when we stop trying to be like someone else … by trying to be superior in an effort to overcome an inferiority complex.
We are separate individual personalities, distinct from any other human being. We are not like the next person or in any way supposed to be like the other person. We are unique in ourselves
We must stop keeping up with others. We must keep up with ourselves! We are not inferior or superior.
Once we see this we are on the way of dehypnotizing ourselves from false feelings of inferiority.
We dehypnotize ourselves from the effects of stresses and strains by walking into the room of our mind and seating ourselves in our chair as we are now…seeing the geyser outside letting off steam, playing roles in our mind, watching motion pictures in our mind as we improve ourselves by being what we are and what we can be through the technique of relaxation: the greatest power within us to make us what we can be by teaching us to slough off the spasms and negative feelings that make us less than what we are.
Relaxation is a form of hypnosis where we use our hidden powers to recall mental pictures of past scenes of happiness to make us happy for the present.
Relax. Hypnotize yourself to happiness Dehypnotize yourself from extra worry, extra fear.”
So there you have it. Hypnosis is a way to plant positive suggestions and goals into your mind. Dehypnosis is a way to remove the negative suggestions put there by others – and kept there, usually by yourself.
Many people will readily admit , “i’m my own worst critic.”
Yet, where did this begin?
Oftentimes, it began in childhood. It was either a learned, environmentally influenced behavior – or something you had put upon you so often, that you took up the mantle and continued the “beatings” long after they ended.
So now, you’re an adult, with a brain and nervous system, a mind-body that can accomplish great things, but you stop yourself by repeating negative mantras of not being good enough, smart enough, strong enough and so on. And so you become what you have hypnotized yourself to believe.
Now it’s time to reverse the negative hypnosis. It’s time to dehypnotise yourself from what you no longer find useful.
I believe the very best way and the fastest way to be dehypnotised is through Socratic questioning. It usually only takes a few questions for a person with negative beliefs to start seeing the light.
And once he or she does, we can NOW do Theatre of the Mind with a tidal wave of positive feeling and emotion.
So whether we’re talking about hypnosis or dehypnosis, we’re still talking about YOU getting clarity, focus and power to be, do and have what you want in life.
By the way, speaking of Maxwell Maltz’s Theatre of the Mind - I’m thrilled to announce that the program I created with Nightingale-Conant on this subject is NOW on the market. You can go there now and claim your copy.
In this program you’ll be getting an entire package consisting of 8 CDs, a DVD and much more. It’s an absolutely incredible package. I encourage you to go there now and place your order.
Be Still – and Flow,
P.S. We had such an overwhelming demand of requests for Neg Busters/Theatre of the Mind coaching that I’ve decided to hold a LIVE teleseminar to explain the program and help you get involved. So, if you haven’t heard back from me about the program, get ready for the announcement coming your way on the date and time for this free event.
February 18th, 2014
Been on the phone a lot over the past two weeks, doing coaching calls with members of my Neg Busters program.
During these calls, I learn a ton about how people create realities they don’t want. I see how people hypnotize themselves into believing things that are absolutely not true.
For example, some people will say things like, “I can’t feel energy” or “I can’t visualize” or “I can’t focus” or “I can’t stop procrastinating.”
None of these statements are true in reality – but because the client believes them to be true, he or she acts as if they are true.
For example, M. said she is so afraid of making a mistake that she “always” double-checks “everything” she does. This trait caused her much grief. She wanted to drop it.
Upon “de-hypnosis,” I helped her realize she doesn’t “always” re-check “everything.” In fact, once completely de-tranced, she said she’s had experiences of going for days at a time without constantly double-checking everything.
I asked if she made any mistakes on those days of “flow.” She said “no.”
Okay, so why you carrying this stupid belief around?
Good news is she isn’t NOW. The belief has been proven false via de-hypnosis and eliminated with Theatre of the Mind. Now she can move from task to task in a state of flow.
Another client, JJ, said he can’t feel energy – ever?
“So you’re a neck-up person?” I ask.
“It’s a person who thinks he’s so logical that he can’t feel energy.”
“Oh, I’m definitely that person. Yes.”
I asked if he’s ever had a cup of coffee.
“Of course,” he said.
“Did your energy increase?”
“But I thought you said you can’t feel energy.”
I then went on asking the following:
Ever feel sick?
Ever feel tired and ready for bed?
Ever feel cold?
Ever have a dentist drill on a tooth without novocaine?
Ever feel humidity?
Ever feel someone’s anger?
I got a “yes” to each of these. Then he says, “But I can’t feel things like you do.”
“Oh, I see,” I said. “You’re breaking cardinal rule number four in Zero Resistance Living.”
“What’s cardinal rule number four?” he asks.
“Keep up with yourself, not the Joneses.”
“Oh, I guess I’m guilty of that one.”
“It’s a big club,” I said. “Don’t beat yourself up too long about it. Key is to stop the unfavorable comparisons to others. Compare and compete only with yourself. If you’re getting better than you were before, that’s what matters most.”
Following JJ’s coaching session, his life changed. He stopped the “I can’t feel anything” self-talk. He started to use his whole body as a brain, not just the one above his neck.
Funny, when some people hear me refer to a person as a “neck up” – they think I’m paying a compliment. They think I’m impressed with the intellect of the person.
To me, being intelligent means you use your mind-body to think. Your brain is only a small part of what you have at your disposal. Yes, your brain plays a huge role – but it’s far from being all there is on the journey of self-realization.
So pinch yourself on the check today. Yes, you can feel.
Be Still – and Flow,
P. S. Interested in being in Neg Busters? Then go here now.
February 4th, 2014
Did you know that you cannot hate someone in the present moment?
You can ONLY hate someone in the past.
In order to hate, you must go through your memory banks and retrieve a mental picture or movie from the past. And you must replay it in the present moment it in order to hate.
Don’t believe me? Then try it for yourself.
Think of someone who really, really upset you. Really pissed you off.
Picture this person before you NOW.
But when you picture him (or her), you are not allowed to retrieve any memories from the past. You can only look at this person in the present moment.
No memories. No past. Just the NOW.
If you did this exercise the way I described, you realized that you could NOT hate the person you were picturing.
This is what we unconsciously do when we forgive someone we love, like our children.
Sure, we have our moments when we get upset – but we don’t carry these moments with us into the future. We love our children so much that we wipe the slate clean and picture them in the NOW.
We start over. We begin again.
What I have just described is at least one-thousand percent easier – and faster – than “trying to forgive.”
If you picture someone without the memories that cause you to hate him – the hate disappears.
Be Still – and Flow,
P.S. Nightingale Conant is releasing my audio/video program this week on Theatre of the Mind. As you can imagine, this news is very exciting. I’ll let you know the moment it becomes available. This program is loaded with riveting, life-changing stories and techniques, as well as guided visualizations. Plus some other bonuses that you’ll hear about soon.
February 3rd, 2014
It all depends upon your point of view. Every single day is as Charles Dickens wrote, “It was the best of times – it was the worst of times.”
And so it goes with Super Bowl XLVIII.
For the Seahawks – it was the BEST GAME EVER.
For the Broncos, It was the worst. Everything that could possibly go wrong was going wrong. The only consolation, I suppose, was that Peyton Manning didn’t get hurt.
Talk about a brutal beating. Y-ouch.
I stopped watching early on. I’d much rather see a contest than a blow-out.
The agony of defeat can take a long time to get over. It can take days, weeks, months – even years. Some players NEVER get over the pain of loss. Some coaches, too.
And do you want to know why?
It’s because they keep replaying their defeat in the theatre of their minds.
Instead of going back into the past and retrieving positive memories, going back and replaying when you were at your best, you play the dour and sad and melancholy memories of when you were at your worst.
The great players learn to throw yesterday’s losses in the trash bin. Sure, they hurt. But no matter how big the loss, no matter how disappointing, they learn to rise above it.
It wasn’t that long ago that Seattle was synonymous with losing team. It wasn’t that long ago that John Elway could NOT win a Super Bowl. He got trounced more than once. Badly.
And then he went out with a BANG. Two-straight Super Bowl victories – and he faded away into the sunset – primarily remembered for his WINS.
Elway never gave up – no matter what.
Neither has Seattle.
Despite never having been to the Big Show, they played the game like they’ve been there many times before. Helmets off to the Seahawks. Keep replaying this victory and many more will come your way.
And for those who ended up on the lesser side of the scoreboard, grab the reins of your own mind and lead yourself back to where you were when you were at your best. Then get busy doing what it takes to be all you’re meant to be. That is what causes greatness.
P.S. By the way, check out this quick video below on what I have cooking for you this week.
January 22nd, 2014
This morning Denise Ford posted the following on my Facebook page:
“Dear Matt and Sean,
A thousands hugs… sharing this Hopi poem – which I know you know, to be so:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight
On the ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn’s rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
My Spirit is still alive…
Thank you, Denise. And now I’d like to share a picture
of my Mom’s favorite hero – (aside from all of her children
and grandchildren – and the Obvious Others).
He has his arm around her in this photo – taken in 2007,
at one of my seminars.
He was my coach at Iowa, Dan Gable.
Thought all of you would like to see this one.
Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.
Pictured in photo: Top row, L to R, Sean Furey, James Furey (Dad), Dan
Gable, Kathleen Furey; Bottom row, L to R, Frank Furey, Matt Furey, Zhannie Furey
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