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When to Tell Everyone About Your Goals

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It took a long time for me to learn this lesson. I would come up with a goal, get excited about it, then make the mistake of telling everyone about it.

But what a minute?

Isn’t announcing your goal to others one of the keys to making it happen?

It can be, if you’re talking to those who can and will support and guide you, otherwise it is often a monumental mistake.

One of the perils of announcing your goals to “everyone” is the fact that there are many who will feign outward applause and support while secretly hoping you fail.

These people will clap their hands and tell you that your goal is great, that your accomplishment will be a “slam dunk,” that you’re a genius and so on. Afterward, for some strange reason, all the wind that was pushing your sail along the seas reverses course and you feel disempowered.

This negative feeling lets you know that the creation you had in mind is being countered.

When you are an advanced creator, you can override the negativity of others. You can even use other peoples’ doubts and projections to propel your vessel forward.

But when you’re starting out, the unforeseen negativity can derail you. So you are wise to “zip the lip,” to only confide in those who are proven winners who want to see you succeed.

Over 30 years ago, I announced a goal I had to some people I was coaching. Afterward I sensed that my energy for the goal had been swiped. I was perplexed.

In a discussion about this situation with one of my clients, who happened to be a published author, among many other accomplishments, he said:

“It’s like you have all these invisible birds around you that are energizing you and giving you ideas, but as soon as you tell everyone about them, they fly away.”

If you insist on telling the world what your goals are, consider doing so silently as a test. Notice if the energy within you grows when you only tell those who you know are on your side.

Silence is golden, and for many good reasons.

Matt Furey

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Friday Finisher #4

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Ask yourself:

Do I tend to make something simple more difficult than it needs to be? If so, what’s the payoff in doing this?

How can I take something that is “hard work” and make it easier as well as better?

Your answers to these questions will expand your horizons and your skills.

Matt Furey

A big “thanks” to all of you who responded to the message shown below. I’ll be in touch with you next week regarding this event. For those of you who haven’t responded yet, here’s the information:

Want to create more, write more and be more – regardless of your age or any other factors? Well, I’m currently gearing up for an all-new Intensive – Creatively Writing for Your Life, and for More Life – with a brilliant friend who is waaaay older than me (I’m almost 63), and he has no intention of ever slowing down. He’s a role model for me, and I’m certain the two of us together over Zoom will inspire you beyond belief. Drop me an email at goals@psycho-cybernetics.com to get on the list to receive early bird information.

Why I Became a Lefty and a Right

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Some people are forced to use their right hand. I forced myself to use my left and doing so put me into my right mind. I became a child again; a beginner again.

I began with brushing my teeth, then shaving, then writing in cursive.

After this I took up bowling left-handed.

Surprisingly, after six months, my left-handed bowling skills were superior to my right.

How could this be?

Your brain is neuroplastic; and much more so than you can imagine. There’s much about yourself that has never been tapped because you never give the other side of you a chance.

If you’re ever caught up and confused, give the other side of you a chance. If you’re a righty, veer left. If you’re a lefty, swerve to the right.

Your brain will thank you for it.

It’s also how you can become a lefty and still be a write-tee without veering into politics.

Matt Furey

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Want to create more, write more and be more – regardless of your age or any other factors? Well, I’m currently gearing up for an all-new Intensive – Creatively Writing for Your Life, and for More Life- with a brilliant friend who is waaaay older than me (I’m almost 63), and he has no intention of ever slowing down. He’s a role model for me, and I’m certain the two of us together over Zoom will inspire you beyond belief. Drop me an email at goals@psycho-cybernetics.com to get on the list to receive early bird information.

Give Up Trying

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“When you give up trying your trials are over. It’s the doing that makes you a DOER.”

Matt Furey

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Want to create more, write more and be more – regardless of your age or any other factors? Well, I’m currently gearing up for an all-new Intensive – Creatively Writing for Your Life, and for More Life- with a brilliant friend who is waaaay older than me (I’m almost 63), and he has no intention of ever slowing down. He’s a role model for me, and I’m certain the two of us together over Zoom will inspire you beyond belief. Drop me an email at goals@psycho-cybernetics.com to get on the list to receive early bird information.

What Your Inner Face Says About You

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A few days ago someone told me he just learned how to recognize a psychopath.

The method is simple. You look at the forehead to see if there are any wrinkles. If there aren’t any wrinkles, the person has no empathy, and if someone has no empathy, he or she could be “nuts.”

Will this wrinkle-reading method apply to young children? I don’t think so.

And do wrinkles on the forehead prove someone is NOT a psychopath? I doubt it.

But in some cases, how you wrinkle up can be an indicator. For example, if you smile a lot, this can often show up as “crow’s feet.”

Determining who is good and who isn’t just by their wrinkles is an intriguing subject, and it’s not new. In Ancient China, the practice was called xiang mian (相面), or “face reading.”

There is also something called phrenology, the study of bumps on the skull and what they reveal about a person’s character.

Being a plastic surgeon, what did Dr. Maltz think about this subject. Not much.

Personally, I studied Chinese face reading over 30 years ago. I especially enjoyed learning that if you have protruding ears it is a sign of great musical talent and ability.

My ears protrude much further than the norm, and yet my musical talents remain latent. As for superstar musicians, I’ve seen plenty whose ears don’t protrude at all.

Another good one is whether or not you have prominent cheekbones, something frowned on in China but considered glamorous in the west. I looked at the cheekbones of our politicians. Some, such as Hillary Clinton, have bulbous cheeks – others, not much at all.

Then I looked at chins. A big chin supposedly means you aren’t sensitive to criticism and can “take one on the chin.” Jay Leno has the biggest chin I’ve ever seen, does that mean he is immune to criticism? Or that he can get struck with a prize fighter’s knockout blow and laugh it off?

It’s interesting and intriguing to learn about these ideas, but a much bigger factor, the factor that determines your future is your self-image – what you are picturing on the screen of your mind.

Altering and adjusting how you see yourself is the most important ball game of them all because the external is a reflection of the internal.

Focus on the inner and the outer will take care of itself. What your inner face says about you will show up on that outside, revealing what was on your mind.

Matt Furey

Exceed Your Expectations

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Begin your day with a goal you can see and feel yourself accomplishing.

But here’s a twist to this advice.

Because almost everyone encounters resistance, if the goal is too big, you won’t do anything to move toward it.

This is why, quite often, the smaller the goal is, the better, especially one in which your resistance to taking action is ZERO.

Keep this in mind: When your goal is smaller you bypass the resistance you have to taking action, and when you accomplish it, you spontaneously decide to upgrade it… without any resistance to doing so.

In sales, there are people who tell themselves they are going to make 50 calls per day, and then they can’t get going because their resistance to making those calls is off the charts.

But if these same people start with a number of calls they cannot resist, they get momentum and end up making more calls than they planned on. They exceed their expectations.

I know this is hard for some to believe as they’ve been taught the opposite; that being uncomfortable is the key to success.

Consider the athlete who is in “the Zone.” I’ve never seen an uncomfortable athlete crush the competition.

When you’re in the Zone, you’re locked in, zipped up and have the sense of being 10 feet tall. That’s the ideal. It’s also the real deal.

Matt Furey

Friday Finishers

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“Massive action is the action step that trips so many people up. Start with one small action until it becomes a chain reaction.”

“Life begins at conception. When you conceive of an idea and keep thinking about it, the idea grows; but if you stop thinking about it, it dies.”

“I went through a McDonald’s drive-thru today. I ordered a Woolly Mammoth Two-Ton Double with a couple blocks of cheese just to see if I could take them back in time.”

Have a great weekend, my friend!

Matt Furey

Recommended Reading – Psycho-Cybernetics 365

The Snap Effect

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Dear Matt,

I have trouble getting myself to take action in a timely manner. Could you tell me how much time there should be between getting an idea and beginning to act upon that idea?

Polly Nader

Dear Polly,

A timely manner is somewhat rude. This means that as soon as you get an idea, you rudely interrupt whatever you were doing and put it in writing. Sometimes I do this mid-conversation. When an idea comes to me, there’s no time to waste because if you don’t at least record it – it will fly off, never to return. Once the idea begins to germinate and grow, I look at the smallest action I can take to get the ball rolling, and then I get after it. You can help this process along by snapping your fingers first – or by clapping your hands.

As a sidenote, I wanted to call today’s email “The Clap Effect” – but because “clap” could be misinterpreted I went with “snap.”

But clap is what I do. I clap loud and often, sometimes to the point of making my palms red hot. This isn’t necessary but I do it anyway because I enjoy the sound of fury.

It also comes across to me as though I’m getting applause for walking on stage to compete or perform. What am I going to do after the applause, just stand there doing nothing?

Use this technique and report back to me that you did it and it works. And if you don’t do it – there’s no need for a report.

Matt Furey

Want to create more, write more and be more – regardless of your age or any other factors? Well, I’m currently gearing up for an all-new Intensive – Creatively Writing for Your Life, and for More Life – with a brilliant friend who is waaaay older than me (I’m almost 63), and he has no intention of ever slowing down. He’s a role model for me, and I’m certain the two of us together over Zoom will inspire you beyond belief. Drop me an email at goals@psycho-cybernetics.com to get on the list to receive the early bird information.

Reader Fuming About LeBron James Snub

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A reader of Psycho-Cybernetics 365 wrote to tell me how upset he was that I referred to Michael Jordan, not LeBron James, as the greatest NBA basketball player of all times.

“Everyone knows that LeBron is the greatest hoops player ever. For you to ignore all the records he’s set and the fact that he’s still playing at age 41, is beyond me. Everything I read in your book was great until I got to the section where you glorified Joran and honestly it made me want to throw your book in the garbage. You need to apologize for slighting LeBron.”

My response was as follows: “If LeBron is the greatest in your mind for all the records he’s set, that’s fine, but how do you explain all the losing?

More importantly, how do you explain the fact that Jordan, who retired for the third time in 2003, still outsells all the other current NBA players combined in shoe sales? Based upon this, my opinion of Michael Jordan will remain intact. I’m sticking with the guy who sells the most gear.”

There’s much more I can say on this topic but I’ll hold up for now, other than to say that my wife couldn’t wait to watch Jordan play – but after he retired she lost interest and there hasn’t been a single NBA superstar, much less a team, who can bring back her desire to watch.

Greatness is magnetic. And Michael Jordan was and still is the supreme magnet.

Matt Furey

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The Fat Trick

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In football and hockey, a player who scores three goals in a single game just pulled off the “hat trick.”

In baseball, a player who strikes out three times in a game is the victim of the hat trick, and if he strikes out four times, fans say that he’s now wearing the “golden sombrero.”

When it comes to losing undesirable inches of flab, there’s a technique I call the “fat trick.” This trick will make sure you’re no longer the butt of other peoples’ jokes. You’ll be the one scoring goals. You’ll no longer be the victim.

Here’s how the “Phat Trick” works:

First, you take off all your clothes and stand before a full-length, and if possible, a full-width mirror. You then stare eyeball to eyeball with the behemoth in the mirror and embrace the reality of what you see.

Second, if you’re disgusted with what you see, pinch the excess between your fingers and stare it down as you say, out loud, “It’s time for you to go, phatty. You’ve been here long enough. I’m going to get rid of you once and for all. You can take a hike, phatty. I’m letting you go. Get off my body NOW. You don’t own me anymore. I own you. Now SCRAM.”

The first time you do this you will have the sense of coming to grips with yourself. You will notice that something shifted inside.

Do this each day for one week while picturing the body you ardently desire being unveiled. After one week you will notice that your eating and exercise habits have changed, and these changes are bringing results.

Continue onward, doing this each day for another 14 days and you’ll be awestruck. You’ll see and feel the flab you pinched taking off, leaving your body. You’ll be amazed at how such a simple exercise such as this is giving you unbelievable results.

You won’t have to count a single calorie. You’ll no longer be a phat victim.

Give this exercise a daily whirl, and keep me posted on your progress.

Matt Furey

And if you want to read more about how you can use your mind to hone in on and get the results you want, I recommend you read a page a day of Psycho-Cybernetics 365. It will turn the lights on in your brain and body. Also available as an ebook and audiobook

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