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Sports and Self-Image

Tuesday, March 30th, 2010

One of the reasons we love sports so much is because it’s one of the last models our society has left in which excellence above all others is rewarded.

It’s one of the few areas left in which it’s okay to stand out, to rise up, to earn more than your neighbor and be applauded for doing so.

We love seeing a team rise above the others and become champions. We love finding out who the MVP of the league is, who the most valuable player is, who won rookie of the year honors – and so on.

We also love to find out HOW the champion became who he or she is. How did this person train?  What did he learn along the way that helped him? Who did he learn from?

In many youth programs, however, children are no longer being rewarded for excellence. Instead of having a most valuable player, a best all-around and a most inspirational award – EVERYONE is given a trophy, whether he truly earned one or not.

Coaches tell kids that “having fun” is most important – that winning doesn’t matter.

Huh?

How about both?

Teach kids how to win. Teach them the importance of practicing to become excellent. Teach them how to use their creative imagination, to visualize, to set
goals, to study and practice every aspect of a game.

Teach kids to love the journey as well as the game. Teach them to accept victory with humility and class. And teach them to learn from failure and mistakes with graciousness and patience.

But don’t tell them it’s only “for fun.” You aren’t fooling anyone with that line – especially the kids. Deep down they know that we keep score for a reason – and that awards aren’t supposed to go to everyone.

When I was a competitive swimmer, I won the MVP award two years in a row (age 12 and 13). The next year the coach discontinued the award, saying, “No one on our team is more valuable than anyone else. All of you are just as important as anyone else on the team.”

Theoretically she was right – but in reality, she didn’t want to give the trophy to me another time. Instead, she invented a new award for her younger sister, who was also on the team. I think it was the “I love my little sister award.”

I continued to compete in swimming three more years after the coach made this move. I won all but a couple races in that time span, breaking records all over the place. And at the end of the year, when the banquet was held, I applauded those who won awards.

I never received another award in the sport – despite my efforts – and that’s probably why I eventually lost interest. And that’s tragic when you consider that while in college – an assistant to the Iowa team timed me “just for fun” in the butterfly. Afterward he called me into his office and told me I had the potential to swim a 47 second 100-butterfly.

Outside his office the Big Ten records were posted on the wall. I looked and saw the following: 100-Fly – Mark Spitz, Indiana, 1971, 47:00.

Although I stuck with wrestling, the verbal reward from the Iowa coach remains with me to this day and I treasure it.

Yes, I’m all for giving every kid on the team a certificate – after all, every member of the World Series Champions gets a ring – but there’s still an MVP trophy for the ultimate star – the player who stood above the rest.

I say have a bigger trophy and a separate award for the kids who did better than the rest. If it’s good enough for the big leagues, then it’s good enough for kids.

Make sports fun for kids – but emphasize that in the real world – winning is a whole lot more fun than losing.

Build your child’s self-image with sports. Teach him the value of practice. And regardless of whether your child is the MVP or not, you can show him how much he improved by using his mind and
his body in the right way.

Tell a child that it’s only “for fun” and he’ll never learn the value of practice and what can be accomplished because of it.

Sports are one of the last remaining metaphors that haven’t been collectivized with the “not everyone can be great so let’s punish the best among us and make everyone the same” ideology.

At least not at the professional or collegiate level. Heaven help us if that ever happens.

Best,

Matt Furey

P.S. Want to learn how I rose above the herd to become a champion – then you’ll love reading The Unbeatable Man – where I reveal all.

P.P.S. And if you want to supercharge your son or daughter with high-powered self-image boosters for sports or anything else – then teach him the skills contained in Zero Resistance Living.

Some Green & Gold For You Today

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

A Happy St. Patrick’s Day to YOU.

And to make it even better than what you may have planned, today you can join forces with me in an unprecedented opportunity to spread the message of physical, mental and spiritual health – and be financially rewarded for doing so.

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See you there.

Best,

Matt Furey

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Your St. Patrick’s Day Celebration

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

Being of Irish descent, I thought tomorrow would be the perfect day to make a major announcement that can positively effect your bank balance.

So tomorrow when you’re wearing your green and gold – look for a message from me about having more green and gold – and how I’m prepared to help you get more of it.

Look for the “Green and Gold” email tomorrow morning – and make sure you’re one of the first in line, ready to
act quickly.

Best,

Matt Furey

P.S. I’ll be holding a special teleseminar at no charge for those who are accepted in this extraordinary opportunity.

Undateable Men

Monday, March 15th, 2010

So I walked into my favorite breakfast joint after putting in a few miles on foot.

And I look down and see the weekly Tampa Bay News. All over the cover is a very disturbing word: “Loser, Loser, Loser.”

In my right hand I have a well marked up copy of Psycho-Cybernetics. I switch it to my left to see what this “loser” copy is all about. And to my surprise, it’s a plug for a book that details some 300+ ways men cause themselves to be immediately rejected or snubbed by women. 300+ ways that men turn off women.

A book filled with all the things men do that supposedly don’t work.

Hmmm.

How about a book with 300+ things men can do to make themselves more attractive to women.

And the very first one is to build a healthy self-image in which you see yourself as attractive to women; you see women liking you; and you feel the attraction taking place before your eyes meet.

The fastest way men can make themselves more attractive is to change their energy – and the fastest way to change your energy is to change the way you breathe and the way you move – and these two areas are changed, once again, by the way you picture things in your own mind.

So if you want to make yourself dateable, loveable and so on – don’t start with all the externals like clothes and cars – although these can help. Instead, start with who you are on the inside – and watch the results you’re getting undergo a quantum shift to the positive.

Matt Furey

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The Best Thing About Losing

Monday, March 8th, 2010

Last Saturday afternoon my son’s baseball team was leading 7-3 in the third inning. Both sets of grandparents were watching the “sure-thing” victory.

Two innings later, the game ended 11-7. The kids were crushed.

But their coach knew just what to say to lift their spirits – and I took note.

“Men, the best thing about losing games like this is you get to forget about them. But when you WIN – you get to remember those moments FOREVER.”

WOW. What a great message. Focus on your victories. Forget about your losses.

Two weeks ago when I was coaching a group of men and women in Phoenix, Arizona, I put everyone through an exercise where you go back into your past and find your “winningest moment.” Once found, you relive it with even greater emotion and glory than the day it happened.

Before doing this exercise, a 53-year old  Canadian man came forward to tell a story about “the hit” he got in a baseball game when he was 12.

His team was down by a run – with two outs and the bases loaded. As he took the plate he overheard people in the stands saying, “Ah, we got this one. This guy’s our home run hitter.”

And he was. That year he’d slammed 14 home runs.

He swung and missed the first two pitches. Then on the third pitch he connected with all his might and the ball sailed into the outfield. Deep, deep into centerfield.

As he was telling this story I noted water in his eyes, 41 years after the fact.

I wondered why. Then he revealed the rest of the story…

The ball sailed and sailed. It was going to be the game winning walk-off home run. He would be the hero of the day.

But at the very last moment, the outfielder leaped high enough for the ball to hit his glove.

And caught it.

Game over.

“You told me you got a HIT,” I said  “In the U.S. that’s not a HIT – that’s an OWT (trying my best to speak Canadian).”

The man smiled for the first time – but was still a bit choked up about his memory.

“How many home runs did you hit again,” I asked.

“Fourteen,” he said.

“Could you tell me about the best one you hit.”

“Actually, I can’t remember any of them.”

“Huh? You hit 14 home runs in one season and you can’t remember any of them?”

“Correct.”

“Well, your assignment for right now then is to remember your home runs. ALL of them.”

I then turned to the others and said, “And the same assignment applies to you. Remember your home runs – and create more of them. Stop focusing on the losses – unless you want more of them.”

Over the next few hours our Canadian brother began to recall his REAL hits – his home runs – and then he relived them in his Theatre of the Mind. And when he left the meeting he was all the better for having done so.

Focusing on your victories is basic and fundamental to your success. And like anything, the basics and fundamentals are the keys to victory.

If you haven’t updated and/or reviewed your WIN LIST – do so immediately. Then focus on your victories and forget about your losses.

The best thing about your losses is you get to leave them behind.

The best thing about your wins is that you get to remember them for the rest of your life.

Matt Furey

P.S. In Zero Resistance Living you learn how to focus on your victories in a way that will catapult you onto success, day after day. Year after year.
Discover how by going to here.

Are You a Natural?

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

Last weekend my son struck out the side in a Little League baseball game.

On Sunday a friend came over to work out with me. He asked how the game went and I gave him the scoop about how my youngin’ whiffed three batters in a row.

He then turns to my son and says, “You’re a natural.”

I immediately recoiled and said, “He’s a natural at knowing he better practice if he’s going to be good.”

There are two extremes when it comes to coaching kids – or adults, for that matter.

One is to criticize severely and never offer anything positive.

The other is to flatter and praise too early and too often, which can and often does cause the person being stroked to lose interest. After all, if you’re being coddled before victory, what’s the point in striving to succeed?

I prefer the middle path. It’s called teaching those you love and those you coach to practice, practice, practice.

Regardless of who praises you and for what – you practice.

Regardless of who criticizes you and for what – you practice.

I believe in praising others for that which deserves praise and can be duplicated. Telling someone he’s a natural is not one of those situations. It’s feedback that does nothing to move you along the path. It makes you stop and think, “Am I really?” instead of thinking, “What can I DO to get even better?”

Earlier in my life I was told I was a natural writer.

Later on I was told I was a natural speaker.

Neither statement led to anything positive. Neither statement helped me grow in either field. Neither helped me succeed in the slightest.

“You’re a natural,” someone says.

“So what?” I reply.

Show me how you practice – and later still, how you play – and even more so, how you react to victory – as well as defeat – then we’ll see how ‘natural’ you are.

When you are at your best, when you’re most natural at what you do – that’s the day when you know you’ve put in your time and paid your dues via the power of repetition.

That’s the moment in time when you know what it really feels like to be Unbeatable.

Fortunately, I’ve seen those moments – those unbeatable times. And I’ve written about how I got there in a way that will inspire you or your children to overcome the odds and make more out of yourself than any ‘natural’ label can ever bestow.

When you order a copy of my new book you’ll never forget the day you pick up the book and begin reading. You won’t be able to put it down until you’re finished. And afterward you’ll keep thinking about it – and passing this powerful message on.

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Best,

Matt Furey

P.S. You may be born with natural gifts and talent – but as Mark Twain once wrote, “Talent is useless without training, thank God.” I may be compensated for any link you click in this email.


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