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Welcome to the Official Site of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind. This is where we do as the good doctor, Maxwell Maltz, did for so many years. We heal internal scars. We give you an emotional face lift. We transform the agonizing pain of defeat, failure, frustration and loneliness into courage, confidence, love, gratitude and peace of mind. We help you reach your goals by showing you how to remove the obstacles that you think are standing in your way.
As a reconstructive plastic surgeon, Dr. Maltz realized that although “plastic surgery” benefited 0.5% of the population, the other 99.5% had unresolved emotional scars from the past, and that these could be removed by changing your self-image. Once these internal scars were irradiated, what followed was a life of success and happiness with you reaching “the greatest port in the world: peace of mind.”
On this blog, I will be giving you Psycho-Cybernetics success tips for transforming your self-image, as well as making recommendations on books, courses and seminars that will take you to the next level. Make sure you subscribe to our email list as well because we have special offers that you’ll want to see.
Matt Furey, President, Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Inc.
December 2nd, 2016
Throughout the ages the great ones disagree on a number of topics, but when it comes to the use of your imagination and the power of your thoughts, they get into single file.
“Imagination is more important thank knowledge.” – Albert Einstein
“You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” – Mark Twain
“Imagination is the elixir of life.” – P.T. Barnum
“The power of imagination makes us infinite.” – John Muir
I can go on and on with examples such as these, but perhaps my favorite is the way my wife would say it:
“No imagination – no food.”
Oh yes, the naysayers scramble, sneer and squirm as they opine: “You really think your imagination helps you create what you want? How can it do so.”
These questions, incidentally, are from the same people who scoff about the importance of breathing, as if your very life doesn’t depend upon it.
The mere questioning of the power of imagination shows a clear misunderstanding and ignorance of how the human brain works. What the scoffers are essentially saying is, “I don’t think my brain has anything to do with anything I do.”
They’re also revealing, without realizing it, that they have no idea what a hippocampus is, or the frontal lobes, or where their memories and knowledge are stored.
My favorite line is when the sneerers say, “I don’t think about it. I just do it.”
So you took action without any thought whatsoever?
How is that possible? Explain that one to me so I can present it to my neighbor, who happens to be a neuroscientist.
Another great line comes from those who study Eastern thought: “You teach all this self-image stuff – but the reality is there is no self.”
To this statement I reply: “Is there a spirit or a soul?”
“Oh yes, you have a spirit and a soul. There just isn’t a self.”
“Great, so call it soul-image if that makes you feel better.”
To recap, these so-called intellectuals believe your imagination doesn’t serve a valuable purpose, it’s just loitering in the lobby of your brain. Deep breathing is not important because you can survive on very shallow breaths. And best of all, there is no self.
Let me give you the straight scoop from personal and professional experiences, wherein I’ve succeeded at a high-level in several endeavors:
When you are blocked, when you can’t seem to achieve, when you can’t get good grades, when you can’t get yourself to take action, when you don’t believe you can get physically fit or accomplish something BIG – you need a revamping of your imagination.
Jump into action all you want. Use your will power as much as you can.
And soon, you’ll run out of steam and be out of gas.
With your use of IMAGINATION, however, you tap into the seemingly infinite and unlimited powers of the brain.
Show me the mental images you have ruminating in your brain and I’ll easily and accurately predict where you’re heading in life.
Let me hear the way you speak about yourself and your life and I’ll quickly ascertain the type of results you can expect to achieve.
I’ll close now by repeating my wife’s line, which really should be a Chinese Proverb:
“No imagination – no food.”
P.S. Want to learn how to use your imagination in a way that puts the food you want on your table, the kind of clothes you want on your body, and the kind of home you want to house yourself and your family? This is a small part of what will be revealed at The Undiscovered, Unrevealed and Unparalleled Secrets Seminar being held in February. I look forward to seeing you there.
December 1st, 2016
Last week, toward the end of one of my walks, I called to speak with my treasured friend, Mark.
Mark lives in San Diego, so an 8 AM call is 5 AM in his area.
My initial call went directly to voicemail. Per usual, I left no message.
Later on I called again. Same result.
Over the next few days I made umpteen calls – all of which went to voice mail immediately.
Now that has never happened before, so I began to get concerned. I continued to call all the numbers I had for Mark, all to no avail.
At 11:38 PM on Monday, after waving goodbye to a friend who was with me for a 3-mile copywriting jaunt, I went in the house and immediately received a text from Mark.
“Ah,” I sighed. “I finally hear from Sasquatch. I wonder how he’s doing.”
I opened the text and the opening words communicated that the sender was someone else.
Twas Mark’s sister, instead.
The news she gave me sent shockwaves through my central nervous system.
Mark was no longer playing Sasquatch in San Diego.
The man who survived not just one, but TWO collisions with 18-wheeler semi-trucks was gone.
I called Mark’s sister and she gave me the details. I started texting everyone I coach who knew Mark on a personal level from our meetings.
Everyone was in shock.
I’m not sure how I slept through the night. The next morning I got up and walked another three miles, during which time I openly sobbed.
Oftentimes, over the years, I’d be talking to Mark as I walked, going over my latest musings and writings, my most recent ideas and breakthroughs.
In fact, when I kept calling Mark all last week, it was to read him the copy I was going to put up about my forthcoming seminar – which HE WOULD BE ATTENDING – as he never missed a Furey seminar, going all the way back to 2005.
Today, as I walk through my home I look at the chair Mark used to plop into when I’d have him over for discussions on tai chi and other martial and fitness disciplines.
Mark had a pair of ears that were always there for me or anyone else.
Each summer I’d visit San Diego, in part because I love the city, but most importantly because I wanted to have a few hours in splendid communication with Mark – as we walked around Gas Lamp district, enjoyed a grass-fed burger, followed by a chewable cigar and a ship-load of laughs.
So long Mark Ferris, my truly treasured friend, the man I dubbed the “Sasquatch from SoCal.” Your presence on this Earth meant the world to me. Rest safely and in peace.
I’ll be thinking of you as I walk.
P.S. Life can be unpredictable – and often when you least expect it. That’s precisely why I believe in living life to the FULL – with gusto and enthusiasm. That’s exactly why I am having a seminar in February that will teach you how to leave your thumbprint on the world, how to achieve goals and dreams that matter to you and your family.
You have this LIFE – LIVE IT NOW to the very best of your ability. Do things that not only give your life meaning, but leave a legacy while immortalizing the contributions you made.
November 30th, 2016
“Nobody ever ‘splained it to me the way you just did.”
That’s what a friend and client told me when he came by the home-office for a consultation.
Instead of sitting and talking, we got up and moved. Outdoors – for more than three miles.
The walk didn’t just help him feel better physically; it sharpened his mind. He began thinking better thoughts because the cobwebs were cleared from his noggin. He began thinking with positivity and equanimity. He got into a state of flow.
I’m always puzzled at how someone who signs up for tips on mind power, self-image, goal achievement, and so on – thinks that information on the power of a daily walk, or deep breathing exercises are “irrelevant” to their situation.
Or those who want fitness information don’t want to hear about the value of walking.
Walking, as Ted Nicholas always says, is “the unsung HERO of exercise (emphasis mine).”
Want to live 100 or more years in great health? Want to be what the Chinese called “immortal?”
Then you better put one foot in front of the other because the centenarians, by and large, are daily walkers. Three miles is usually the magic number for living to and past 100 in China.
And this three miles daily jaunt is in addition to everything else you’re doing physically.
You can do Combat Conditioning, weight training, boxing, taiji or yoga – and it still doesn’t negate the value of connecting your feet to the Earth.
Walking is good for body, soul and the soles of your feet – which incidentally have all the acupoints for your entire body.
I walk daily before I write.
I walk at night to clear my mind.
And I walk in reverse to rid myself of negative emotion. I dare you to feel angry, aggressive, hostile, violent or sad while walking in reverse. There truly is a reason for the adage, “Take a step back” when someone is upset. When you move backward you give yourself space, room to digest and time to understand what is truly going on.
Does any of the above ever apply to you or anyone you know?
I don’t know how it couldn’t unless you’re not human and in that particular case, you’re probably not reading this.
All for now.
P.S. Another superior exercise for your soul is writing. And I’ll be teaching you how to not only write, but to write so well you command attention in the marketplace for years, perhaps even decades – maybe even way beyond your lifetime. 100 years later? Wouldn’t that be something spectacular? Discover how at my February 2017 seminar in Tampa. Click this link to enroll NOW.
November 23rd, 2016
Two weeks ago an elderly gentleman went for a walk with his handy cane. On his second lap around the block, the man of 93 years lost balance and fell. Instead of falling forward onto the concrete, he landed on the soft grass and was uninjured. No scratches, scrapes or bruises.
Being this gentleman is my father, you can probably imagine how grateful I was to check on him and find him reading in his chair, acting as if nothing happened. Deep down, though, I’m certain he was immensely grateful.
A few days after my father’s slip, a boy of 18 stepped off a golf cart that had come to a complete stop. Somehow he lost his balance and fell backward, hitting his head on a curb. His fate was not so fortunate and I feel great sorrow in telling you he didn’t live to see another day.
Anytime you slip and fall, you might think it’s no big deal. You might think it’s a small matter. I say it’s a good idea to be grateful regardless.
This morning my brother called to see if he could come over and train with me. Although still a bit tired from a late night workout and a pile of things to do first, I told him to meet me at 9 AM.
He showed up at 8:55, interrupting my reading time.
I opened the door and greeted him with a smile as our ever-friendly dog ran circles around him to show his excitement.
After putting on my shoes in the garage, my brother stepped on the scale.
“Wow, this says I’m at 224 pounds,” he crowed. “That means I’m down 35 pounds since I started on this program. And I’m wearing shoes and sweat pants.”
“Let me see that,” I replied. “Are you sure you adjusted the scale correctly?”
I walked over and watched him weigh in once again. He was definitely 224.
“This means your weight is currently around 221 pounds,” I exclaimed. “You’re doing good work.”
“I feel great,” he said.
“I can certainly understand why,” I smiled, as I hit the garage door opener.
The two of us walked a hearty three miles as we talked about philosophical ideas and personal productivity habits.
I told him about my longish list of daily to do’s – and how it is so gargantuan there is no possible way I can get it all done in a day, much less two or three.
So I broke it down into various categories and sub-categories. I looked at the things I could do two or three times per week instead of daily. I looked at what I could work on for five minutes per day instead of an hour or more – and how I’d be far better off with five minutes instead of nothing.
I told him how grateful I felt to have figured out new ways to get more living out of life.
Small amounts of time doing something I want to do is better than no time at all.
Looking for and finding the time to do more, be more and experience more – and finding out there “is time” – provided you look for it, is a profound experience.
If you don’t look for time, you won’t find it.
Small chunks of time are immensely valuable. They may seem unimportant – but they’re just as important as big chunks. Afterall, we can greatly influence our lives and the lives of others with a quick smile or frown – or a kind or malicious comment.
In a split-second, we can uplift another person or make someone feel embarrassed or humiliated.
Ponder this idea as you prepare for Thanksgiving.
Be grateful for the small stuff in your life, not just what is so enormous it’s obvious to all.
Be grateful for every breath, for every step, for every day of good health, for every good night’s sleep, for every friend or family member you have.
Be grateful for time itself. The big chunks of it – and the small portions.
Most importantly, be grateful for your spiritual connection, as well as the family and friends you have. Cherish the time you have with them as well as the time you have for everything else that is important to you.
P.S. Stay tuned for an announcement on Friday regarding my forthcoming seminar – as well as an opportunity to get some of my “back by popular demand” programs.
November 3rd, 2016
Early this morning, the Chicago Cubs accomplished a seemingly unattainable goal that they were cursed and hexed from ever achieving.
The Billy Goat Curse was lifted and Cubs’ fans the world over can now celebrate as they exhale. Yes, 108 years of agony are no more.
With their exhale, Cubs’ fans are partaking in at least half of the “secret sauce” for winning the BIG ONE.
What’s the other half?
Well, that would be the inhale.
You’re telling me that inhaling and exhaling are part of the Cubs’ secret?
That is correct.
In fact, I’ve written about the powers of deep breathing exercises in many of my products over the years – and for one reason, the exercises work “miracles.”
Just by learning to tap into the power of your breath, your entire experience of life can be dramatically and inarguably altered for the better.
I continue to write about the glories of deep breathing exercises because they are proven to be incredibly effective at helping a person improve his or her life in ANY AREA.
Before the start of Game Six, I listened to two radio announcers talking about what the Cubs needed to do strategically to play at their best. One announcer told the other, “They need to breathe deeply.”
“Well, haha, if they win tonight doing that, what are you going to say before Game Seven?”
Dr. Tom Hanson, author of Heads Up Baseball (an updated and expanded edition is coming out next month), told me this morning that he overheard the players in the dugout discussing staying calm under pressure by… you guessed it… breathing deeply.
Hmmm, could it be for real?
Well, let’s look at this: A few months ago I read an article that asked the question, “Where does all the fat go when you lose weight?”
Turns out that a large portion of excess fat is exhaled into the atmosphere.
Truth is, if you want to be physically stronger and more focused in any type of athletic or martial arts endeavor, you tap into a new level of ability when you understand the mechanics of deep breathing.
The same holds true, psychologically speaking, when taking an exam, giving a speech, writing a report or performing before others. Not only will you feel more grounded and relaxed while engaged, you’ll probably do far better as well.
From experience we know that when we withhold our breath we perform less powerfully and less gracefully.
This is why it’s vitally important to remember the following phrase:
Your Breath is Your POWER.
Taking charge of every breath you will ever take is part of an ongoing journey that is calling out to you.
Mastery of your breath is a lifetime endeavor. On a daily basis you scan your body for physical tension and explore your mind for psychological roadblocks, all of which can be released through guided deep breathing exercises.
I’m looking forward to covering these breathing exercises in great detail at my forthcoming seminar in February, wherein I show how they apply to the art and science of writing.
For now, hats off to the Cubs for using this secret so effectively.
Breathe it, Feel it, Do it!
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November 2nd, 2016
Some months ago the headlines blared, “Sitting is the new smoking.”
In virtual lockstep, people began to parrot the proclamation. “Stop sitting.
It’s the new smoking.”
From behind the waterfall, I’m watching this spectacle unfold, as I laugh.
If you really believe sitting is synonymous with smoking, then prove it by:
a. Removing all desks and chairs from all schools.
b. Create sitting sections in restaurants and bars. Just as there used to be smoking sections,
how about sitting rooms?
c. Get rid of all the chairs people in authority sit in when passing laws, making judgments
or pontificating on the future of humankind.
d. Make a new law which states that sitting is akin to second-hand smoke and disallow people to sit at
any time wherein they “should” be moving their booty.
e. Begin creating stand-up automobiles, trains and planes.
f. Banish all lazee-boy recliners from planet Earth.
Now that you’ve seen my view of these matters from the realm of ridiculous ridiculing, you
may be prone to say, “But they didn’t mean it that way.”
Well, if you didn’t actually mean that sitting is the new smoking, then don’t write it
Sitting is one of the most valuable activities we will ever engage in – when we’re active.
We sit to eat, think, contemplate, meditate, mediate, communicate, exercise, read, write, sew, draw and
compose music. All of the above are active methods of sitting.
As for passive sitting in front of the boob and booty tube – well, I”m not a fan of that. Strange as it
may appear, I don’t watch television. I’m unplugged from the set and the controls that tend to throw
so many peoples’ lives into disarray.
The situation for too many sloths in society today is NOT that they sit – it’s that sitting is virtually
all they do – and most of it is passive. All day long you lose hours of your life watching other people show their
booty to you on the tube.
Tonight is Game Seven of Major Leauge Baseball’s Whirld Series.
Won’t I be watching this historic victory by the Cubs? Don’t I want to see their 108-year cycle of losing come to an
So I must be rooting for the Indians, then.
Neither. As a friend of mine said last year, “I hope they both lose.”
Truth is I’ll be tuned in to the game in a way that maximizes the use of my imagination. Instead of watching it play out
on the screen – I listen to the game over the radio as I go for a walk or engage in other forms of exercise. While doing
so I must engage and use my imagination in order to follow the action. To stay on top of the action, I must be able to picture what’s going on in the theater (or baseball diamond) of my mind.
I sincerely believe that television has caused a massive deterioration of the brain, worldwide. Why? Because you don’t
have to picture or imagine anything. It’s all done for you. And having everything done for you is playing a dangerous
game. It may be more comfortable or convenient – but overtime it leads to feelings of uselessness and helplessness.
I’m not asking you to follow my lead and give up television and replace it with exercise while listening to ball games on
the radio, but if you want to become a virtuoso in the realm of creative imagination, will power and action, it may be worth investigating.
P.S. If you’re interested in audio downloads of Theater of the Mind and some of my other programs, go to
audible.com. You can also pick up a copy of Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded at amazon.com
November 1st, 2016
To all my friends from Psycho-Cybernetics.com and/or MattFurey.com:
YES, it’s been a while. It’s also been a whirl.
A whirl-wide journey, that is.
Not long ago I returned from an extended stay in China, where I was “manipulated and coerced” to willingly practice one of my foremost passions, the art of Taijiquan, aka Tai Chi.
For the second-straight year, I dutifully acquiesced to torture of body and mind, and today I’m much better for having undergone this rigorous and vigorous training.
My previous understanding of peace of mind was at an elementary level compared to the present, and for what it’s worth – yes, I am still engaged in improving upon this key component of success – and so is anyone else who is honest about it.
As Dr. Maxwell Maltz eloquently wrote so many years ago, peace of mind is “the greatest port in the world.” It’s the highest goal. With peace of mind, you’ve got everything; without it, you have nothing. At the same time, you don’t get to stay at this port just because you arrived; you must continue to work on staying there.
Naturally, this enhanced level of harmony allows me to expand on what I’ve previously taught with far greater clarity and precision. It also makes room for other products and courses that I’ve wanted to make available for many years.
Well, I’m ready now.
Here’s an example: This coming February 2-4, I’ll be conducting a seminar with the legendary Ted Nicholas, my earliest and primary mentor, aka the 7-Billion Doll-ar Man, in the field of self-publishing.
Ted and I have become good friends over the years, and this past Spring, we got together numerous times to discuss some of the “Unrevealed Secrets” in the journey toward financial, psychological and emotional freedom, as well as how to remain youthful, vibrant and truly alive as you supposedly “age.”
From our perspective, we don’t “age” – we “youth.”
From our creatively alive imaginations, we believe in getting younger with each passing year – not older.
That’s why we’ve put together the Undiscovered Secrets Seminar wherein we will teach you how to market a successful business while making yourself younger by utilizing the greatest tools ever invented: the PEN and the SPOKEN WORD.
As the saying goes, “The pen is mightier than the sword.” The same is also true of the spoken word that was committed to paper first.
Yes, you can win a physical battle with a sword.
But armed with a pen, you will win the most important battle you ever face.
You will win the battle over yourself.
The pen and the spoken word are mightier than swords as well as any other weapon.
I’ll be back tomorrow with more, but mark my words, the forthcoming seminar on The Undiscovered Secrets will be the most sensational, unique and transformational event you will ever attend.
P.S. Here’s an intriguing bit of know-how. When you use a PEN to write in the most advantageous manner, you trigger the brain to grow in a way that cannot be duplicated with other types of writing. In fact, the mere act of writing the way we’ll be teaching you causes something called “steroidogenesis” – or the creation of natural steroids in the body. Isn’t that something? I’m eager to tell you more. Tune in.
May 25th, 2016
Today’s message will rattle a few cages and ruffle a number of feathers, including those of some friends who subscribe to what I call the “F-U-N Philosophy.”
Before I continue you may want to plant your feet on terra firma in order to consider my words more deeply.
Or you can turn on your favorite loud music, the television as well – and grab some rattles to shake as you read.
You might even experiment with both methods to see which one helps you retain the information better.
By the way, I guess I should forewarn you that this email will be a High-Test piece of copy.
High-Test, naturally, meaning high testosterone.
Here we go…
This morning I met with a client at 6:30 A.M. The first words I spoke to him were not, “Hi, hello, how are you? how’s it going?” or any reasonable facsimile thereof. Shown below is how I/We began:”
“Fred, let me ask you a question. Do you think the Great Wall of China was built by people having fun?”
“Uh, I don’t think so,” said Fred.
“How about the Golden Gate Bridge?”
“Negative on that one, as well, sir.”
“You were up early to play the piano, weren’t you?”
“Yes, I was.”
“Do you play the piano because it’s fun.”
Fred hesitated then replied, “I play it because I want to get good at playing it.”
“How often do you think about how much fun it is to play piano?”
“I never think about the fun. I do it because I love it and enjoy getting better.”
“Are there days you’ve practiced that were not fun?” I questioned.
“Yes, of course, but I also realize those practices are important, so I stay with it. If I only practiced or trained when it was fun, I’d never get anywhere. Getting better takes work and sometimes work, quite frankly, sucks.”
As the session with Fred continued, I elaborated further on my theories about fun (as well as feelings). I’ll cover “feelings” in another email, but for now I choose to stay on point.
There are many well meaning teachers, coaches, parents and mentors who have, in my non-humble opinion, erroneous ideas about “FUN.” Everything is supposed to be fun – otherwise you shouldn’t be involved in it. If you’re involved in sports, music, dance, theater or computer software development, fun is IN – everything unenjoyable is out.
Yet, this is not how a successful career or moment in time is created. If you want to write a book, the fun part may be coming up with the idea – but the actual task of writing each day can be absolutely dreadful and laborious. And there’s no amount of marijuana, booze or pharmaceutical prescriptions that will belie this fact. Each and every day you will do battle with an enemy that Stephen Pressfield, author of The War of Art, calls “Resistance” – and yes, he uses the capital R.
Resistance is omniscient. It knows when you’re beginning to weaken and at that very moment encourages you to go easy, to be a slacker, to not give it everything you have, to give up.
This is when the Confucian ideal of “duty” is not such a bad idea. Instead of looking for “fun” – you think of what you want to do as a duty. You can figure out clever ways to make your duty more enjoyable, yes, even fun. At the same time, you don’t make fun the objective. Fun is a foregone conclusion for those truly doing what they love to do. There are many who will never say they do because it’s fun; it is their duty.
In the realm of athletics and other performance arts, coaches can be seen and heard admonishing their students to NOT be tight, to be free and loose. At this point they often advise to “just go out there and have fun.”
I am in agreement with this advice, IF the person is tight or tense. If he or she is already relaxed, if he’s focused and concentrated to begin with, why give any advice at all. Sit and enjoy the tranquility or an undisturbed mind. It’s a rare gift in this world – yet, I assure you the Shaolin Temple in China is filled with monks who live peaceful, enjoyable, austere lives without one iota of thought as to whether or not their existence is fun.
As I told Fred this morning, “Mastery isn’t about fun. It’s about getting better at something; then getting good at it; then very good; then absolutely phenomenal. Once you reach the apex of the mountain, you continue on the same course by adding another skill, another language, another attribute, another art. Always adding something else because this is what keeps you young, this is what keeps you vibrant – and in simple modern day neuroscience, it’s the key to brain longevity.”
Learn something new everyday. Most people stay with the familiar – and you don’t want to be similar to “most people” – do you?
If you do, then go out there and have fun. Do whatever you feel.
If you prefer mastery – or if you want to be at least decent at something, then don’t choose that which you abhor. Choose something you enjoy; something fun. Just don’t place an expectation of infinite fun on what you’re doing. Some days will not be fun. Some days you’ll strike out three or four times – and I don’t care how you want to couch that experience, it’s NOT FUN and neither should it be.
Failing, making mistakes, having setbacks is not a source of pride and joy. Yet, the faster you can transform these experiences into the seeds of equivalent or greater benefits, the faster you’ll get back to doing your duty – or having fun.
Fun isn’t really a dirty word – but it quickly becomes one when it’s the objective rather than a state of being.
Be it. Do it. Live it.
P.S. When you reach the mountaintop, that’s when you realize what a blast you’ve had along the way. You can have similar feelings at the start or during various stages as well – but you better pay more attention to your feet and your direction than your fun feelings if you want to make it all the way to the top.
May 24th, 2016
A week ago today I went to the bowling alley for the first time in approximately 12 years – in part to demonstrate to a client how visualization in action works.
The last time I bowled was in China, wherein I hit my best-ever mark of 181, with an all-or-nothing style of throwing strikes with minimal technical skill. When I bowl, I view my mission as straightforward and simplistic – cause an eruption when the ball whacks the pins.
From the first time I picked up a bowling ball to the present, I’ve played in less than 100 games and have received zero instruction regarding technique, set-up, approach, how to hold the ball or how to deliver a hook.
In fact, until last week, the thought of taking up the sport with gusto and enthusiasm never occurred to me. I was completely oblivious to the obvious; people actually purchase their own balls and shoes and bags and compete all over the whirld in this sport. It’s no different than golf, baseball and all these other endeavors people are attracted and addicted to playing.
Yet, my perceptions were dramatically altered when I called my friend, Will, after playing three games, to give him the report. The first game was a throwaway; a warmup. I didn’t even crack the three-figure mark, bowling a measly 94.
Then I got seriously involved, psychologically and physiologically speaking.
I took my time and focused on my preparatory alignments, getting into a tai chi type of position wherein I started focusing on my feet and worked northward. Additionally and perhaps most importantly, I formed a gigantic mental image of what I wanted: a strike.
I pictured every single pin being shattered into submission as I breathed life into the core of my physicality.
Then I glissaded across the floor and unleashed a torrential outpouring of “fury.”
What a difference a thought makes – especially a high-voltage thought such as the one I was ruminating on in my imagination.
I threw six strikes in the second game and five in the third. That’s eleven strikes in total – after having only one in the first game.
Was I visualizing in the first game? Was I using the powers of my imagination? Was I breathing deeply?
Most certainly not the way I was in games dos and tres.
I was going through the motions and mechanics of what I thought would work. Yet, the reality is, at the end of the day, technique will only get you part of the way to your goal. It won’t take you all the way. As Albert Einstein reported, “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.”
In my conversation with Will after the games, when he heard I bowled a 176, he remarked, “And that was with a house ball and shoes that 1,000 people have already worn. Just think what you’ll do when you get your own custom drilled ball, your own shoes….”
Will planted an idea in my imagination I’d never considered before. What would happen if I got my own ball and shoes? What about getting some instruction, as well?
I can tell you from experience, and from what I’ve observed of coaches in all sports and physical endeavors – any instruction I receive will be entirely physical. It’ll be all about the mechanics, the physics, the structure of the ball and the dynamics at play. If the psycho-physical part of the game is covered at all, I’ll be delighted as well as surprised.
Most coaches actually believe that excellence is simply a matter of proper mechanics and genetics.
Mechanics and genetics are factors that may influence your success but they are NOT all they’re cracked up to be, either.
Epi-genetics can trump genetics in cases that appear hopeless. And when it comes to mechanics, although helpful and useful, consider this: My friend, Will, is a mollydooker (Australian for Lefty) and he bowled a perfect game (300 score) with his weight on the wrong foot when he released the ball.
Then he got taught the “right” way and was never the same until he went back to doing it the way that came naturally for him.
This doesn’t mean that mechanics coaches are always wrong – but they are almost always off target with their body-only approach. When you make the physical body the most significant aspect of what is going on – you’ve neglected the bowling ball shaped apparatus on the top of your neck that really holds the keys to the kingdom.
If this is not the case, then how do people without hands learn to play the piano? How do people without arms learn to shoot the bow and arrow? How do people with stumps for all four limbs learn to wrestle?
It’s an intangible, mostly indecipherable quality that is not easily quantifiable. Call it heart. Call it desire. Call it intention. Call it imagination. Call it will power. Call it all of the above.
Whatever you choose to name it – you cannot see it – but you can most definitely observe the uncanny results it creates.
Be it. Do it. Live it.
P.S. Make sure you retrieve a copy of Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded – then begin the implementation of your visualization skills in a positive manner by working on a game or skill with numbers that prove the techniques are working.
May 5th, 2016
Today’s my 35th birthday (this calculation is based upon going back in time) and as I was fishing through my files to send yet another book off to be published, I found the following magazine column I wrote back in 2006 – a scant ten years ago.
You’re going to enjoy reading this article, especially in light of recent surveys and tests, wherein you will find the MAJORITY of our population, both children and adults, are addicted to their “smart phones.”
Just got back from a walk along the beach with a couple clients. While trapsing across the sand and shells – and avoiding the jelly fish that are in the shallow waters, I explained to them the importance of “taking a pause” from technology.
As great as our computers, cell phones and other gadgets are – I believe they can also be a curse.
People today are MORE mesmerized by their gadgets than anything else. And with this techno-hypnosis comes amnesia for WHO and WHAT created the technology.
People created these gadgets with the power of thought.
But those who use the gadgets forget that YOU are the owner of the greatest Super Computer in the Universe. YOU are both a broadcasting and receiving station.
YOU are the one who creates – not the other way around.
In my seminars I don’t allow any techno gadgets of any kind. At first, the techno-addicts are irritated. But, if they’re open, they soon realize I’m doing them a favor.
Some cannot stand it so they have attempted to go unnoticed,
sitting in the back row with their smart
device on their lap, under the table, scrolling
emails when they could be listening to a riveting message. Even if the person gets away with it, temporarily, what has he gained?
I carry a cell phone with me much of the time – yet I rarely answer it unless it is family or someone I am expecting a call from. I have no problem pausing and letting the thing ring without answering. Doesn’t bother me if someone is angry about this either.
The other day I was talking to a guy who said, “You know, remember when we didn’t have voice mail, email or FAX. If you weren’t home and the phone rang – you still managed to go on living. Now with all the technology, people feel they can’t get anything done even though they are “on call” all the time.”
Use technology to enhance your life – but don’t let it control you. Know when to say no.
Take a pause. It’s good to give yourself space.
Take time to sit quietly and breathe. Breathe into the Super Computer within. Delete the garbage. Make space for new information.
Picture the aspects of your life you’re grateful for. Remember your happiest moments. Relive them and rejuvenate yourself.
And for heaven’s sake – do not sleep with your phone next to you. Put it in another room and take a pause.
Do the above and I guarantee you’ll get more fulfillment out of life.
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