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Welcome to the Official Site of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind. This is where we do as the good doctor, Maxwell Maltz, did for so many years. We heal internal scars. We give you an emotional face lift. We transform the agonizing pain of defeat, failure, frustration and loneliness into courage, confidence, love, gratitude and peace of mind. We help you reach your goals by showing you how to remove the obstacles that you think are standing in your way.

As a reconstructive plastic surgeon, Dr. Maltz realized that although “plastic surgery” benefited 0.5% of the population, the other 99.5% had unresolved emotional scars from the past, and that these could be removed by changing your self-image. Once these internal scars were irradiated, what followed was a life of success and happiness with you reaching “the greatest port in the world: peace of mind.”

On this blog, I will be giving you Psycho-Cybernetics success tips for transforming your self-image, as well as making recommendations on books, courses and seminars that will take you to the next level. Make sure you subscribe to our email list as well because we have special offers that you’ll want to see.

Matt Furey, President, Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc.

June 18th, 2015

Most Evil Word in English Language

Today when I was driving my daughter to dance camp, I asked her if she knew the most important word in the Chinese language; the word that much of the culture is centered around.

She shook her head “no.”

I replied, “It isn’t 好 Hǎo,” which means good.

It’s a word you’d least expect.

It’s the word 慢 (Màn} – pronounced like the Jamaican’s say man – mohn.

The term means “slow” or “slowly.”

Throughout the day people will use this word over and over. In fact, it’s common to say 慢 (Màn} twice before a verb. For example:

Eat slowly – man man chi.
Walk slowly – man man zou
Learn slowly – man man xue

It is this last phrase – 慢慢学习 {màn man xué} or learn slowly I’d like to comment on today, before I reveal to you the most evil word in the English language.

OK, you may wonder how learning slowly can be considered a good thing.

So let’s go back in time. How about when you were an infant.

At that time you absorbed more knowledge without trying than any other time in your life.

You were totally relaxed. You were living in the NOW.

No pressure. No hurry. No worry. No grades. No awards.

Just a whole lot of information you could absorb with ease – and without tension.

So I said to my daughter, “Do you realize that you learned English, Mandarin Chinese, as well as Shanghainese and Sichuanese (two other dialects) before age three – and you weren’t under any pressure to do so? You just absorbed what was around you because you were totally relaxed.”

She’d never pondered the thought, so I elaborated.

“When you study dance – or anything else, the same idea applies. If you’re under stress or tension – it’s difficult to learn. If you’re relaxed and engaged, you can learn quickly, even when you’re not trying to do so.”

I then told her about the most evil word in the English language.

“When you train today, remember to never TRY to learn anything. Just relax, be engaged and allow yourself to learn. But don’t TRY. You cannot TRY and successfully do anything. That’s why it’s the most evil word in any language – but especially English.”

“The word TRY will keep you from ever fulfilling any of your desires. You cannot TRY anything. You either do it or you don’t. As Yoda said in Star Wars, “Do or do not, there is no try.”

As I drove I coninued. “Throughout the rest of your life, whenever you hear anyone use the word try, understand that they’re probably NOT going to do what they say they’re trying to do.”

“If someone says he’ll TRY to make it to a party – he’s not going.”

“If someone says he’ll try to lose weight or stop drinking or stop smoking – or anything else – it not going to happen.”

“If someone tries to make money, he can’t.”

“And especially true is anyone trying to learn something. You cannot try to learn something. You either engage and learn it – or you don’t.”

Whether you are willing to slow down to speed up your learning of something, one thing is for certain, you cannot do it by trying to do it.

Eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary and you’ll notice yourself relaxing, getting into flow and being far more effective in all that you do.

Don’t believe me?

Then go ahead and test it.

Just don’t “try it.” If you “try” – you’re going to be disappointed.

The above and a whole lot more is contained within the Zero Resistance Living System – available for the next day at a greatly reduced amount.

Grab a copy of this award-generating program and your life will never be the same again.


Matt Furey

May 29th, 2015

I Don’t Care!

When I was in 5th grade, I had a teacher, Mrs. Fair – who knew and used the value of her name to the max.

Whenever a student would utter the words, “THAT’S NOT FAIR,” she had the ultimate answer.

“Yes it is fair. How do I know? Because I’m Mrs. Fair.”

Well, Mrs. Fair and Mr. Furey didn’t see eye-to-eye on a number of matters but she had a way of coming around to my point of view on occasion.

For example, one day when it was below zero and snowing outdoors, I didn’t understand why recess was cancelled. I wanted to play and I expressed my displeasure.

In response, Mrs. Fair told me to get my hat, gloves and coat on and go play. I did so.

I was the ONLY student in the school on the playground that day. I ran through the drifts, threw snowballs at imaginary beings, went down the slide, made a snowman and had a blast, all by myself.

After the cold became noticeable on my face, I went back to the classroom. The other students looked surprised I’d made it back.

“I can’t believe you actually went out into the snow,” one student said.

“Why not?” I replied. “It was fun.”

Mrs. Fair drew a line in the sand with me on a number of issues – and one of them was when I uttered the words, “I DON’T CARE.”

Whenever I said this she smiled and said, “That means you care.”

Man, I hated that. Being told I care when I said I didn’t. And I still, to this day, do NOT completely agree with her.

Be that as it was – one thing I can tell you that I do agree with is this: A lot of the troubles so many people have are a result of “caring too much.”

If you care too much about the words you speak or others reaction to them – you’ll be afraid to open your mouth and say what’s on your mind.

If you care too much about the words you write, you’ll stifle yourself before you even start.

If you care too much about closing sales, making a good first impression and increasing your income – people will run and hide.

If you care too much about letter grades, athletic statistics, pleasing others and so on – you literally choke the flow of life force running through you.

And today, in this politically correct society, if you care too much about not offending a single person on the face of this earth, you’ll never be able to help anyone.

Think of it this way, if you offend someone unintentionally, no big deal. Just apologize. It’s not the end of the whirld.

Now the flip side: And this is where Mrs. Fair was right.
There is a yin and a yang to caring. If you don’t care at all – that might not be good. If you care too much – that’s probably not good either.

But if you have the predominant mindset of “I don’t care” – and mixed within this emotional concoction is a tiny bit of “I do care” – then this may be a winning attitude for you.

A little bit of care mixed with a lot of “don’t care” – can give you a sense of power that has somehow eluded you.

If Mrs. Fair were still alive today, I’d present her with a saying from the Chuang Tzu, written a long, long time ago in ancient China.

This saying is so important to me that I had a poster made of it – and it hangs upon one of the walls in my home.

Here goes:

When you’re betting for stones in an archery contest,
you shoot with skill.
When you’re betting for fancy belt buckles,
you worry about your aim. 
And when you’re betting for real gold,
you’re a nervous wreck.
Your skill is the same in all three cases –
but because one prize means more to
you than another, you let outside
concerns weigh on your mind.

He who looks too hard at the outside
gets clumsy on the inside.

-Chuang Tzu

The archer cares enough about what he’s doing to practice and get good.

But if he cares too much – he’s a nervous wreck and cannot showcase his skill.

I’ve been there. I’ve lost “important” bouts because I cared too much.

Ironically, the biggest match I ever won, the world kung fu title in Beijing, is when I didn’t care if I won or lost.

As a writer, speaker and entrepreneur – I can say the same thing.

Yes, you need desire. Yes, you need a burning desire.

But the flame is burning of it’s own accord. It burns with effortless ease.

The flame is your love and passion. It’s your deep appreciation for this moment – a sense of awe for having the talent, ability and opportunity to be able to do what you love to do.

And as you do what you love to do – you could not care less what anyone else thinks.

This feeling gives you the power and insight to leave the candle flame alone. It’ll burn on its own.

Focus on the doing and the being – and the outcomes, the results, will take care of themselves.


Matt Furey

May 26th, 2015

11th Commandment: No T.V. for 25 Years

Last night I read an article about Pope Francis. Says he hasn’t watched tee-vee in 25 years.

Stop everything you’re doing and ponder this for a moment.

Regardless of your fatih, beliefs, etc. – consider this act in and of itself, for it’s own merit.

I’ve been told the average American watches 21 hours of television per week. And many of these same people believe they “don’t have time” to get things done. They’re busy. Very, very busy.

Tee-vee is only ONE of the many “activities” people engage in on a daily basis, that keeps them from doing something productive with their lives. Now, I’m not saying you “should” stop watching television – nor is it a commandment.

But perhaps dropping the telly is worthy of consideration.

When I read the article on the Pope – I truly took some time to reflect on it. What if I cut back on all the baseball games I watch on the box? And that’s literally about ALL I ever watch on t.v.

I cannot tell you who the most popular stars are, or what programs are rated or ranked. Don’t know the names of any of the shows. Or the times they come on.

For the MOST part, I have ZERO interest in tee-vee.

Except for watching baseball.

What if I completely gave that up? No more baseball on the tube. None. Just quit cold turkey.

Same goes for a host of other distractions. Like the cell phone.

Last week I forgot my phone. Left it at home.

Turned out to be a good thing after I got over the feeling of having lost an artificial limb.

Why do we think we MUST have a gadget with us at all times making us accessiible by text, email, Facebook, Twitter, and so on, all day long?

How about a withdrawal program?

Make a short term pact with yourself to give up ONE of your gadgets or activities for a week and see if you feel better.

If this causes you to feel uncomfortable, consider WHY.

This morning I wanted to turn on the idiot box. I really did. Wanted to get a recap of yesterday’s “plays of the day.”

I ignored this urging and got busy reading something – and typing a few emails.

Can I do this for a week, a month, a year, or 25 years?

I suppose so – but how about taking it one day at a time for now. Or half-a-day at a time. Or as I’ve taught over the years – one breath at a time.

For today I will observe the 11th Commandment – no tee-vee. It already feels pretty good. Despite the urgings of my subconscious telling me, “Look, Matt, you don’t watch that much. And you don’t watch ridiculous shows and such all day long. A little bit of this is okay” – I’m going to ignore those thoughts.

For today. For this breath. For this instant.

And I’m going to get more done in less time.

If you’d like to join me on this – keep me posted on how it’s working for you.

Kick the tee-vee habit – get more done in less time,

Matt Furey

author of Theatre of the Mind – a Nightingale-Conant best-seller – get it now for $40 off the original amount

P.S. Tee-vee is only one a thousands of daily distractions – but it’s a big one. Using this same strategy for some other time-slurper is a good idea, too. Just don’t try to revolutionize your entire life overnight. Start with one thing, build a success around it, then if you’d like, go to the next thing.

May 20th, 2015

Success is in Your Jeans

Several months ago I was consulting with a man who wants to be a writer. Thing is, for most of his life, he’s felt incapable of being one.
April 14th, 2015

What “Empty Your Cup” Means

Over the years, I’ve had a number of conversations with self-help authors and speakers who refer to their work as “head-trip stuff.”

April 10th, 2015

Best Time to Focus on a Goal

Question: When’s the best time to focus your mind and visualize your goals?

Answer: Not when you think it is.

Seriously. Most of us have been told to visualize first thing in the morning or just before going to bed at night.

And these notions are correct if you’re a “neck-up” type of person.

I’m not.

Neither are many of the people I deal with. And based upon my experience in dealing with those who aren’t exactly physical – I believe you’ll help them far more by engaging their body as you “work” on the mind.

Contemplate the following: Almost everyone feels better after going for a walk.

Walking clears the cobwebs from your mind. It moves the blood, gets you breathing deeper and helps endorphins flow stronger.

Walking is good medicine for the mind – especially when you do it oudoors, in nature, surrounded by trees. Or on the beach. Or along a mountain road.

And when you combine walking time with visualization time – you capture two birds with each step.

Most of the people who live in the area that I coach are used to me having them do something physical as we talk.

They don’t come to me, sit in a lazy boy and have me guide them through Theatre of the Mind.

Instead, when they show up, they are handed a jump rope or told to follow me as I begin walking.

And when we walk, we talk.

They ask questions and get answers.

The stories flow. The advice pours out of me.

And they get even more super-charged – I’d say at least
three times more – than if they were merely sitting and listening.

I realize most of you reading these words cannot come and walk/talk with me personally.

But all of you can do as Richard has writen below:

Hey Matt,
Just want to let you know that I’ve gone through the entire TOTM CDs and video and am now on my second listening. I put it on my ipod and listen while doing chores or taking walks.
I think your program is excellent, one of the best if not THE best I’ve ever come across (I’ve listened to a lot of them) full of great transformative information and techniques. You are a great storyteller and it’s really easy to listen to.
One thing that I’ve glommed onto early on is the face behind the face and the inner smile. Really makes a huge difference.
Thanks for doing it and putting it out there.

MJF: Thank you, Richard. Maybe someday you can come to Tampa and experience the message LIVE. Glad you’re enjoying the CDs.

Well, my friend, if nothing else – get out there and walk. and if you really want to get somewhere in life – listen to my Theatre of the Mind program while you walk.

Turning walking time into success time.


Matt Furey

March 30th, 2015

#1 Path to Success

This morning, Michael, a private client, who lives in the area, met me at 10 AM for a session.

He says, “I’ve been walking six miles a day. I do three in the morning and three more at night – and I listen to your Theatre of the Mind CDs the entire time. It’s awesome.”

“Great,” I said. “Let’s go for a walk.”

He smiled.

We started to walk and talk. And as we walked he began to ask questions. Really good questions.

He wanted to know the main difference between self-esteem and self-image – and how each relates to success.

He wanted to know why some people who achieve various successes, still don’t feel good deep inside.

I explained to him that many people cannot wrap their mind around the very word “success.”

They don’t have a clear or working definition of what it is. Ask these people to tell you about a success experience they’ve had and they literally draw blanks.

Truly. They cannot conceive of a single success experience.

Even if they’ve completed 8 years of college and have a doctorate – or they’re medical doctors, they can still find reasons WHY they haven’t really had a success experience yet.

I know people who’ve built their own homes, earned a ton of dough, married the woman of their dreams, written books, created companies, traveled the whirld – and yet, deep down, they still feel like nothing.

How can this be possible?

Truth be told, this situation is more common than you’d think.

Some people don’t feel successful, regardless of what they’ve done, because they don’t know how to be grateful, to stop and smell, touch and kiss the roses.

As soon as they accomplish one thing, they’re off to the next thing. Gratitude doesn’t exist. Taking time to breathe and be free doesn’t exist.

It’s more, more, more.

And more is good – provided you have the decency to appreciate what you have, where you’ve been and what you’ve got.

How many people do you know who say “thank you” – and mean it?

How often do you take a few moments during your day to think about all the things, all the people, all the circumstances you’ve had, are having – or will soon have – and how marvelous it is to be in your shoes – with or without the problems that go with it?

How often?

Chances are excellent that you NEVER take the time to be grateful. Or you do it so seldom the answer is practically never.

Last night I was playing ball with my son. When we finished, I said, “Son, I have something for you.”

I walked toward him. He’s waiting for me to give him something. But where is this something? Where am I hiding it? Am I going to get it out of my car? Or from the house?

As I walked toward him I could sense his curiosity growing. And when I was a foot away, I threw my arms around his torso and gave him a hug.

“Way to work today,” I said. “That’s awesome.”

We tend to overlook the little things that pay big dividends.

We tend to overlook the bigger things that are central to where we are today.

And we’re so good at overlooking the little and the bigger – that we even overlook the really BIG things, the pivotal people, the life-changers, the knowledge, the information, the six honest serving men – as Kipling called them.

No, I’m not successful because I’m not as rich as Bill Gates.

That’s B.S.

No, I’m not successful because I wasn’t valedictorian, or didn’t win the World Series, or the Super Bowl or get my Ph.D.

More B.S.

No, I’m not successful because ….

Because what?

You’re alive, aren’t you? Your heart’s still beating. You can still breathe. You can still walk, talk, read, write and feed yourself.

The fact is you could do NONE of the above when you were getting started – and breathing and having a heart beat are not something you do to yourself. They’re automatic.

Even if you cover your mouth to forcibly stop breathing, eventually nature will force your hand so you gasp for air.

So what’s the #1 Path to Success?

It’s the path of remembering who you are, where you came from, who helped you along the way – and how grateful and happy you are for everyone and everything.

Know someone who won’t show gratitude?

They’re on the path to failure.

And you’re not.

The greatness of Theatre of the Mind is that the process puts you into a state of gratitude and a state of flow – and it does so easily and naturally, without you even realizing it.

What a way to live.


Matt Furey

P.S. Want to know of one of the biggest reasons why so many visualizers, affirmers and goal setters never get what they want? Listen to Theatre of  the Mind and it’ll be clearer than crystal.

March 11th, 2015

Why Affirmations Don’t Work

This morning, I’d like to tackle a question that many readers have on the subject of positive affirmations.Do they or don’t they work?Below is what one customer recently wrote – followed by my answer:

Dear Matt,

March 4th, 2015

Cursing Your Circumstances

As some say in the south – “dadgummit.”

That’s what I could have said yesterday – and a whole lot more, when I spent a good half-hour working on an email masterpiece.

It was a great one. It was riveting. It cut right to the heart of the matter in many peoples’ lives – especially the financial aspect.

Upon finishing this masterpiece – the computer shut down. There was no way to retrieve what I’d written because it was typed on the email site itself – not on a document.

As soon as this happened – I inhaled, took a breath and surprised myself with my next thought.

What was it?

Well, it wasn’t “dadgummit.” It didn’t contain expletives – unspoken or out loud.

It was as follows…

“Looks like that email wasn’t supposed to go out today. You can re-do it later. You can still remember what you wrote, so nothing is really lost – except time – and time doesn’t really exist anyway – so carry on.”


Are you serious, Furey?


Again, this suprised me. I’m not normally this calm about things. Close – but not when I lose something I’ve written.

If I had to give you a penny for all the times in life I’ve gotten upset over stupid stuff, worried over things that will soon pass, driven myself to frustration instead of unwinding my mind – you’d have a nice little nest-egg – that’s for sure.

Part of being truly human is the willingness to admit that you make mistakes. Stupid mistakes.

The other part is being willing to forgive YOURSELF – so you can move on and improve.

When we think about forgiveness, we usually think it’s about “others.” It’s not. It’s about YOU. It’s always about YOU.

You start by dropping the baggage about yourself. You drop the “I’m an X because I did X” story.

And as you’re able to toss your own garbage out – you open space within your mind to realize that others can be given a bit more slack,too.

After tossing out your own stupidities – and learning from them – you return to the NOW – for a fleeting moment – because the NOW never lasts. The NOW is gone as soon as it arrives.

Yet, from this so-called NOW – we can go into the past to find the moments in time when we experienced happiness, joy,
elation, peace of mind and so on.



You go back in time to the moments when you were at your best – and then you feel as if you’re truly living them in the NOW.

The so-called NOW is when time stops. It ceases to exist. You have no sense of it whatsoever. You and what you are doing or not doing are just existing.

This awareness of who you are allows you to navigate life with effortless ease.

In Psycho-Cybernetics speak, we call this Zero Resistance Living.

You stop going through life with sand-paper rubbing against your skin. You start sliding through life as if you’re riding a sled through packed snow. You start rising higher with the wind – realizing you cannot get anywhere without it.

There are those who think you must resist life to make it; that you must even resist resistance itself.

I don’t share this line of thought.

Resistance is something you turn into effortless effort.

You’re working – but it doesn’t feel like work.

You’re practicing – even doing so with absolute gusto – but it doesn’t feel like practice.

You’re competing – giving it all you’ve got – and you make it look easy.

That’s what life is like when you use resistance to climb higher instead of seeing it as another battle to overcome.

Yesterday a man who recently purchased Theatre of the Mind wrote to tell me how calm he’s getting following the program. He says he’s listened to the program three times already – and he now has his wife listening to it along with him.

When a program is so good that you listen to it repeatedly, something must be right on about it. Comments like this make my day.

If you’ve got a story to tell about your experiences with Theatre of the Mind – please let me hear it. Would love to know about it

All for now – and so far, no dadgummits.


Coach Furey

P.S. Starting over isn’t so hard. Each day we do it, without thinking. If you made a mistake yesterday, don’t curse your circumstances. Start again today.

No worry. No fear.

February 17th, 2015

Shut if Off

Last week I wrote about the Failure Mechanism and how to shut it off. Many of you wrote to ask for more information.

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