April 22nd, 2009
Competition is a good thing. A great thing. It brings out the best in a person. It shows a person where his true weaknesses are.
Yet, after a competition, there is an enormous danger. The person who loses may consider himself a failure and the winner may get a big head and think he no longer needs to practice as much as before.
It is one thing to say to yourself, ‘I didn’t do well today, but I’ll do better next time. I wasn’t myself today, but I’ll improve on this. I didn’t win today, but I’m still a winner inside.’
I realize it’s hard to do sometimes, especially if you really wanted to win – but it must be done for you to move to the next level.
The best athletes, salespeople, entrepreneurs and so on, don’t compete with others as much as they compete with themselves. Afterall, once you’re better than all your competitors, how can you continue to improve if your focus is simply about ‘beating the others.’
When I was in college my father told me to ‘make yourself your greatest opponent.’ He was right.
In order to do this you must go back in time and picture your best moments, your greatest successes. You must relive the feelings of confidence you once experienced.
Doing so is the same as a good friend reminding you of your value; that you’re someone special. Only difference is that NOW you are being a friend to yourself. You’re going within and finding the BIG SELF who inherently knows that you came into this world to succeed.
I once knew a businessman who was very successful for more than ten years. Then the demand for his product died off and he had to close up shop. He thought of himself as a failure; that he was a loser.
I talked to the man and said, ‘My goodness, you had 10 years of success. I wouldn’t call that a failure. Close this shop and move on. Figure out a way to tap into another current trend and you’ll be off to the races again.’
He listened. And he succeeded once again.
There are great athletes who go undefeated until the ‘BIG SHOW.’ Then, if they lose the big show, they feel like total failures. But they’re not. They simply lost one game.
So long as these athletes gave it everything they had in that game, they can hold their heads high. And if they didn’t give it everything they had, they can declare that ‘next time will be different.’
Instead of trying to keep up with the Joneses and feeling badly when you’re not at their level – ‘keep up with yourself.’
Make yourself your greatest competition.
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