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Self-Image Exercises Tap the Unlimited Resources of Your Subconscious Mind
Welcome to the Official Site of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind. This is where we do as the good doctor, Maxwell Maltz, did for so many years. We heal internal scars. We give you an emotional face lift. We transform the agonizing pain of defeat, failure, frustration and loneliness into courage, confidence, love, gratitude and peace of mind. We help you reach your goals by showing you how to remove the obstacles that you think are standing in your way.
As a reconstructive plastic surgeon, Dr. Maltz realized that although “plastic surgery” benefited 0.5% of the population, the other 99.5% had unresolved emotional scars from the past, and that these could be removed by changing your self-image. Once these internal scars were irradiated, what followed was a life of success and happiness with you reaching “the greatest port in the world: peace of mind.”
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Matt Furey, President, Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc.
February 4th, 2014
Did you know that you cannot hate someone in the present moment?
You can ONLY hate someone in the past.
In order to hate, you must go through your memory banks and retrieve a mental picture or movie from the past. And you must replay it in the present moment it in order to hate.
Don’t believe me? Then try it for yourself.
Think of someone who really, really upset you. Really pissed you off.
Picture this person before you NOW.
But when you picture him (or her), you are not allowed to retrieve any memories from the past. You can only look at this person in the present moment.
No memories. No past. Just the NOW.
If you did this exercise the way I described, you realized that you could NOT hate the person you were picturing.
This is what we unconsciously do when we forgive someone we love, like our children.
Sure, we have our moments when we get upset – but we don’t carry these moments with us into the future. We love our children so much that we wipe the slate clean and picture them in the NOW.
We start over. We begin again.
What I have just described is at least one-thousand percent easier – and faster – than “trying to forgive.”
If you picture someone without the memories that cause you to hate him – the hate disappears.
Be Still – and Flow,
P.S. Nightingale Conant is releasing my audio/video program this week on Theatre of the Mind. As you can imagine, this news is very exciting. I’ll let you know the moment it becomes available. This program is loaded with riveting, life-changing stories and techniques, as well as guided visualizations. Plus some other bonuses that you’ll hear about soon.
February 3rd, 2014
It all depends upon your point of view. Every single day is as Charles Dickens wrote, “It was the best of times – it was the worst of times.”
And so it goes with Super Bowl XLVIII.
For the Seahawks – it was the BEST GAME EVER.
For the Broncos, It was the worst. Everything that could possibly go wrong was going wrong. The only consolation, I suppose, was that Peyton Manning didn’t get hurt.
Talk about a brutal beating. Y-ouch.
I stopped watching early on. I’d much rather see a contest than a blow-out.
The agony of defeat can take a long time to get over. It can take days, weeks, months – even years. Some players NEVER get over the pain of loss. Some coaches, too.
And do you want to know why?
It’s because they keep replaying their defeat in the theatre of their minds.
Instead of going back into the past and retrieving positive memories, going back and replaying when you were at your best, you play the dour and sad and melancholy memories of when you were at your worst.
The great players learn to throw yesterday’s losses in the trash bin. Sure, they hurt. But no matter how big the loss, no matter how disappointing, they learn to rise above it.
It wasn’t that long ago that Seattle was synonymous with losing team. It wasn’t that long ago that John Elway could NOT win a Super Bowl. He got trounced more than once. Badly.
And then he went out with a BANG. Two-straight Super Bowl victories – and he faded away into the sunset – primarily remembered for his WINS.
Elway never gave up – no matter what.
Neither has Seattle.
Despite never having been to the Big Show, they played the game like they’ve been there many times before. Helmets off to the Seahawks. Keep replaying this victory and many more will come your way.
And for those who ended up on the lesser side of the scoreboard, grab the reins of your own mind and lead yourself back to where you were when you were at your best. Then get busy doing what it takes to be all you’re meant to be. That is what causes greatness.
P.S. By the way, check out this quick video below on what I have cooking for you this week.
January 22nd, 2014
This morning Denise Ford posted the following on my Facebook page:
“Dear Matt and Sean,
A thousands hugs… sharing this Hopi poem – which I know you know, to be so:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight
On the ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn’s rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
My Spirit is still alive…
Thank you, Denise. And now I’d like to share a picture
of my Mom’s favorite hero – (aside from all of her children
and grandchildren – and the Obvious Others).
He has his arm around her in this photo – taken in 2007,
at one of my seminars.
He was my coach at Iowa, Dan Gable.
Thought all of you would like to see this one.
Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.
Pictured in photo: Top row, L to R, Sean Furey, James Furey (Dad), Dan
Gable, Kathleen Furey; Bottom row, L to R, Frank Furey, Matt Furey, Zhannie Furey
January 21st, 2014
At 7 a.m. yesterday, as I sat holding my Mom’s hand, I gazed deeply into her fading eyes as I sent loving energy to her.
Being trained in the internal martial arts, it was only natural for my focus to be inward as well as outward. The “dan tian” area, located a few inches below the navel center was one internal focus point. And as I kept this focus energy streamed through my body, connected to my core and flowed into my mother’s body via our connected palms.
On two separate occasions Mom looked at me and smiled. Despite her agony, she still found a way to express the joy she embodied.
Before my eyes I saw how our roles were now reversed. It wasn’t that long ago that Mom was helping a newborn baby come to life in this world – and stay alive. It was “only a flicker” ago that I was in the hospital bed with her, and it was my lips that were shaking. It was I who couldn’t speak. It was I who needed love more than anything else.
Now I was “Mom” and she was “me.”
And in a strange twist of the cosmos, for the very first time, my arm was an umbilical chord sending love to my mother’s soul. I felt the energy pulsing so strongly from my center and through her arm that I realized: “HA. Birth and death – same-same.”
They may not feel the same – but they really are.
There is no “loss” in my Mom’s exit from this earthly plain. Only gain.
As I told my Dad yesterday, “To go out on Martin Luther King Jr. Day is a victory. She’s singing, ‘Free at last. Free at last. Thank God Almighty I’m Free at Last.”
I thank all of you for your kind emails, text messages and Facebook comments. They mean a lot to me.
In particular, I cherish the message that read, “I feel honored to have met your Mom.”
Yes, it was an honor to know my Mom. Even more to be raised by her.
January 20th, 2014
I got up yesterday morning at 10 a.m. Slept in a bit after teaching for two straight days.
Looked in the closet and put on a jersey I only wore once. It was when I attended Super Bowl 43.
I wore it all day – and wondered why.
Then late yesterday afternoon I sent out an email entitled “The Battle for Your Life.” Strange subject line. Wondered why I chose that one.
Three minutes after the email went out my father called. Before I answered I heard a voice say, “Your mother died.”
I answered. My dad could barely speak. I kept saying “hello” and then he said, “Mother is in emergency.”
My wife and I, along with my friend, Mark, rushed to my Dad’s home and picked him up.
As soon as my father saw my mother’s condition he called the pastor. I knew the end was near but she survived the night.
At 5:30 am I was awakened by an angel telling me to go NOW to the hospital.
I was greeted by an open-eyed mother, glad to see me. I held her hand until nearly 8 am – then left to pick up my father.
Before leaving I told my Mom I was going to get Dad and bring him to see her.
“Is that okay?” I asked. She shook her head no. Nah, couldn’t be.
On the way to the hospital I told my Dad that Mom was hanging on for him and he needed to give her permission to transition Both of us began to cry. Then we recovered and he nodded and prayed that God could have her now if it was best for her.
When we walked into my Mom’s room we were greeted by the nurse who told us “she just died.”
After our initial reaction, my Dad and I acknowledged that she didn’t want her husband of 63 years to see her last moments. Always the private person. Right to the very end of her physical journey.
This one began on 4/30/1927 – so now you know why I wore number 43 yesterday.
Mom, I’m so thankful that you were my Mother. I love you – and we’ll stay in touch. You’ll be hearing from me – often.
I’ll never forget you and now pass back to you what you would always write and say to me, “I love you – but Jesus loves you more.”
You’re now with Him – then again you always were.
P. S. Last night Frank said, “You always made the best waffles.”
Kathleen Rose McGrath Furey
4/30/1927 – 1/20/2014
January 9th, 2014
Hello my friend,
You’ve probably heard the Albert Einstein quote on insanity. If not, here tis:
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
He was right on.
Yet, there’s always more to the story. There’s always a different view or perspective.
Let’s start with my definition of sanity to gain more clarity:
“Sanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a similar result.”
From a Psycho-Cybernetics point of view, the quote above is also correct. Most people fail to look into what they did when they were at their best. They don’t take time to consider what they were thinking, feeling, hearing, seeing and doing.
When you take the time to discover when you were at your best, you tap into a reservoir of invisible powers that help guide you to many more positive experiences.
Here’s another way I like to address the definition of sanity:
“Discovering what works and doing it over and over again so you can obtain similar results that lead to mastery.”
This approach is uncommon as most people constantly change and do things differently just for the sake of change or to combat boredom.
This is just as insane as continuing to do the same things that don’t work over and over while hoping for an improvement.
Then there’s another detail. Perhaps you’re doing the right things over and over again and the results haven’t appeared yet. Does this mean you’re insane to expect a different result?
No. It means you need to spend more time doing the right things over and over until the results you seek manifest.
No one would say watering and giving sunlight to the apple seed you recently planted was the wrong action because the tree hasn’t appeared with apples on it yet.
The same is true with sanity leading to mastery. You find out what it takes to win from someone who’s achieved the type of results you seek, then you follow what he thought, felt and did.
As you do this, in most undertakings, you’d be insane to expect different results in mere moments.
At the same time, when you add the energetic and mental components to the physical – now that, my friend, can accelerate results so quickly others may think you “insane” when you tell them what happened.
In this case, probably best to “zip the lips.”
Be Still – and Flow,
P. S. I’m back in Tampa. Arrived at midnight. Had a tremendous trip. More details forthcoming.
January 3rd, 2014
“When you’re in Flow, when you’re in the Zone – time stops. Time disappears. Time even rewinds itself – or shoots forward. There is a time to use time. And there’s a time to lose yourself in time. When you’re totally in the moment, living fully, completely absorbed and focused – that’s when time in inconsequential. When it’s just you and Infinity – a lot gets accomplished without a shred of tension or stress. Turn back your clock to a moment when all was well in your world. Breathe life into that moment and experience the difference.”
January 2nd, 2014
“What’s the plan for tomorrow,” asks a friend, who is visiting China for the first time.
“Flow,” I reply.
“Flow?” he questions with an uncertain smile.
“But what are you going to do?”
“Flow,” I reply again.
”I’m not sure what that entails.”
“That’s the idea,” I answer.
Ponder the following: Do you really think your day will go better if you have an A-Z plan? Maybe some great things will happen above and beyond your thinking if you have a picture in your mind of something you’d like to experience, then you allow the Universe to do the rest in guiding you to it.
Plans are valuable in the right time and place. Yet, the same is true of the “no plan-plan.”
Give yourself one day per week of spontaneous flow and you’ll probably enjoy life more than you did during the previous six days combined.
Who knows – you may decide to flop the other way afterward. Imagine being in flow six days per week with one day planned out in great detail.
Don’t try to do it. Just ponder the idea for a spell and see what happens.
Be Still – and Flow,
December 31st, 2013
“You can look in the mirror and tell yourself you look good. But there comes a day when you look in the mirror and the mirror says you look good. And that’s an achievement.”
November 6th, 2013
“Visualization changes you physically, energetically and spiritually. You are affected on all three of these levels anytime you imagine with feeling. Any image you hold in your mind and add emotion to will set wheels in motion. Whether or not these wheels are transporting ‘goods’ or ‘bads’ depends upon the image you hold and the feeling you imprint upon it. To change who you are is never a physical task. It is psycho-spiritual. We see ourselves with outer and inner eyes and make judgements based upon what we view with our inner senses. Your self-image is what you see with your inner eyes. It represents who you are now and what you will become in the future now.”
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