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The End is Near

Wednesday, September 19th, 2012

My goodness, you’d think it was Armageddon here in Tampa Bay.

After reading the headline “The End is Near” with a photo of a despondent, depressed and disgusted baseball player on the Rays team – I’m sure some might think it really is the end of the whirld.

A year ago, the team was filled with optimism despite having about as much chance of making the playoffs as a dog has for solving quadratic equations.

But this year, negativity abounds. A week ago, when the team lost to the Orioles, the same key player pictured in “The End is Near” was quoted as saying, “We cannot lose anymore games.”

Wait a second, you’ve got three weeks left and you’re talking about all the games for the rest of the season. Whatever happened to take one game at a time. Look at the future but live in the present.

One of the big keys to success in life, in any arena, is knowing when to stop looking ahead. And the answer is “most of the time.”

Yes, you set goals for the future. You picture them, you think about them, you even make plans on how you’re going to achieve them. But most of the time you’ve got to live in the present because that’s all you ever have anyway.

The future is pictured in the now. The past is remembered in the now. And the now takes place in the now.

Earlier today a good friend, who played in the MLB for many years and owns a World Series ring, called and said, “Hey, I was watching one of your players in the game the other day.”

“Yeah,” I said. “What’d you think?”

“I think he doesn’t want to be out there. He’s just putting in his time. And his attitude has infected the whole team. They’re all playing like they want to get the season over with.”

“You know, I never thought of it that way,” I replied. “But I think you’re right.”

“Look at it this way, this guy is supposed to be a club house leader. He’s a veteran player. And if he doesn’t care, what message do you think is trickling down to everyone else on the team.”

A few days ago I was mentoring a business man facing the very same issue. He has someone on his staff who is negative, and the bad vibe has infected the entire office.

What to do?

Fire the person or see if you can turn him around.

Turning around someone’s negativity is a job you don’t want to wish on anyone. It’s no easy task.

Why?

Because the person who is negative rarely wants to change. So the best thing you can do is make yourself better – and those who want to be around your positive influence will change because they want to – not because you told them they better do so.

You cannot afford to keep negative people around because they tend to make everything around them worse rather than better. Despite all your valiant attempts to pull others up, chances are excellent you’ll only be brought down in the process.

This is why “environment” is so important to success. It trumps genetics. It trumps natural talent. It trumps who you know and what you study.

If you associate with people who are good at what they do, they’ll make you better. If you associate with people who are great at what they do, they’ll make you greater. And if you get around those who’ve mastered something, you to can rise to the level of master.

The opposite is also true. Run with chickens and you’ll become fearful. Swim with flounder and you’ll become bottom feed. Any success you may have while going in the wrong current with the wrong school  will be a “fluke.”

In life, as well as in baseball, you don’t look too far into the future. You don’t play three weeks worth of games, today. You take care of today’s game NOW. You take care of the next pitch NOW.

And you play the game one breath at a time.

Set goals for yourself – but focus on today, this moment. Right now.

Best,

Matt Furey

P.S. To live in the NOW and approach your future in the most powerful way there is, be sure to look into the Zero Resistance Living program. It changes lives from the inside out – the only real way change ever happens.

Genetic Fitness Freaks

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

If you believe that success is mostly genetic, you’re not going to like today’s message.

I’m continually amazed at the number of people, including coaches and teachers, who’ve been sold and continue to perpetuate the genetics lie.

The lie goes like this: “There’s no real explanation or duplicatable method for Johnny or Jamie’s success. They’re more gifted than others. They have
the right genes.”

This type of thinking does far more harm to the psyche of a human being than teaching someone bad physical form or improper mechanics.

Without realizing it, coaches, teachers and parents tell young children that they can never be great, they can never overcome the odds, that you either have it or you don’t.

Thank goodness I never heard this message when I was growing up.

I didn’t have parents who talked this way. Or coaches. Instead, I was surrounded by people who believed you could accomplish great things in life if you had the right environment.

That’s right. The right ENVIRONMENT.

NOT the right GENES.

In Derek Jeter’s book, The Life You Imagine, he wrote about wanting to play shortstop for the New York Yankees, from the time he was eight years old.

He thought about it, dreamt about it, visualized it and worked toward it. And the day he announced his intention to his parents, they told him that he could do it but he’d have to work very hard at it for a long time.

Note: Jeter’s parents did NOT tell him, “You’re too skinny. You’re not very big. And no one in our bloodline has ever played professional sports.”

Instead, his parents nurtured his desire – and ten years later, Jeter was drafted by the very team he imagined playing. Two years after being drafted, he made it to the big show. And 18 years later, he’s still playing for this same team.

This year, at 38 years of age, he’s hitting better and running faster than he has in years.

When he was a senior in high school, Derek weighed 155 pounds. Not exactly the size you’d expect to make it to the major leagues.

Yet, he worked and worked and worked – and still does. And part of his work was the use of his imagination. Every day, he imagined being where he is now.

In the book, The Biology of Belief, cellular biologist, Bruce H. Lipton, blows the genetics theory to smithereens. In his work he uncovered something interesting.

Your genes are activated or made dormant by your ENVIRONMENT.

What this means is that you may very well have the genes to succeed – but if you don’t have anyone who nurtures you, trains you, teaches you and believes in you – your talent will not fully express itself.

It all comes down, in many cases, to the famous Mark Twain line, “Talent (genetics) is useless without training, thank God.”

I know a boy who threw a baseball 54 mph when he was 10. This velocity was decent for his age group, but certainly not remarkable. In fact, others in his age group in, he was far from being the hardest thrower on the team.

But he had a father who believed in him and worked on his velocity. His father didn’t believe in the genetics myth. He believed you could set a goal and systematically work toward it.

Today, this same boy is seen as a genetic freak by many parents and coaches. Why. Because he’s throwing over 70 mph at age 12.

His father is not derailed by this type of thinking whatsoever. He knows that proper training is the biggest factor in making improvements. Success begins in your imagination then extends into your daily actions and habits.

If I can get you to picture what you want, I have a shot at helping you get there.

But if I can block your vision with images of genetics being the make-or-break factor, then your chances of success diminish within seconds.

If you want to improve your life, regardless of the area, think about creating a success environment  in your imagination first. Then create it in physical reality.

Avoid all coaches, teachers and trainers who claim that success is genetic. Listening to them is like eating poison. You cannot succeed if you’re being programmed to believe that getting to the top is out of your control.

Matt Furey

P.S. For the ultimate course in the use of your Creative Imagination, be sure to pick up the Zero Resistance Living System.

P.P.S. Other recommended reading material would be Expect to Win – Hate to Lose and The Unbeatable Man.


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