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What We’re Teaching Kids Today

Monday, February 11th, 2008

The other day, John, a member of my Psycho-Cyb coaching program, sent me the following note:

Matt,
My 9 year old grandson has been having some trouble in school over the last few months. My wife and daughter were offering the usual threats/incentives. I took a different tack. I told him that every morning when he gets out of bed to imagine he is holding a HUGE report card that fills the room and that there are A’s and B’s on it.

Also, that there’s all sorts of people who want to high five him for the good grades. And to jump around the room high fiving all those people. You should see the smile on his face as he thinks about it.

Friday, I go over to his house to pick him up for the weekend and right away he pulls me over to show me his work book for the week. He says “Papa, I’ve
been magining.”

And the papers he showed me ALL SHOW IMPROVEMENT.

Matt, I love this little boy more than I’ve loved anyone in the whole world. There’s no words that allow me to thank you enough for teaching me how to help him.

John

MJF: John, the pleasure is all mine. What we teach young children is incredibly important. And as you’ve said, it all starts in the ‘magination.

Let me tell you a similar story with my son, Frank.

On Saturday Frank was getting ready for his final soccer game of the year. It’s his first year in this sport while many of the other kids in the league are already in their third and fourth season. So Frank has had a lot of catching up to do.

Before Saturday’s game, for the entire season, Frank had only scored three goals. I told Frank that this number was nothing to be ashamed of. Most important was that he try his hardest; that he put forth his best effort, win or lose, every time he plays.

Then I told him that the three goals he’d made were successful experiences he could draw energy from and re-create,
over and over.

He asked how, so I guided him through a very quick visualization, reliving the three goals he made. Then I told him to imagine scoring one goal after another.

He did this for five minutes or so.

That was it.

Well, guess what happened in the game. Frank scored a goal.

But not just one goal.

And not just two.

He scored THREE goals in the same game.

Young children’s minds are wide open to the power of suggestion. When you teach them how to imagine, how to visualize, the results can come FAR, FAR FASTER than adults who are skeptical and filled with doubt and fear.

Reminds me of the Bible passage on how we must become like little children to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.

Matthew Furey

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The Lombardi Philosophy

Sunday, February 10th, 2008

Earlier today I came across the following that I want to share with you:

“One of the first self-help books I ever read was Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz. It had a profound effect on me, and I was pleasantly surprised when I found a copy of the book – underlined and dog-eared – in my father’s library after he passed away. I’m convinced that many of the concepts and ideas that formed my father’s coaching philosophy – including focusing on the successful effort while putting an error quickly out of mind – came from his reading of Psycho-Cybernetics.”

– Vince Lombardi, Jr., from The Essential Vince Lombardi – Words & Wisdom to Motivate, Inspire & Win

If you haven’t read Psycho-Cybernetics, do so NOW and change our life for the better.

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Better your best,

Matthew Furey

Hey, I Made a Mistake

Saturday, February 9th, 2008

One of the things that separates what I teach and what Dr. Maltz taught about “mind power” is the importance of making mistakes.

If you read the words of so many of today’s “thinkers” on subjects like the Law of Attraction – you’ll find that there is rarely any talk about mistakes or failure.

People then develop the notion that if they’re making mistakes or failing – that they’re “attracting” it. In some cases this is most definitely true.

But you’ve got to look at the bigger picture to see the bigger
truth.

Mistakes are HOW we learn everything we know. From learning to crawl, walk, run, talk and feed ourselves. We make mistakes and correct course until the only thing your brain remembers is the “right” way to do something.

You learned to write by making mistakes.

You learn to become a great athlete the same way.

Getting back to the metaphor Dr. Maltz so ably used – missile technology – a torpedo is “off target” most of the time on the way to its pre-programmed destination.

So are you and that’s the way it’s supposed to be. That’s the way you succeed.

And so, if you’re afraid of making mistakes – if you keep yourself from doing because you’re worried you may do the wrong thing – then take comfort in the words of Elbert Hubbard, who said:

“The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one.”

Oh, how true.

This does not mean that you deliberately make mistakes. You’ll make plenty without trying to do so. But when you make a mistake, instead of whining or pouting about it, make a note and determine how to correct course. Most importantly, keep moving.

On top of the above, rejoice when you make a mistake. You’re now one or more steps closer to your goal.

Matthew Furey

P.S. All TRUMP CARDS are being mailed this weekend. My apologiesfor the delay. The first rendition of this special report was 4400 words. When I received it from Vinnie, the guy who laid it out for me, I read it and declared it “not good enough yet.” There was so much more I wanted to say. This, to me, was a mistake. I gladly got back to the piece and when I made the final period, it was 7990 words. Almost double. The result of me catching my mistake brought forth something a whole lot better. Hope you feel the same way.

Muhammad Ali on Becoming a Champion

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

When I began in business in 1987, I painted a quote on the wall of my gym. The quote comes from Muhammad Ali – 3x world heavyweight boxing champion.

“Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

It’s the last sentence from a longer quote of Ali’s that goes as follows:

“I hated every minute of the training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'”

Many of the clients I trained looked at the quote and got the message. Others didn’t.

The ones who got the message succeeded. The ones who believed they didn’t need to suffer at all – well, they never got anywhere.

Suffering is a state of mind that you go through on the way to focused bliss. Think about the foregoing sentence for a moment.

I may be wrong, but I think I know what Ali meant when he said he hated every minute of the training. I don’t think he “literally” meant what he said.

I believe what he meant was: When I wasn’t focused on my goal, the training was hard. Unbearable. Brutal. I hated it. It was insufferable. But as soon as I put my mind on the goal, I could handle it. I could bear it. I stopped suffering. I could endure the training. I could keep going.

As a college wrestler, I discovered this truth during practices where my side ached in pain; when my sweats were soaked and dripping with perspiration; when my shoes were sopped and left a slosh with every step.

I wanted to quit. I wanted to call it a day.

But a message came to me in the midst of my agony. The message was as follows: “Fure-cat, put your mind on your goal and all will be okay.”

I did this.

I started thinking about getting my hand raised. I pictured being written up in the newspaper, interviewed on television – and so on.

Next thing I knew – not much more than a few seconds later, the side ache was gone. The pain was no more. I ran as if in a state of reverie.

Best of all, by doing this, when it came time for competition, a funny thing happened: I won the tournament, got interviewed, got written up in the papers.

Strange.

Not at all.

Before you begin working toward a goal – all you see is the finish line. All you see is the celebration. Then, when you’re challenged to see how badly you want it – you may have a tendency to forget the finish line. The trick is to keep your eyes on the prize while also staying focused on what you’re doing in the present moment.

Some goals come easier than others. Champions understand this. But the achievements champions prize more than anything, are the battles that tested them with every fiber of their being.

Think about this today.

Are you suffering in anyway. If so, refocus and watch the pain dissipate. Keep doing this and the prize will go to YOU.

“Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a CHAMPION.”

Matthew Furey

P.S. TRUMP CARDS going out this week. Make sure you order one now.

No More Monkeys

Friday, February 1st, 2008

Next time you feel like you’re being assaulted with “things to do” – take a moment to consider the following:

a. You’ll get more done faster if you focus on one thing at a time.

Consider the surgeon. He performs one operation after another, all day long. He doesn’t think about the NEXT surgery while doing the first. If he does he’ll botch the job he’s on.

b. When you feel pressure to get “everything” done – focus on the area between your neck and shoulder blades – your “traps.”

You’ve probably heard people talking about having “monkeys on their back.” It’s how people talk about time pressure, their projects, etc. “Gotta get these monkeys off my back.”

Truth is you get them off your back by focusing on one thing at a time – and anytime you feel pressure rising, take a deep breath and focus on your upper neck and back.

Feel any monkeys.

If so, change your mental picture. Take them off.

I assure you they are slowing you down. They are NOT helping you move faster. They are not helping you get things done.

The best way to get things done is to make a list of what you have to do before you begin. Then take a few moments to breathe deeply and relax. See yourself getting the first thing done. Then the next.

See yourself doing all these things without pressure, without tension – without a single monkey.

Once you’ve accomplished the first thing on your list, then “clear the computer screen.”

Let your mind go blank. Compartmentalize. What you just accomplished is now done. Congratulate yourself.

Now see the next thing being accomplished. Center and focus. Then hop to it and do it.

You might think juggling three things at once is the key to getting things done.

You might think that feeling overwhelmed, slammed, swamped and beaten bloody are better ways to ponder your daily “to do list.”

I don’t think so.

Take a moment to visualize all the stress monkeys on your back. Then see all of them going away. See yourself totally focused and totally relaxed – in the flow.

I challenge you to do this.

Stop scratching your head. Relax, smile, breathe and focus.

Do this for the next thing on your list today. Then on the next. And so on. See how many things you can knock out in a spirit of calm and relaxation.

I’m betting you’ll be surprised.

Matthew Furey


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